Look and Feel Perfect

Looking perfect is about image and effects, rather about absolute reality. Looking perfect comes from good grooming, so as to appear neat and well presented, while feeling perfect is a subjective sense that you've done your best to have everything attended to and in its place. This article discusses grooming, style, health and attitude as a bundle of actions and characteristics you can use to look and feel perfect. However, it also pays to keep in mind that there is no such thing as perfection in any one human being and that what you're really after is aiming to be the best person you can be, flaws included.

Steps

Practicing good grooming and hygiene

  1. Maintain good hygiene. A shower or bath will do, make sure you have one every day. Use deodorant regularly to keep yourself fresh. Shave whatever parts of the body you consider are better for it (however, this does not equate to cleanliness, it's just a personal preference).
  2. Establish and follow a personal beauty routine. Both boys and girls, men and women, can benefit from regular skin cleansing. If needed, use a moisturizer and always add SPF lotions when spending time in the sun. If you shave, use products that are suitable for adding to skin post-shaving, to avoid irritating cuts or rashes.
    • Find out what you skin type is and adapt your beauty routine to suit it.
    • Young skin doesn't need a lot of products slathered on it. Don't suffocate your skin's natural processes. Even as you age, beware the sales hype over the actual need for the product and its ability to effect actual change for the better.
    • Some skin products may cause breakouts. If so, stop using them and complain to the manufacturer. They should know that their product has unsuitable side effects, not cause you to feel it's your problem.
    • Avoid using plain soap on your face as it is too drying and may contribute to spot breakouts.
  3. Keep your hair washed and brushed or combed. Use a shampoo that works for your hair type and condition it to improve softness and manageability. Shiny hair that smells delicious can help you to feel really good.
    • Dyeing your hair is another personal preference. Highlights or full color are two options, or you could use henna, chalk or natural dyes. Or, you could leave you hair just as it is, as your genetics intended.
  4. Have nice nails. Nails always must be clean and even. If you don't like to paint your nails, put on a clear coat. It helps your nails to shine and look neat. If you don't like using polish at all, keep your nails in great condition by trimming regularly and eating a healthy diet.
  5. Fix flaws that you perceive. Flaws are in the eye of the beholder, so remember that if you don't see any, that's okay too. Learning to love and accept yourself is an important part of feeling perfect as you are. However, if you want to tone down aspects of yourself that you'd rather looked different, there are some things you can try:
    • Remove acne through proper acne treatments.
    • Get a hairstyle that complements your face shape.
    • Wear contacts if you'd rather not wear glasses.
    • Use products to get rid of dandruff from your hair; couple this with healthy eating and dealing with the stress factors that are contributing to the dandruff.
    • Use makeup to contour facial features and highlight or downplay different parts of your face.
    • Change your nails if wished; wear them longer, shorter, shaped or colored. Whatever works for you.
    • Use appropriate exercise to change your body fat distribution and to contour your body as you desire.
    • Talk to a doctor if you have ongoing concerns about parts of your features that are impacting your daily life severely and discuss options.

Being stylish

  1. Wear quality clothing. Remember the adage quality over quantity and have fewer clothes but of greater quality. Choose clothes that look amazing on you and feel amazing to you.
    • Choose clothes that suit your body shape.
    • Consider using the services of a tailor to have the clothing fit you like a glove. It's more appealing than when the off-the-rack clothes sag or pinch.
    • Find a celebrity whose body shape is similar to yours. Do you like their clothing style? If so, use it to inspire your own style development.
  2. Follow the trends only if this is what you enjoy doing. Otherwise, style is something you develop over time and can be classical, quirky, hipster, natural, and so forth, all depending on your personal preference. Focus mainly on that quality aspect, whatever you choose to do.

Staying healthy

  1. Be healthy. It's always important to have a good diet and stay healthy, and it also helps your appearance to be at its best.
    • Eat healthy, you can still eat junk food, but swap a lot of it for something a lot healthier.
    • Exercise, three times a week minimum, choosing an exercise form that works for you. If you hate the gym, don't use it, find another form of exercising instead. There is no rule about gym being the sole and best solution for keeping fit.
    • Get plenty of sleep during the night, at least 7 to 8 hours depending on your own sleep needs.

