Succeed in a Relationship with the Perfect Girl

So you've found the girl, been on a date or two, what next? Be sure you want to get serious before reading. This article will give you a few tips on how to succeed in a relationship.

Steps

  1. Talk. Communication is key. If you are afraid to talk to the girl that you're dating, or if you'd rather do something else, you need to set some priorities. Ask her how her day was. You want her to listen to you, so you should listen to her--conversation is a two way street.
  2. People love talking about themselves. Ask her about her dreams and hopes. It will make her feel like you care about her. Always ask her about school and her day as well.
  3. Try to avoid asking lots of questions about where she's been and what she was doing. If they say "Be right back, I gotta go do something", it's usually best not to ask what she were doing, as it can make a girl feel annoyed.
  4. Think before you speak! Try to keep things very very positive. If she's complaining about life, don't agree. Tell her she rocks and support her.
  5. Compliments are excellent, but know that you should stop at the point where you're just listening to yourself talk. Girls know when you're sincere and when you're just blowing hot air. But, compliments never hurt anyone.
  6. Nobody can write the definitive guide on dating! You need to experiment for yourself! Remember, romance is not always an easy thing.
  7. Listen to what she has to say and pay attention.
  8. Above all, take care of yourself. Keep your daily and lifelong goals in sight. Nothing turns off a woman faster than a man who chooses to accomplish nothing, even if all his attention is directed toward her.
  9. Don't be obsessive. Give her some room. she doesn't need you to be hanging on her, she wants to be able to lean on you, not the other way around.
  10. Don't cheat on her!! If you flirt with another girl, to make her 'jealous' then its not going to work, she'll think that you like them and might end up moving on. Not all girls get jealous the same way.
  11. Make her friends like you, not love you. If they love you, she will think otherwise or something... Don't fall in love with her friends either!

Tips

  • Be yourself. You can change, but don't change for the worse for the girl.
  • Don't turn away from her when she is hurting no matter the circumstance. She needs to feel safe at that moment.
  • Never forget what it is about you that attracted her to you. Whatever you were doing, keep it up. If she wanted someone NOT like that, she would NOT have chosen you.
  • Respect her no matter what.
  • Ask around and you will find that desirable women do not want a man 'lying down' for them. They want a man to be a man.
  • Don't buy her so many things. It's the thought that counts. Just tell her you love her but don't be too clingy.
  • Never forget the power of an "I love you". In person is best, it goes great with a hug.
  • Don't go over the top impressing the parents. "Sir" is great if that's not too out of the ordinary in your region, but otherwise use "Mr". Address women as "Ms". It shows a great deal of respect, and will get you a long way.
  • When in an argument, sometimes it is best to let her be right, even if she is completely wrong. Women love to be right, and disagreeing with her will just press her even more to continue.
  • Don't forget anniversaries! This can be killer! Flowers are great, jewelry is great, chocolate is great. For big ones, you know, one year, two years, go for a handwritten poem. Frame it, that works really well.
  • If she's sick, do the whole "Get Well Soon" thing. Get her a big balloon, some flowers, and maybe even a small stuffed animal. It seems over the top, but she'll appreciate it.
  • If she looks sleepy, lean her close to you, and rest her head against your chest or shoulder, and just let her rest. A short nap with the one she loves will give her the energy she needs to love you!
  • Picnics are great dates, bring chocolate, cheese, sparkling cider, and pray for nice weather!
  • Gifts for no reason at all are welcomed. Use the advice from the movie "The Perfect Man", and remember, yellow flowers are for your sick grandmother in the hospital. Go red or pink. Those work great. (Unless yellow is her absolute most favorite color. Then she'll appreciate the fact that you remembered this.)
  • Be a shoulder to cry on; lots of girls love hugs. Hugs are a great way to show affection. If you're there for her when she's down, it works wonders.
  • Be kind, but don't patronize. Sometimes giving her the dignity she deserves during hard times goes a lot further than a simple one-liner like "Don't worry" or "It's okay". Instead of riding in on the white horse and offering advice immediately, ask and be interested about what she is going to do about the situation.
  • Be careful about becoming friends first. You want her to need her other friends and she probably has plenty of them. Be her boyfriend.

Warnings

  • Nobody can write a complete guide to this subject, so you need to experiment for yourself.
  • Never forget who you are and never stop being that person for her or anyone. It's ok to change for the purpose of personal improvement, but do those things for yourself.
  • Avoid being needy! Even if you are head over heels in love with this girl, don't be needy! All girls need some space, but this depends on the girl. Figure out how much attention she needs and how much you are able to give her, but don't become needy or obsessive.
  • Avoid negative comments or comments based directly on her physique. Not only are you directing an interest to an area best left discovered later in a relationship, you could come off as shallow, or just plain make her uncomfortable.
  • Avoid combative, demeaning, non-good-natured sarcasm. This type of sarcasm can lead to arguments, and arguments lead to the blame game. Don't let arguments come down to the "you did this and I know it!" Even your arguments should be constructive and positive steps toward furthering your relationship with this person. If you're unwilling to put in the time and effort to make this happen, then your relationship may not be as productive as you might hope.
  • Asking her to come to bed with you is not sweet...and she won't appreciate the boldness and how unromantic it is.

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