Show a Guy That You Like Him

It can be hard to show a guy that you like him. It's tricky to find a balance between coming on too strong and being so subtle that the guy will have absolutely no clue that you have a thing for him. If you want to show a guy that you like him, you have to take an interest in him by getting to know him, and then drop some hints that you see him in a romantic light. If you want to know how to show a guy that you like him without looking desperate or sending mixed signals, just follow these steps.

Steps

Drop Hints

  1. Pay attention to your appearance. Let him know that you like him by making an effort to look nice whenever you're around him. You should still be yourself, but take extra care with your hair and makeup and outfits, so he can start to notice you. You don't have to wear a tight dress and high heels if you're at a baseball game with him, but let him know that you care about your looks when you're around him..
    • Don't be afraid to be a little sexy. If you're comfortable with your body, show it off.
    • If you're not comfortable with a lot of makeup, then you shouldn't try to look like someone else just to impress him.
    • Try wearing a little lip gloss, and applying it in front of him. This will make him pay more attention to your lips.
  2. Show him how you feel with your body language. Your body language can let the guy know that you think of him as more than a friend. When you're talking to him, turn your body toward him and make eye contact to show that he means a lot to you. Don't be distracted by turning your body away, looking around, or checking your phone.
    • Play with your hair when you talk to him. This will show that you're nervous about being around him.
    • Break eye contact from time to time to look at the floor. This will show him that he makes you feel shy.
    • Don't forget to smile. Smiling will show him how much you appreciate him -- even if you're smiling for no good reason.
    • Keep your body turned toward his. If you're sitting, cross your legs in his direction, not away from him. If you're standing, turn your shoulders toward him.
  3. Flirt with him. The more you flirt with the guy, the more he'll be sure that you like him. You can start off by flirting subtly and work your way up to being more obvious. There are a variety of ways to flirt with a guy:
    • Speak softly when you talk to him to make him lean in to talk to you.
    • Just playfully tap him on the arm, tease him, and build a fun and flirty rapport that shows that you're paying attention to him.
    • Laugh. Even if he's not being as hilarious as you let on, laugh a little bit to let him now how much fun you're having when you flirt with him.
    • Just don't overdo it. Flirting is all about subtlety.
  4. Break the touch barrier. Once you get closer to the guy, don't be afraid to gently hit him on the arm or shoulder if he's said something funny. You can make physical contact if you're teasing each other, or even give him a big hug when you meet up, if it feels right. Breaking the touch barrier will help him see that you want to get closer to him.
    • Just make sure that he wants to touch you too and that you're not making him uncomfortable.
    • If you're getting close with the guy and just came back from a run together or some other form of physical activity, offer to give him a massage. If he likes you, he'll say yes, and he'll start to see how good you can make him feel.
  5. Compliment him. It can be tricky to complement a guy without making it too obvious that you like him. You don't have to say, "Wow, you're so hot" to let a guy know that you like him through some subtle compliments. If he got a new haircut or is wearing an obviously new shirt, just tell him that he looks nice. If he's really good at a skill, whether it's math or making a great sandwich, let him know he's good at it.
    • You can get more personal and compliment an aspect of his personality. You can say, "You're hilarious, you know that?" Or, "You always know how to make a person feel better."
  6. Ask if he likes anyone. This is not the most subtle way to show that you like him, but it'll do the trick. Just casually ask if he likes anyone, or even talk about what he's looking for in a girlfriend. Let him open up and see if he tells you he likes anyone or what he's looking for. Just be careful -- let him see that you're asking for your own motives, not because you want to be a great buddy and talk about his love life.
  7. Tell him you're open to having a boyfriend. Just casually mention that you're looking to date someone and that you look forward to having a boyfriend. Don't make it sound like you're desperate to date anyone around you -- show him that you've put a lot of thought into it. You can be more obvious and even talk about the qualities you're looking for in a boyfriend, and list some of the things that make him special
  8. Get him to ask you out. You can try to get the guy to ask you out as a way to show him that you like him. Just casually talk about your upcoming plans or mention what your schedule looks like, and wait for him to ask if you want to do something when he knows you'll be free. You can say, "I'm not sure what I'm doing tomorrow night, but I want to do something fun," and wait for him to respond.
    • You can use your common interests to your advantage here. Mention an upcoming sports game or say that your favorite band is having a concert in town soon, and wait to see if he wants to go.