Having a good attitude

  1. Be confident in yourself. Every morning look in the mirror and say "I am beautiful, I can achieve anything!". Such affirmations can help to give you confidence and self-assurance. When you feel good you tend to look good, because you can't help but project a cheerful disposition and a smile.
    • Acknowledge jealousy when you perceive it but don't make a big deal out of it. The self-assured person doesn't need validation from others and lets rude, nasty and snide comments slip by unattended to. Let your detractors wallow where they will, don't let them bring you down to their level.
  2. Be kind. Being kind is the key to being a trustworthy and respected person. Someone can be all sweet on the outside, but on the inside they can be like fire flaring up and not be genuine about their intentions or compliments. When speaking to someone, make eye contact, listen and always answer politely when they ask a question. Never tell anyone to shut up or swear at anyone, it can make them feel minimized and it can stop them from liking you. Moreover, they might tell their friends that you're not so perfect after all, and they might stop liking you too. Keep in mind that the littlest things can lead to big changes, but most of all, create the bigger impression that other people have of you.
    • Praise people behind their backs. If you praise people behind their backs, you'll look like a positive, self-possessed person, instead of someone who is always looking for trouble.
    • Avoid gossip. Respect the privacy and boundaries of other people. In turn, they'll be more inclined to accept you and not gossip about you. But if they do, shrug it off as a backhanded compliment––seeing that they feel compelled to talk about you, they're clearly paying attention to you.
  3. Treat everyone as your equal until they prove to be behaving in an inferior manner. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Even if someone does turn out to be behaving in an inferior way, don't consider yourself better than them; rather, consider yourself unwilling to behave as they do and be happy that you've taken the higher road in life.
    • Let differences be. People everywhere differ thanks to diversity. Diversity is what helps the world be such an interesting place. It's also why there's no one way of "being perfect" because it has so many differing interpretations. The best that you can draw from this is that perfection lies in tolerance toward others and grace in your dealings with everyone, especially those who differ markedly from you.
  4. Be a lifelong learner. Don't just learn things because your school, college or workplace insists that you do. Extend yourself beyond that and learn for the sake of learning, push yourself to understand that which you are challenged by and never stop learning something new about your life, your neighborhood, the world in general and the universe beyond. Your brain is plastic, waiting for new challenges to keep shaping it throughout your lifetime. So feed it well, ask questions and stuff it full of knowledge.
    • Always ask why. Learn why things work the way they do, why things matter and then you can apply that knowledge across a vast amount of information and may be correctly guessing even things you might not have learned about.
    • Use the knowledge of others. Talk with friends, family members, mentors, coworkers and teachers about their knowledge and opinions on topics. See how they would have approached a problem or learn their method of doing something. In opening your mind to new ways of thinking and doing, you should be better prepared to handle almost any challenge life, academics or work throws at you.
  5. Accept that trying to be perfect is an elusive goal. Nobody is perfect and the suggestion of perfection can leave you wanting for something that is not achievable all of your life, preventing you from ever feeling fulfilled. That's a life half-lived and you deserve better than that.

Tips

  • Be well organized. That's much of the battle amid the craziness of life won. Keep everything in its place, not just your hair and eyebrows, but your car keys, your textbooks, your makeup, your contact lists, your emails, and so forth. When you need something, know where it is. When you need someone, know how to get in touch with them. Feeling perfect is often about knowing what to do, who to talk to and where to find that perfect thing that'll do the job.
  • Try not to yell, curse or scream at other people. Remember that nobody is perfect, so don't expect perfection in turn and definitely don't deal with coming across imperfection by reacting in such negative ways to people. If you want someone to change their approach, notice what they're getting right and focus on that most, in order to encourage that instead.

Warnings

  • Nobody is perfect, so don't expect yourself to be. Everybody has their own flaws, and their virtues. If you suffer from perfectionism ruling your life, consider speaking to a therapist or counselor for advice as there are some good techniques, such as CBT, that might be of help to you. Easing off on yourself is a form of deep personal kindness.

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