Kiss a Boy for the First Time
Kissing a boy for the first time can be scary, but it does not have to be. If you know what to do, it can be fun! This article will give you lots of tips on how to kiss a boy for the first time. It will give you advice on technique and how to prepare for the kiss. These things are important as they can help guarantee you a second kiss!
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Steps
Before the Kiss
- Make sure you have a fresh breath. Fresh breath is important for kissing because you want to give the boy as many excuses as possible to keep on kissing you. Try using lifesavers or mints and always brush your teeth before you meet up with him. Remember, bad breath isn't the end of the world but avoid it if you can.
- Try not to eat strong, spicy, or garlicky food before you see him. Again, if you can't avoid it, it's not a huge deal but it's better to avoid it altogether.
- Make sure you're looking good. You can't always plan when and where you'll kiss a boy, but you can try to be prepared. If you're dressed pretty and in a way you feel comfortable, you'll have a spring in your step. That means you will be more confident. More confidence means that there's a bigger chance the boy comes back to kiss you again.
- Don't necessarily wear lip-gloss, and don't wear heavy lipstick. Lip-gloss and lipstick, especially, will rub off on your partner, making him look sparkly or sloppy, depending on the situation. Stick with lip balm instead.
- Don't wear a bunch of accessories like hats, or wear your hair so that it gets in the way. Boys like natural beauty anyway. You may want to try kissing the boy when you have your hair up, so that he focuses only on you and the kiss, not the hair tickling his face.
- Find a nice place to kiss. Public places are generally not so good for the first kiss, as you can get people staring at you or even heckling you. Try to find a place that's public, but still intimate, for you to share your first kiss.
- Try doing something to break the touch the jitters away by flirting physically. This will not only make him understand that you like him, but will also give him some time to adjust to you, so that you're not going from 0 to 60 in a second.
- Hold his hand or put your arms over his shoulders. Start moving your body so that he's much closer to you; it'll be awkward if you have to move a long way to kiss him.
- Touch his hair or face to make him know that you are interested. Gently touch his nose with your pointer finger and smile at him.
- You can even try hugging him first, and while you're still hugging him, lean back and go in for the kiss. This creates a connection from the very moment you hug.
- Make sure that you both are ready for the kiss. This means both physically and emotionally. Kissing says "I like you more than just a friend," and it's sometimes hard to save a friendship after you have a relationship. If you're not sure whether you're doing the right thing, wait until you absolutely know.
- Look at him in the eye. While he's watching you, look slowly towards his lips and back again. If he does the same to you, then he's ready. If he looks a bit uncomfortable and looks away, it's best to leave it for a while.
During the Kiss
- Move your lips towards him slowly, closing your eyes at the last second. You need to be able to see so that you can aim for his lips, but you don't want to keep your eyes open while you kiss, so close them right before your lips lock.
- Keep your eyes closed during the whole kiss. When the kiss ends, you can open your eyes and you gently pull away.
- Move into the kiss at an angle. That means if his face is straight up and down, you probably want yours tilted a bit to the left or right — whichever is more comfortable. This helps keep you from bumping noses together when you kiss.
- Use mostly your lower lip for kissing. Don't pucker up your lips like you've just had a bunch of Sour Patch Kids, or like you're kissing grandma. Keeps your lips loose and try to relax.
- Give him one long kiss. You don't have to do anything fancy to get his attention the first time.
- Your big goal is to get him to come back for seconds. Give him just enough so that he's interested, not so much that he's bored. Try to keep the first kiss to under 20 seconds if you can.
- Breathe in and out gently through your nose. Try not to breathe into his throat or onto his lips.
- Don't French kiss on the first kiss. The French kiss is an advanced kiss, so save it for when you really want to blow his mind.
- While you're kissing, try to go for a gentle open-lip kiss. This just means opening your lips a bit and maybe kissing his lower lip with both of your lips. Don't make it last too long — about 5 seconds — and be prepared to pull away soon.
- During the kiss, put your hands around his back and lean towards him. That way, you can get double the bargain! If he puts his hands around your back or waist, it means he's very protective of you and you could be onto a winner!
- If he plays with your hair or gently strokes your cheek, it's a sign that he's very in-touch with his feeling, and he definitely likes you.
- Remember to try to keep your eyes closed the whole time. No peeking! Your attention should be entirely on his lips and the kiss.
After the Kiss
- As you move away from the kiss, open your eyes. Now would be the time to take a look at the boy you've just shared a kiss with. If you did a good job, he'll be flushed, heavy-eyed, and smiling.
- Smile back at him. He may be nervous about how he kissed, so you'll probably want to convince him that he did a good job. You can do this by smiling.
- If you arms are still around him, leave them there for a few seconds before taking them away. It might feel weird if you suddenly take your hands away as soon as the kiss is done.
