Overcome Heartbreak

Part of having a heart full of feelings is risking the pain caused by something damaging or severing these attachments. It does not mean that having close ties is not worth it. It's a sign that you're doing something right by being a person open and emotionally available to feel closeness, love, and to see positive things in another human being.

Steps

Internal Steps

  1. Recognize that you are going through a very big emotional experience. Be kind to yourself. Take things slowly. Like being sick physically, when your heart's ties are dramatically impacted, it can send us reeling out of balance for awhile. This takes patience and gentleness to get through. It may feel like a good idea, in some cases, to focus on anger and blame, but remember not to go overboard. Ultimately, you chose the path you are walking, and being excessively negative about the circumstances you are going through can make them worse for you.
  2. Know that it will change in time. Feelings are like the tide. They come in waves. This is an important thing to remember. What you are feeling right now will not be the same way forever. Also, it helps to know that these things ebb and flow when a moment of sadness comes up again suddenly. Instead of despairing over how the heartbreaking feeling is back again, try noticing that it must have been gone for a little while for you to notice its return. Take comfort in the fact that you only have to handle what's right in front of you emotionally to be on your way to healing.
  3. Realize there is a purpose. Heartbreak doesn't happen at random. There is a message in every pain we experience and nothing hurts us uselessly. Knowing this, you are clued in to see what your feelings are really trying to tell you in order to help your life and heart be better and stronger. It could be that you are hurting because you made a choice to trust in a person or situation that was not right for you, and your feelings are letting you know the peril you were put in. When you get burned, it shows you not to put your hand into the fire. Perhaps, a part of what you need to understand from what you are feeling is simply a newfound respect for your own amazing capacity for love. With heartbreak comes the understanding that whatever you may have lost, you still have the part of that experience that was created and kept in yourself. It may also be that your feeling of heartbreak is a message trying to tell you what you were getting from the situation that has ended is something you can gain from a more sure source-- yourself. Looking for what lies beyond the obvious pain can bring tremendous relief and often becomes the guide to mending the heartache you have felt.
  4. Know that heartbreak is intense and feels unbearable and isolating to EVERYBODY. You are not alone at all despite how it feels. Hearts are broken and they mend just like yours will. Seeking out support groups or even just other people's stories of how they got through can really help your process be less bumpy.

Additional Suggestions

  1. Write everything you feel down in a book.
  2. Ask friends if they could talk to you about something huge going on in your life. Most will want to, some will not have it in them to hear the details. When you find those few people that will allow you to be yourself that will be a gift.
  3. If you can afford it, seek therapy so you can vent without any issues.
  4. Focus on something else that you love through this time.



Tips

  • A life with only happiness and only accomplishments would make everyone get bored of life and lose value of it. Pain brings an individual close to themselves so they pay attention to themselves and what they have been ignoring.
  • Allow yourself to find close relations and yourself to enter others life but do not be vulnerable. Bond with others but dont rest yourself on them. This way you expose yourself to be meddled by someone else which is not very self-protective.
  • You have been tackling your tears since childhood. Each time you experience pain, you get better at handling life. You no more feel like you are caught up in the middle of no where. All these experiences together expands your capacity to understand and get over painful situations. This happens with experience and by getting over pain with patience.

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