Make a Guy That Used to Like You Like You Again
Although it's hard to reconcile with a person who has rejected you, it can and has been done plenty of times before. Read below to find out the best ways to win back your dream guy.
Contents
Steps
Get In The Right Frame Of Mind
- Visualize winning him over. It's inevitable that you will spend some time thinking about the guy who used to like you too, but you can control how you spend that time. Imagine how it will be and what it will feel like when you do win him back. Envision this as a future memory and not a distant one. Positive thinking goes much further than you often realize.
- Be confident and strong. This is often easier said than done when you're trying to win back someone who rejected you. However, appearing sad or desperate is a guaranteed way NOT to win him back. Show him you are capable of moving on.
- Find other things to focus on. Even though you can win back the guy who used to like you, it's not going to happen overnight. Constantly thinking about him will not do anything but cause undue stress. Take up a new hobby or devote more energy to your career and friends. In addition to having less time to focus on this guy, this will make you feel like you have regained some control of your life.
Breaking The Ice Again
- Start talking to this guy again. Go up to him at the end of class or on a lunch break. If you don't work or go to school together, shoot him a text message. Don't be afraid to make the initial move because you have nothing to lose at this point.
- In the early stages of trying to win him back, try to keep the interactions short and sweet. Don't put yourself in a position where you will feel tempted to bring up negative feelings.
- Limit your contact. If you call or text a guy repeatedly, he will often view this as harassment or stalking and be turned off by it. Limiting your contact will also leave him wanting more, and make him more likely to come to you.
- Act flirty. Once you have spent some time together again, this is an appropriate step to do. Use your eyes to flirt or wear a bold red lipstick. Remember, there's a difference between playfully flirting and appearing desperate. Guys love to feel like there "all that and more" laugh at his jokes unless they upset you. Make him feel like he has control but not to much control.
- Wear his favorite clothes on you. If he ever complimented you on a shirt you wore, or you had a particularly good day with him while wearing a certain outfit, don't be afraid to bring those items out again.
- Stir up old memories. When you're ready to make the first bold move in winning him back, remind me of the good times you both enjoyed together. Bring up a funny anecdote or a particularly fun or sexy date.
Creating New Memories
- Go to new places. Don't get stuck hanging out at the old spots where you both used to spend time together. If this is going to be a new situation between the two of you, pick exciting new locations or fun date ideas that you haven't done together.
- Let him know how you feel. Once you've done everything above, you can let him know how you feel about him. The only way you'll be able to get him back is by having a discussion about it.
Tips
- Never obsessively text, call, or email him if you don't get a reply as soon as you hope. Even if it says he saw it, don't assume the worst. Maybe he's busy! If you keep continually texting, calling or emailing him asking what's up, and why he's not replying, then you can be at risk of scaring him off, and that is the opposite of what you are trying to achieve. If he doesn't get back to you as soon as you hope, just hang in there. If he never replies, then he's not worth it. But if he does care, he will eventually get at you.
- Don't become too clingy and obsessive - boys are not attracted to that.
- If he starts asking you questions about things that he already knows the answers to, smile and enjoy it because you may have just won him again!
- Laugh and smile a lot to show him you are still at ease in his presence.
- If he starts to tease you, it may mean that you are on the right track.
- Try to end your dates with a hug. It leaves you both a good memory of holding each other.
- When you're flirting, you can occasionally touch his arm, shoulder, or hand to leave a longer impression.
- Be positive around him. It shows he makes you happy.
- Start out small. Try group activities first, paying special attention to him and then start lowering the invites every weekend or so. He'll then catch on that you've been there for some time.
- If he likes another girl, carefully try to win him over by spending more time with him then she does, but also be aware that sometimes you may need to back off. Never try to get him to cheat on another girl just because you want him that badly. Even though the other girl may feel like an enemy or competitor to you, realize that you will only cheapen yourself, and him, by trying to get him to cheat. You are worth more than being a girl on the side.
- When you are flirting with him, don't get too close. He will obviously know what you're trying to do.
- Don't try to seem desperate, that will make things worse
Warnings
- Don't be pessimistic around him. That will show him that you aren't enjoying his company very much, and will show him that you aren't someone who will cheer him up when his life gets rough.
- Don't overstep your boundaries. If he is single, and the two of you used to kiss or cuddle often, don't attempt those things without actually winning him back into a relationship again just to try to get him to fall for you again. This is manipulative, and you should not try to win him back that way.
- If you miss him, but he seems to be doing well and is already committed, try to abandon these feelings. You don't ever want to wait around for someone, and you don't want another girl to feel the pain you do.
- Do not think that just because he is male, he is not uncomfortable with some attention. If certain attention or actions others may direct toward you make you uncomfortable, don't do those things to him. Even men dislike being stared at, and flirty comments bordering on creepy or objectifying are definite turnoffs.
