Stop Loving the Girl of Your Dreams

First off, it ain't easy! Whether you see this person regularly or occasionally, you can move on. It can be done.

Steps

  1. Get rid of any pictures or video you have of her! This is very important. As long as you can still see her, you'll remain attached. So get rid of them.
  2. Avoid her at all costs. Also, should you end up walking past her at some point, just keep walking as if she isn't there. Seeing and talking to her will only make the process a lot harder!
  3. Occupy yourself. As long as you're busy, there won't be much free time for you to focus on other matters. We naturally focus on things we most want or is most important, so try to replace that most wanted (the girl) with something else. Even if it's another girl.
  4. If you're trying to get over her because she hurt you by running off with someone else or worse, don't try to get back at them by going off with other girls. Because you'd be focusing on her again, which contradicts the third step. Just go out, do the things you love and be with someone else who you really want to be with and not simply because of revenge.
  5. Go out with friends, take up hobbies, go nuts with other girls. Feel free. This is your life, so why waste it on someone who either doesn't give a damn about you or hurt you by going off with other men.
  6. Don't ever think about looking back. Not through memories or the temptation of going back to her. Otherwise you end up opening up all the wounds again. You'd put yourself at risk of more hurt. Don't give up and don't be tempted.
  7. Keep telling yourself that you're doing the right thing. You're doing what you think is best. Trust yourself and your decisions.

Tips

  • Whenever you hear her name, don't smile or have a funny feeling in your stomach like you usually do, just tell yourself you don't care and don't let her face make you smile anymore, your smile should be permanent and she definitely won't be the reason for it.
  • Determination! You will not turn back. The more time that passes without you thinking of her, the more you begin to notice that you're very much on your way on forgetting her. The more you forget, the less you feel for her. It works. Did for me anyway.
  • Never dwell on the past. Ever! It just makes things worse. Especially if you have good memories of her. Don't ever dwell on those memories!

Warnings

  • Time is a great ally in times like this, bury all your thoughts and feelings for her in the past. Once well buried, you should either feel little or nothing. See or speak to her could mean more hurt and time needed to getting over her. Let time pile up and bury it all deep.
  • Turning back puts you at risk of further hurt.
  • Seeing her in places you usually go can tear apart all your efforts and putting you at risk of getting hurt. Do try to avoid her.
  • Don't give in to temptations, this can also cause hurt.

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