Make a Boy Like You in School

It’s easy to start crushing on someone at school. You spend most of your time in class, and you can really get to know the people you’re around. Crushes, of course, are most fun when they’re mutual! If you have a crush on a boy in school, there are a few ways to get him to return the feelings. By getting to know him, finding common interests, subtly flirting with body language, and sharing your feelings outright, you can get him hooked in no time.

Steps

Getting to Know Him

1. Sit next to him in class. Even if your teacher doesn’t allow much chatter, your odds of talking to him are increased if you’re in his vicinity. You will be able to interact with him more often than if you were on opposite sides of the room (you may need to borrow a pencil, or pass handouts to each other). If you don’t have class with him, make an effort to say “hi” when you see him in the hallway. The more he is around you, the more likely he is to eventually develop feelings.
   • If your teacher doesn’t allow you to choose your own seats, just try to sit near him in the cafeteria or hang out with him during breaks.
   • By sitting near him, you will also be able to use body language to attract him, which will be explained later.
2. Figure out what to say. It can be intimidating to just start chatting up someone you have a crush on, but it will definitely get his attention. To minimize your nerves and help ensure a smooth interaction, it’s helpful to plan a few things you want to say to him. Whether it’s a question about the homework assignment, a comment about an upcoming project, or something completely unrelated to school, it is helpful to have a game plan.
   • Make sure you don’t sound too rehearsed. The more natural and casual you seem, the better.
   • Rather than saying, “Hello. I remember you enjoy [TV show]. Did you watch the episode last night ?”, try to keep it casual and say something like, “Oh hey, you watch [TV show] right ? Did you catch last night’s episode?”
3. Start a conversation. By initiating an interaction, it will show him that you’re both friendly and interested in getting to know him better. Remind yourself that, no matter how great he seems, you are just as great! Let your personality shine, and show him the great traits that your friends and family see.
   • Try to shake off your nerves, or at least not let him see them. The more comfortable you seem, the smoother the conversation will go. Don’t build it up to be a stressful or scary event in your head– it’s simply a conversation.
   • Start the conversation with something like, “Are you excited about this project coming up?” When he answers, you can start to tell him about your project ideas.
   • If you want to talk about something outside of school, you can mention a show you know he watches or a team he roots for. Saying something like, “Did you watch the [new episode/game] last night? That was so [exciting/funny/unexpected]!” is a great way to start a conversation and show him you have common interests.
4. Find common interests. If you know you cheer for the same sports team or watch the same weekly television shows, bring that up in conversation. If you saw he ate your favorite flavor of chips for lunch, say something. It doesn’t matter what it is — common interests or hobbies are great ways to start conversations that can lead to other things. If he sees similarities in you, he will be more likely to like you!
   • If you don’t know of any common interests, make some. If he wore a band t-shirt to school, listen to their music and mention it in conversation. If you see him reading a book, borrow a copy and put it on your desk. Get resourceful and find a way to connect.
   • At the same time, don't fake it. If you don't like the book you noticed he was reading, don't pretend you did. Instead, try a different one by the same author. Then you can say something like, "Oh you're reading [title of book]? That one wasn't my favorite, but I just read her new one. It was really good — you can borrow it when you're done reading that one, if you want." Or, just look for something else you have in common. You may not like the same music, for instance, but you may both love horror movies.