Tell Him that You Like Him

  1. Make sure that he likes you. Though there's no sure fire way to know if the guy returns your feelings, there are a variety of signs that can let you know how he really feels about you. It's best to make sure that there's at least a chance that he likes you before you move on and tell him how you feel about him. Here are a few ways to see if he likes you as more than a friend:
    • Notice what he says. See if he's always complimenting you, asking if you like anyone, and telling you that he wishes he had a girlfriend.
    • Notice what he does. If he likes you, then he'll look for every excuse to hang out with you, try to make physical contact, and may even do sweet favors for you like dropping off your lunch.
    • Notice his appearance. If he always takes extra care with his looks when he knows he'll be around you, then this may mean that he likes you.
    • See if he's always asking you to hang out. If he's always asking you to spend time together, even it may not be at a date-type of event, then he may like you.
  2. Tell him that you like him. If showing him that you like him just isn't doing the trick, then it may be time to tell the guy how you feel about him. You should pick a time and place where you can both be alone and free of stress, and then keep cool as you tell him that you have feelings for him. Don't put a lot of pressure on him or yourself and wait for a response.
    • Just relax. If he doesn't return your feelings, at least you'll know instead of worrying about it.
    • Keep it simple. Don't overwhelm him by talking quickly and telling him the 150 reasons why you like him so much.
  3. React appropriately. If the guy likes you, then you can hug him or just show him how happy you are, and begin to talk about going on a date and moving your relationship forward. If he doesn't return your feelings, that's OK too -- just show him how mature you are by not getting too upset, or even getting angry, because he doesn't share your feelings.
    • If it turns out he likes you, then you can even laugh about all the ways that you tried to show him that you liked him.
    • If he doesn't like you, don't despair. Be proud of yourself for working up the courage to share your feelings and move on.

Get to Know Him

  1. Take the friend approach. If you want to make your guy friend date you, then you've already set a solid foundation for your relationship. But if you're not really friends with the guy yet, then befriending him can help you show him that you like him. If you don't know the guy at all and he barely knows who you are, it'll be tougher to show him your true feelings. Also, getting to know him as a friend will help you see if you're really compatible, and will give you a chance to show him how awesome you are in a low-pressure setting.
    • Start by being friendly. You shouldn't ask him to hang out or reveal your most intimate thoughts to him right away. Just take it easy and start building a fun and friendly rapport with him.
    • Ease into the friendship. Don't overwhelm the guy by always being around. Just slowly start increasing the amount of time you spend with each other.
    • Don't fall into the Friend Zone. You should try to be his friend, but don't develop such a deep friendship that it'll get weird if you try to take things to a romantic level.
  2. Use your common interests as a starting point. If you want to get to know the guy, you can start talking about all of the things you have in common, from your families to your favorite sports teams. If you don't have so much in common, you can learn from each other, and may find yourself picking up on some of his interests. And if you want to pretend to care a little more about his favorite sports team than you really do, then that's okay too.
    • Most guys love talking about sports. If you both like the same sports team or sport, you can talk about it; if not, you can read up on his favorite team and casually drop some facts.
    • Use music as a common bond. See if you have any of the same favorite bands -- if not, ask if he has any recommendations for you. If you've developed your friendship enough, you can even make him a CD of your favorite music to grab his attention.
    • Talk about your families. Keep it light and talk about your siblings or any pets you have or had growing up.
    • See if you like the same type of food. If he finds out that you love sushi too, he'll be more likely to ask you to go to the new sushi bar in your neighborhood.
  3. Laugh at the same things. Find a common thing that the two of you can laugh about, whether it's the fact that one of your mutual friends never matches, or the creepy poster in the back of your math class. Whatever reason you both have for laughing, you'll develop a deeper bond with the guy and will show him how much fun you can be.
    • If you find something that the two of you can laugh about, then this will create a little inside joke and will make you grow closer.
    • You can even find the same pet peeve to laugh about. If there's an annoying teacher you both can't stand, or if you both hate a certain pop music star, you can have a good laugh over this together.
  4. Get to know his friends. The way to a man's heart is through the respect of his friends. If you get his friends to love you, then he'll be much more likely to love you too. Hanging out and being nice to his friends will show him that you're a cool person who can get along with anyone and it will also let him see that you're showing more of an interest in him. If you didn't care about him, then you wouldn't care about his friends.
    • You should get to know his friends, but make sure you're not "always around," especially during dude-centric events.
  5. Offer friendly favors. Once you get to know him a bit, you can offer to give him a ride or to pick up lunch, if he looks like he needs a favor. If you can't do that, offer to carry something for him. Though this will be a small gesture of friendship, he'll also begin to see that you really care about him. Just make sure that he's offering to help you out from time to time too, so the relationship isn't all one-sided.
    • If he misses class, offer to take notes for him or to drop them off.
    • If you're picking up coffee on the way to meet him, ask if he wants something too.
    • Just remember to not overdo it. You're not his girlfriend yet, so you shouldn't offer to do his laundry or grocery shopping.
  6. Ask for his number. If you've been friends for a while and are hanging out more, then it'll be natural to ask for his number. You should play it cool and not ask for it like you're asking him to go out on a date. Instead, just ask him for his number so you can text him about when everyone is meeting at the bar, send him details to your party, or whatever. If he's a nice guy, he won't say no or think it's weird.
    • Getting his number will increase the amount of contact you have with him. Now you can start chatting through text and can take your relationship to a new level.
    • Once you do get his number, make sure that you're not the only one calling and texting him.

