Tell a Female Best Friend You've Developed Feelings for Her

It's happened to most people; you start to develop feelings for a female friend (or best friend) that you've known for a while, and you don't know how to tell her. Well, here are some suggestions.

Steps

  1. Develop a deep and loving friendship with the girl for a while (in some cases a year or two would be probably best).
  2. Take every opportunity you can to hang out with this girl. Go shopping, take her out to a movie, even to a family reunion.
  3. Touch her frequently. Start gently and work your way up. Start by shaking hands. Then make a routine of punching fists every time you see her. Give a not too close hug. On a special occasion give a real hug. Then poke her playfully every once in a while. This might help her develop feelings for you. It will certainly strengthen your friendship.
  4. Always bring her around family; they'll make her feel special plus they will think she is your girlfriend - do not confirm that she is indeed your girl, but don't deny it either; just keep quiet and let things run their course.
  5. Get some time alone with her to talk.
  6. Let her know how your feelings for her have changed and how you feel you two should be together. Hopefully, she'll be asking you to show her how much you love her. You kiss her (believe me she'll be impressed).
  7. Ask her how she feels about you and to make a decision.
  8. If she says no, don't give up, it might just take more time. She might just not be ready.If you still care for her, stay friends. Definitely don't act upset or make her feel bad. You've planted a seed in her mind, and she might realize later she feels the same way.
  9. Don't stay in the "friend zone" too long, or she'll feel awkward about the situation.

Tips

  • Make sure you tell her in person.
  • Try not to push her too hard. Otherwise, that could ruin your friendship.
  • Take your time, you don't need to rush things. Don't move too slowly, either. But you will really need to get out of the friend zone or you'll be stuck there forever. If it isn't you, then she'll definitely get somebody else who's waiting.
  • Don't be afraid to express your feminine side. Women tend to like men who are comfortable in their own skin.
  • Don't be timid, be affirmative but not too aggressive.
  • Avoid being clingy and needy. If she seems annoyed she may feel you are using her to boost your self esteem. So every once in a while hang with your pals or by yourself.
  • Be assertive, tell yourself that the next time you are going to meet you'll tell her.
  • Don't rush it. Take it slow but have a plan. Don't put your hopes up too high as expectations sometimes lead to disappointments. So let it be. Don't change and just let her feel how you care and make her feel that she means a lot to you then she knows.
  • Don't touch hug and/or poke her at all until about 2-3 months at least. Sound too long or to short to some people, but it's perfect timing. If you've known them a long time don't take as long to get closer. And for the guys who think this: if she shares a drink or something with you, it doesn't mean she likes you.
  • Be there for her before you try to go out with her. Make her feel like you care about her well being.
  • Before you confess your feelings, make sure that it's for the right reasons - not because you are lonely or that's she's the only option available.
  • DO listen to her. If she says she does not want to be in a romantic relationship with you, respect that.

Warnings

  • Be truthful and straightforward with her.
  • Don't kiss her too early. Wait until you know she's ready for it.
  • Don't be nervous, girls want to talk to guys who are confident.
  • If it doesn't work out chances are your friendship will either be ruined or a lot less close, sometimes it's good to realize what you have is worth keeping

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