Using Body Language

1. Face him. Turning your body towards his is a welcoming and friendly gesture, and can warm a person up to us without them even realizing you’re doing anything. When you speak to him, make sure your legs are pointing towards him. If you’re in a chair, swivel your body so you’re facing him. If you’re standing in a circle and he approaches, turn your body so that it’s angled toward him. Try to keep your body angled toward wherever he is.
   • Don’t make a spectacle of yourself trying to maneuver your body toward him. Keep it subtle and only do it when it can appear natural.
2. Smile. Happiness is an incredibly attractive feature, and a big smile is sure to catch his eye. You don’t have to plaster a giant grin on your face, but try to smile as much as you possibly can in his presence. When your teacher makes a small joke, when your friend asks to borrow a pencil, whenever. Just show him that you’re a happy, upbeat person.
   • Fake smiles are pretty easy to spot. Try to make your smile look genuine and real by thinking of something funny or happy. You don't need to be smiling 24/7, but just make sure to flash authentic smiles whenever you can, and whenever it seems natural.
3. Make physical contact, when appropriate. No, you don’t need to give him a giant kiss on the cheek when you say hello or rub his back while he’s doing homework. Instead, find ways to casually touch him. When he makes a joke, brush his arm while you laugh.
   • If you need his attention, tap your hand on his back. If you’re sitting side my side, you can lightly touch your knee to his. If he’s passing a paper to you, graze his hand when you take it.
   • Don’t be overly aggressive. The smallest physical contact can get a guy’s attention.
4. Mirror him. This is a subtle little trick to make you seem interested and likable to your crush. Again, it’s a simple way to make him feel connected and welcomed by you. Watch his body language, and mimic it. If he leans towards you, lean into him. If he leans up against a locker, lean up against a locker. If he runs a hand through his hair, wait a few seconds, then do the same. It’s really simple, and it’s really effective.
   • Be sure to allow a three to four second delay before mirroring his action. You don't want to literally mime him — that will look more strange than endearing.

Spending Time Together

1. Invite him to things. It doesn’t have to be any sort of romantic invitation. You can ask him to see a movie with a whole group of people, or work on some homework together. You can even ask if he just wants to meet up at a school sporting event or another local event in town. It doesn’t matter what the invitation is — what matters is that you’re showing interest and getting to spend time with him outside of school.
   • If he rejects your invitation once, don’t worry. Sometimes guys are shy, and sometimes they have other obligations. If he rejects two more invitations, then consider moving on. There are plenty of other guys to pursue.
2. Create opportunities to be with him. Sometimes, there simply might not be anything fun to invite him to. Create a way to spend extra time with him. If you walk home from school every day, maybe you can change your route a bit so that you can walk with him. Ask him to study with you or work on a project together if you're in the same class. Join him in whatever activity he does during breaks. You might have to get a bit creative, but you should certainly be able to find ways to get extra face time with your crush.
3. Make mutual friends. This is key. If your crush spends all of his time with a certain group of people, it can be really helpful to befriend them. By joining his social circle, you’ll increase your odds of seeing him at social events outside of school. Of course, this doesn’t mean to ditch your current friends or use his friends to get to this boy. It simply means to get to know his friends and, if you enjoy their company, make a little extra effort to become friends.
   • Sit next to his friends in class and start a conversation. If he has girl friends, compliment them on something, like their outfit or backpack. If you're having a party, make sure you invite his friends and not just him. Go out of your way to make his friends see you as a friendly, warm person.
4. Be honest. Tell him that you like him. It’s best to do this if you think he’s returned your flirty vibes, and you’ve developed a level of comfort around each other. Let your friendship grow a little bit before revealing your crush, just so he doesn’t feel overwhelmed or totally caught off guard. Not only will he be impressed that you had the confidence to tell him your feelings outright, he will also be flattered. Who wouldn’t?
   • Some signs that he might be into you include initiating physical closeness, laughing at jokes or having inside jokes with you, gently teasing you, blushing around you, making an effort to be around you, and asking you questions about yourself.
   • You don’t need to make this a serious, sit-down chat in which you pour out your heart. All you need to do is tell him what you think about him, or what makes you like being around him. Keep it casual.
   • Do this when you’re able to talk to him alone. It’s OK if you’re with a group of people, just try to find a time to break apart and talk to him one-on-one.
   • Say something like, “I have so much fun hanging out with you. I think you’re really funny and smart, and I like you as more than a friend.”
5. Let him speak and respect his feelings. You’ve put your cards on the table, and now you can give him the opportunity to do the same. Simply ask something like, “So, do you think you may have a bit of a crush on me?” It sounds terrifying, but it could make the difference. He may be shy, so respect that he might not be comfortable answering you. Don't pressure him or demand a certain answer.
   • While a “no” answer might be upsetting at first, it will save you time and more hurt feelings in the future. You can move on, and you can stop giving energy and time to a boy who doesn’t reciprocate feelings.

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