- Say something nice about him, if you feel like it. Sometimes, the kiss itself is enough of a statement. Sometimes, you'll want to say a little something after the kiss, like:
- "You're a good kisser."
- "I've been wanting to do that for a long time."
- Listen to what your heart tells you. So, you've finally kissed the boy that you've been dying to kiss for the last six months. What now? You have several options:
- Wait for him to make the next move. If you went in for the first kiss, maybe you think it's his turn to initiate the next kiss. Be yourself, do what you normally do, but be friendly and encouraging around him. He should try to kiss you again.
- Kiss him whenever you want to. Maybe you don't care that much about who kisses whom, as long as there's kissing. That's fine, just make sure that he's into it, too. Kissing him often is likely to lead to a relationship.
- Break off the kissing. Maybe he wasn't that good of a kisser, or he touched you in the wrong place, or you just get a bad feel from him. That's OK. Try to still be friendly around him, but don't put yourself in situations (i.e. one-on-one, private setting) where he could kiss you again.
- Remember kissing etiquette. There are some unspoken rules that you should know about kissing. Pay attention and try to follow them if you can and they make sense to you.
- Don't kiss and tell. We know — it's very easy to do. That doesn't mean it's right. What goes on between you and your crush is between you and your crush. Try not to gossip too much about it.
- Don't kiss when you are sick and likely to spread germs. Kissing is a very intimate thing, but that doesn't mean that your kissing partner wants every single part of you, including your cold. Try not to kiss when you are feeling under the weather.
- Kiss one person, not everyone. Kissing may be fun, but that doesn't mean that it sends the right message to go out and kiss everyone you want. Focus on one person you really like, try things out, and then move onto someone else if that doesn't work out. You'll be appreciated a lot more, and you'll probably be happier.
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Tips
- Close your eyes: a boy or girl with their eyes open gives the impression you're shocked or uncomfortable! Keep them closed to get a nice long first kiss.
- Different signs when kissing means different things. Get to know them! When a guy holds you in different places, here are what he's trying to tell you:
- Hands on waist — he's really into you and wants to protect you.
- Hands around back — he wants you and doesn't want to let you go. He's comfortable around you.
- Hands on arms — he likes to hold onto you and likes the way you feel.
- Hands around neck — he's wanting more.
- Hands touching face — he's really into you and can't get enough of you.
- Hands in hair — he's trying to be a gentleman
- Try to hold him where you feel most confident. Remember to make sure you don't let the kiss last too long, as it will leave him wanting more for the next time.
- Always be aware of the nonverbal signals you're sending to your guy. Keep things moving, but slowly, and you'll have good results.
- Make sure you are in a not so public place and you are comfortable with your surroundings.
- If you feel like he touched you in a bad way, you have every right to tell him not to do it again.
- When you're kissing him let him be the leader but not too much. Guys like feeling like they are in control and it's fun to have someone to hold you tight but make sure you control the kiss too and, if it's not feeling right, pull away.
- If you have a retainer make sure to take it out, otherwise your perfect kiss will be slobbery.
- Before you kiss him, try talking and make sure you really want to kiss him. Don't just go for it, he may be confused, scared or uncomfortable.
- When you walk away make sure you leave that look on his face and take a deep breath after the kiss when your leaving.
- Don't let him/her deteriorate themself. If you truly love them it doesn't matter if they are a good kisser or not. Just tell them what you think (make sure you put it nicely). It ruins their confidence and may lead to a breakup or less communication.
- Make sure it's the guy you've always wanted to kiss, or had a crush on for a very long time. Don't make your first kiss a random person!
- If you are not comfortable with a long kiss like suggested in this article, it is fine to lean up to your crush a plant a quick kiss on their lips, with your eyes closed. Then pull back and see if he was comfortable with it.
- Don't lick your lips before you kiss. You don't want a wet kiss.
- Talk to him before hand, keep a conversation going.
Warnings
- If it's your first kiss, make sure that it is just you two alone together, as kissing in front of friends can be uncomfortable. You don't want to feel like they are scrutinizing your kiss with him.
- Make sure your partner is ready, don't just jump in all of a sudden. You will both have to look at each others actions before you kiss him.
- Make sure you aren't doing it just because you're desperate; make sure you actually like him. It's not nice to have the reputation that you'll kiss anyone and everyone.
- Always be sure that you don't let the guy that you are sharing your first kiss get the wrong idea about what you want him to do towards you. Touching him in the wrong places may let him think that you want more than what you have bargained for.
- If you have braces, make sure there are no sharp bits, otherwise your partner might cut their lips or tongue!
- Remember that if you feel uncomfortable at any time you have the right to pull away. Don't do anything that you don't want to do!
- Don't chew gum; it builds saliva. Saliva is an anti-bacterial, so in moderation, it is good. But no one wants to feel like they're kissing a dog.
