Make Your Teacher Have a Crush on You
If you have a crush on a teacher, you may want to show and gain admiration- but know the limits from "get-go". Remember, a "crush" can be friendly, simply an attraction, but you may be drawn into depressing, unsafe or embarrassing situations. Don't go too far by creating a destructive, nerve wracking, or shocking situation for either of you, involving the school, friends, family and the law.
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Steps
- Remember that a crush can be just a crush. Your school or college likely has policies and follows state laws against inappropriate relationships between students and instructors, and there may also be other complications like the teacher already being in a relationship/marriage or the potential illegality of a relationship between you two. Understand that these steps are only designed to foster a friendship with mutual admiration, not a romantic relationship -- but if this goes too far, becoming physical, acting out, your teacher could be disrespected, compromised, arrested, indicted, tried, convicted, fired, imprisoned and lose opportunities, being stripped of teaching certificates.
- Prepare for Class, understanding the material. Study to be tops, improving your ability and building your mature status.
- Answer your teacher's better questions -- ones that no one wants to tackle -- and make sure your answer is reasoned, logical and meaningful, i.e.: make sure you know what you're talking about.
- Beware of sitting right at the front, being too obvious. Teachers and fellow students may think that clueless, embarrassing teacher's pets are annoying. However, sitting at the front does give you ample opportunity to interact with your teacher, and someone has to sit at the front -- and this can be necessary, if you have a hearing or sight problem.
- Be polite and friendly. Hold the door open for the teacher, and buy thank you presents for special occasions. Say hello to him/her, if you see one another around the school. If you are not able to say a simple, "Hello!", then flash a special smile with your eyes or wave enthusiastically.
- Build a friendship: one isn't going to notice you, if you're a stranger! Casually talk about the teacher's favorite sports team or hobby, showing respect and helpfulness, whenever you get the chance and being a great student.
- Put effort into everything, but don't make it obvious. That's when you're trying too hard, and being obnoxious. But, try as hard as you can in class
- Talk about real life things: it will make you seem more mature. Do not talk about things that are "too" mature or personal; this can make them think you're trying to invade their personal space and privacy. Being intrusive is simply rude and can lead to very blurred boundaries.
- Have a unique sense of style. Be practical and comfortable, but classy and attractive. Don't show up in thigh highs and an evening dress. But try wearing a skirt that just hits above your knees, with a v-neck blouse. If you wear a uniform, do it correctly because it will look smart, sophisticated and mature. That is what you want.
- Don't be a sheep, just following the crowd. If you can, try to stand out from the crowd by having special, advanced scholarly interests.
- Keep up your personal hygiene. Don't forget the deodorant, and well done hair and nails, especially if you are a girl. You don't want to turn up to class smelling, or looking a mess. Teachers are always expecting everyone to be clean and tidy. If you turn up to class with a muddy blazer, oily hair, grimy nails or bad breath, this can and probably will turn them away because it shows a lack of responsibility and self-discipline.
- Compliment him/her. Don't focus on personal flattery, like "You are really pretty.", but instead, say sincere, reasonable stuff, occasionally, like, "That's a nice dress, Miss Tazor."
- Be an attentive and interested student. Ask, "How are you doing?" and listen -- and (next time) ask, "How has your day gone so far?" and give that compliment, and explain it simply, so it will be sincere. Those verbal expressions would show that you care, and you're interested in how s/he feels.
- Be aware of safe and sensible boundaries. Don't let other students know that you especially like him/her, or you'll end up humiliated and resented as: "teacher's pet," or you may get your instructor into trouble at work. Avoid goading your instructor into a crush and letting it go too far - this will mean bad news for both of you, and can make a good working relationship turn very sour and destructive.
- If your instructor makes any inappropriate moves or comments, set a firm boundary and keep your distance. Get the administration involved, if need be. Make the kind of friends that will be positive, and that won't take you away from your studies.
- Don't go to your teacher with your sensual, or romantic feelings. If your teacher asks about your social or private life, tell him/her that you prefer not to talk to people about anything very personal.
Tips
- Look at him/her when he/she is talking. Smile a lot, making eye contact. Look deeply into the eyes, because it shows that you are giving your full attention and that you are interested and you care.
- Don't interrupt when your teacher is speaking.
- When she/he is near you and you're with your friends, have intelligent conversations. Don't swear or be childish, and do not gossip.
- Don't make up things so that the teacher will help you or to get attention. The worst thing you can do is lie, because if the truth is learned, you will be despised as a liar.
- Don't scan pictures of the teacher's staff photo(s) and put it on your facebook/bebo/Myspace, as it then becomes too obvious and people would notice.
- Laugh, nicely at yourself and with the teacher! And be very open and expressive.
- Ask for extra help, if you get bad marks, and you can't help it, asking for help and being assertive is reasonable. When staying after class, become really thoughtful of their time.
- Be conversational during class, not interrupting or being off task. It doesn't have to be always about school. Find something that you have in common, and mention it. Being too obvious will make you seem "needy" or foolish.
- Attendance: Don't be late to class. Don't stay away from school.
- Talk about your common interests: What books you like, what movies the teacher likes; compare favorite foods. Ask about the teacher's college, hometown, holidays and vacation a little, not too much though.
- Have good posture, making you look confident, but not strutting or showing off.
- If s/he's a substitute, help calm down the class and help with handouts and supplies, and with what the class is supposed to be doing/working toward.
Warnings
- If you want the teacher to like you, don't act like someone you're not. People like people for who they are, not for acting like someone else.
- If you are a younger student do not try serious flirting. You may get in trouble, make bad conduct grades and cause the teacher to request a parent conference -- to get the parent to settle you down.
- Do not do anything you don't want to own.
- If you get a good mark, don't brag around the teacher or others, as if it were not earned.
- You could get in a lot of trouble, as things go wrong when a student is making inappropriate advances.
- Don't be stuck-up. It's a major turn-off.
- If you're a girl, also seeing that you look into the teacher's eyes use some mascara (clear, as you might appear inappropriate if it is evening style makeup).
- Looking too infatuated makes you seem to have a complex problem.
- A teacher who gets involved with a minor student would get in criminal trouble when caught, and be judged as a pedophile, if there are inappropriate activities. So exercise common sense, keeping it an attraction or a crush (not a romance).
- Do not scribble on the desk you work on during the class. It makes you look dull, boring and child-like.
- Don't be mushy, telling him/her that you love him/her.
- If they are married, don't even try, your luck is out the window.