Tips

  • Don't pretend to be someone your not just for him. If he likes you, he should like the real you, not a fake.
  • Be honest with the guy. No one likes a liar.
  • Remember that you are not required to have the same interests and hobbies as your guy. Guys can enjoy things that seem strange to you, don't pretend that you enjoy them too. However do be supportive of the things that make him happy. (ex: Differing tastes in music)
  • Help him if he is confused or worried. This will show him that you care about him and then he might like you for being caring and kind.
  • Don't flirt too much. If you're going to flirt, flirt mildly. If you don't, guys will think you're too much of a flirt and start making mean cracks about you. You don't want this.
  • Don't worry if you think you've done or said something stupid, because if he likes you, he should understand.
  • Don't pretend to be someone you're not.
  • When you look at each other, smile then look away. This shows the guy you caught him looking and it's a flirty way to say hi!
  • If he asks you out let him make the first move don't halfway through the date lean in to kiss him because he may not have meant it that way.
  • Show you like him positively don't say anything bad about him.
  • Try to boost your self-esteem before you actually talk to him. It'll help!
  • If you start dating don't tell him he can't do things with friends or call him constantly.
  • It's a good idea to be friendly to his friends, but don't seem over the top otherwise your crush might start to think you like his friends and/or are just using him to get to his friends. Just be mutual.
  • Having a friend ask a guy out for you is not always helpful. Lots of guys like someone with self confidence.
  • Don't feel down if you're too nervous to do these things. Just smile and/or wave.
  • Don't be a stalker. If you know stuff about him don't go nuts to tell everyone or learn more. Learn about him as you get to know him.
  • Just remember some guys are just looking for a good friendship.
  • Smile to the guy but don't be a creep. Talk to his friends and you will get closer to him.
  • Be calm. If you really like him you will either babble or be really quiet. Try to talk a bit, but not too much. Never interrupt him!
  • Just be yourself. If he wants to change you, he's not the one.
  • If he doesn't like you back, say "Oh, that's OK. " Smile and walk away casually.
  • Just because you've let him know that you like him doesn't mean you've given him permission to put the moves on you faster than you'd prefer. Don't let any guy use the argument that you led him on.
  • Flirt with him. If you're talking and just hanging out and then you have to leave you could always just say: "I like you," or "You're cute" then walk away. This will make you seem mysterious. If he doesn't like you he probably won't bring it up again. If he's interested, he will bring it up.
  • Don't hangout with your crush 24/7. Because if you do, he'll probably think your stalking him.
  • Often times in "The Friend Zone" a guy would be almost unable to see you in any other way but a friend. He likely would treat you like one of the guys. Understand the difference between being friends and being friend-zoned.
  • Drama is a turn off for guys, most of the time they want nothing to do with it.
  • When you talking to him always smile and play with your hair good luck.
  • Don't be clingy. Guys don't like girls that are on his case all the time.
  • If you like him, hang out with him (but not too much- don't make yourself look like a huge flirt).
  • Don't try hating him into liking you. If he goes out with someone else, don't attack him for it, he'll just hate you.
  • Don't start conversations about stuff they have no idea about; like makeup, girl drama, or how fat you are.
  • Don't talk about your self.Let him know you take interest in what he has to say, and more interest about him than yourself.
  • Don't give him too much attention.
  • Being mean is a horrible way to let him know you're interested. This is just the perception from the media. For you, it may seem like a way to get him to notice you, but it'll just end up with him thinking you hate him.
  • Weeping/crying is also a major turn off.
  • If you don't want to tell your crush that you like him, ask someone else to tell him. Be careful about who you ask though! If you're not careful, things may go wrong.
  • If you have his number, don't text him 24/7. He might think that you are stalking him.
  • Leave a sweet note for him somewhere he will find it.
  • Share private secrets with him if you know he's trustworthy. Tell him some that are slightly embarrassing like when you were younger you used to roll your skirt up so high that other random people were complaining they could see your knickers to something a bit more emotional like you used to have anxiety problems and are still getting over them now.
  • Don't forget to compliment him! Everybody loves compliments. Just don't overdo it. Remember to be subtle.
  • You shouldn't have to change just to please him. If he doesn't like you for who you are or how you act/dress, then he isn't worth your time.
  • Don't compliment him too much or say overly sexual things. He may start to feel uncomfortable.
  • Be yourself. A real boy should love you for who you are. If you act differently and he falls for you, at some point you're going to snap back into your old self and he'll see that you've changed. Stay the same old you and simply act like you would around friends.
  • If you know he likes you, tell him you like him (You can do it by a note, by talking to him face to face, or some other creative way)!
  • Don't expect the relationship to progress very fast. Most likely, you will slowly start to ease into more serious actions.
  • When around him, don't get nervous. Guys like it when you express yourself, they want to see the 'real' you, not a fake you.
  • Don't go over the top trying to know his friends, flirting and laughing with him. If you over exaggerate on laughing with him it may sound fake. If you hang around his mates too much they might wonder why you are always hanging around with them and not your best mates.

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