Tell a Boy You Like Him in Sixth Grade
So you're new to a school, you don't know anyone too well, and you develop a crush. Not sure how to tell him? Here's how. If you do not like these try to wait and just show your affection.
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Steps
- Become friends with him. If your too shy to talk to him at first, make or develop a friendship with someone close to him, and hang around with them (this is also a great opportunity to make new friends). You can start by laughing at his jokes, then answering questions he asked to the group, and so on and so forth, until you are ready to speak to him.When you are feeling that you two are getting close tell him that you like a boy but you don't know how to tell him and when he asks who is it don't tell him and see what he does or says after that.
- Talk to him on Facebook or other social networking sites. MSN is good too. You could share more things and become closer to them, without having to talk TOO much in person. But remember, you do need to talk to them! Don't talk to him every night though, then he will think you are desperate.
- Drop subtle hints. Flirt a little. Laugh at his jokes, but not too much, just giggles, act happy to see him, and twirl you hair. Try to play sports; guys love girls who like sports. And try to find out his interests and try them, but don't change yourself too much.
- Mention casually how you hate being single, and see how he reacts (if he agrees). You could use this as a guideline for how long you wait before you tell him. Wait until something similar to that subject happens.
- Ask him who he likes. If he asks who you like, just say no one, don't make anyone up. If he says no one too, it's a good sign. If he likes another girl, use it to your advantage. What is it about her he likes? Is she well liked? If she is, why? Is she funny? Sweet? If it's because she's pretty, think about why she's pretty. Is it her long hair? Big eyes? Don't copy her completely, but try to accentuate whatever you have in common. Try out some of her interests but if you try all of them he might notice and think you are weird.
- Build up your confidence. There's a little something called self-fulfilling prophecy, which means that if you think it's going to go terribly, it will lead to subconscious mannerisms that will make it go terribly. Believe it will go well, and it most likely will.
- Come straight out with it. Ask him who he likes (again), or say 'Do you still like her?' They might say 'Why' or 'Yeah/No, because .... What about you?' Then is the time to laugh, or type (I'd rather do it through cyber) 'Ha,' then say/type/text, 'I'm kind of starting to like you.' But only if it seems like he is ready.
- See how it goes from there.
Tips
- Act normally the next day, as if nothing happened. If he likes you, he can make the next move.
- If he doesn't like you, never freak out. Just ask if you could still be friends. If he says yes smile and say "ok" and if you want to bring up a little humor (showing your not freaked out that he doesn't like you)smile and say "ok, bye friend", then walk away as if you were having a normal day.But if he says no then just shrug, smile, and say "That's ok" walk away, DON'T DO ANYTHING ELSE: like saying "whatever..." or rolling your eyes etc. He might see your lack of care and start to want you or dislike you more.
- When you flirt, do it properly. Don't touch your hair for a second, twirl it properly. Boys don't interpret things as much as girls do, so they won't pick up on tiny signals.
- Don't always expect him to make the first move, sometimes you have to be brave enough to try.
Warnings
- Be prepared for rejection. It happens.
- When you tell him, don't be crazy, weird, stupid, or funny because he's going to think it's all a joke.
- If he declines, offer to be friends. If he also declines that, move on and don't push it.
- Don't be too forward.
