Make Your Boyfriend Break up With You

Is your relationship with your boyfriend just not working out? Do you find it hard to tell your boyfriend it's over? Or can you just not bear to see his reaction if you break up with him? While sometimes it can be hard to end a relationship, the best approach is to be direct with your boyfriend and tell him you don't think your relationship is working. If you are still set on finding other avenues, however, there are ways to make your boyfriend dump you instead. If you follow a few simple steps, you could be single again in no time.

Steps

Acting Differently with Him

  1. Act distant. If you want to get rid of your boyfriend, don't return his phone calls or answer back when he texts. If you do talk to him, say you don't have time to spend with him. Make sure you also don't call him or text him first. If you make plans, break them at the last minute. He will get the hint that you don't want to spend time with him and will eventually break up with you. Or you can try not talking to him.[1]
    • When you are together, make no attempt to have deep conversations with him. Make your interactions stilted and uncomfortable. You can even look bored or like he bugs you when he's around.[2]
    • If he calls you on your behavior, you can either ignore him or tell him something like "I've just been really busy recently." If he asks with what, ignore or deflect the answer.[1]
    • If you want to be subtle about this, you can do this slowly over time. Don't cut off all contact at once, but slowly spend less time with him. If you were texting him multiple times a day, text him less and less. Eventually he'll notice you've cut back on your interactions.[3]
  2. Pick fights with him. Whenever you are with your boyfriend, pick meaningless fights with him. Turn everything he says against him, making it into an argument. If he is slightly late for something, tell him something like "You are always late. I have been waiting forever for you. Can't you ever be on time?" He will likely get frustrated and break up with you.[4]
    • You can also say negative things about everything he does in order to get him to start a fight with you. If he explains something to you, tell him "You are so wrong. What an idiot." It will eventually get to him enough that he breaks up with you.[5]
  3. Be vague about the future. Subtly give him hints that you don't think there is a future for the two of you. If he is trying to make plans for a date, don't agree to anything concrete or evade the question. If he asks you about going to a concert or event a few months away, tell him "We'll see. I don't know what I'll be doing then." He'll eventually understand that you don't see a future with him.
    • You can also get annoyed when he asks you questions. If he asks you what you are doing over the weekend, reply with something like "Why do you need to know? You don't have to know where I am at every moment." If he realizes you can't commit to the weekend, he might get the hint that you don't want to commit to a future with him.[6]
    • When you do talk about the future, don't include him the plans. Talk about how you want to go on vacation with your friends or are thinking about looking for a job in a new city. If you fail to mention him in any of your plans, he'll know you aren't planning a future with him.[7]
  4. Avoid saying I love you. Whenever he tells you he loves you, don't say it back. If he asks if you love him, say something noncommittal such as "Sure." or "Uh huh." If you do say it, don't sound sincere or convincing, as if it is an afterthought.[8]
  5. Stop being intimate. Limiting any physical intimacy will definitely send up a red flag about your relationship. No matter what level of intimacy your relationship has gotten to, start backing off from him. If you are still at the make out phase, avoid kissing or snuggling with him. If you are having sex, tell him you don't feel like it or aren't in the mood. If he asks you why, don't give him a reason.
    • You can even stop all physical contact with him whatsoever. If he tries to hold your hand, find a reason to pull back or seem busy.[9]
  6. Say you need space. A good way to stop spending time with him is to tell him you need some time away from him. You will get distance from him and won't have to deal with him. If he starts calling or texting you after a while, just ignore all his attempts. He will eventually understand what you are doing and break things off with you.[10]
  7. Try to control him. Start obsessing about everything he does. Tell him that he shouldn't wear those shoes with those pants. Explain to him the kinds of food he should be eating instead of what he does eat. Nag him about every little thing in his life. You can even talk down to him as if he doesn't know any better. When he does something for you, tell him "Oh, that's so cute. But that isn't how you do it. It should be done this way." He'll eventually get tired of you mothering him and break things off.[11]
  8. Be selfish. When you and your boyfriend spend time together, never let him control the conversation. If he starts talking about himself, interrupt him and start talking about yourself. If you do let him finish, only respond with phrases like "Okay." or "That's great." before you start talking about yourself. He will either get the feeling that you don't care about him at all or think that you are too selfish.

Acting Differently with Others

  1. Change your social media. Social media is a major way we celebrate your relationships. If order for him to break up with you, change your social media accounts to look like you're single. Change your profile picture on Facebook and Twitter from one of the two of you to one of you by yourself. Remove your relationship status on Facebook. If you look like you are single long enough, he will get the hint.[12]
    • To make it even better, change your profile picture to one of you looking your best. He will get the hint that you are signalling others that you are feeling single and ready to date other people.[13]
    • Start talking on Facebook or tweeting with other guys. When he sees your interactions, he will understand that you are beginning to move on from your relationship with him.
  2. Tell your friends. The next time that you and your boyfriend are going to hang with your friends, give them a heads up about the situation. Tell them that they don't have to treat him as nice or be as welcoming. When you are all together, ignore him in favor of spending more time with your friends. He will feel the cold shoulder from all of you and know that something is up.[14]
  3. Complain about his friends. Whenever he brings up spending time with his friends, complain about the way they act or who they are. When you are with his friends, tell them how wrong they are. If he brings them up in conversation, tell him how awful they are or contradict him when he talks about how great they are. Guys are typically really close to their friends and he will get tired of you trashing them.[15]
    • If you know that you are going to be spending time with his friends, cancel your plans with him. This will show him how much you dislike his friends.
  4. Flirt with other guys. Whenever you two go out, flirt with other guys. When you see a cute guy on the street, mention how hot he is. Get distracted from your conversation with your boyfriend because you are staring at a guy walking by. You can even flirt with his best friend. This will drive him crazy and make him mad, which will make him want to end your relationship.[15]
  5. Start talking about you ex. Nothing will make a guy run faster than you bringing up your ex-boyfriend all the time. Mention him in conversation, talking about how much you miss him or how you wonder what he's been up to. If your boyfriend compliments your outfit, say something like "Oh thanks. My ex used to love me in it." Not only will his ego be bruised, he will also get the hint that he is no longer good enough for you because you keep thinking about your ex. Or how hard would it be to say that you think that you guys would be better off friends? in the end think about what it is that you really want.[15]
    • You can start looking through pictures of you and your ex when your boyfriend is around. Change your profile picture on social media or the background on your phone from the two of you to you and your ex. This sends a very clear message that you don't want to be with your boyfriend anymore.

Tips

  • Only try this option if you have no other alternative. It could backfire and you could lose any chance of being his friend in the future. He could also tell other people that you are not a nice person and it could make others start questioning you as well.
  • If possible, just be honest with your boyfriend. It is an easier and less stressful option than playing games.
  • If he asks you if he can come over say "no I don't want you to come over". He will get a hint you don't want him over or you want to break up.
  • When you hang out in a group walk away or when he comes to sit near you stop talking and act moody. But alternatively just be honest save the extra pain and stress.

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