Tell if a Boy Likes You on the Internet

While flirting is pretty apparent when it is done, the faceless plane of the Internet can make a guy's behavior a lot harder to read. Luckily, wikiHow is here to help. With some keen observations skills and an open mind, you'll be able to figure out if he likes you or not in no time.

Steps

During Instant Messaging

  1. Sign into your instant messenger. If he's already online, does he say “Hello” right away? If he usually does, he's probably eager to talk to you whenever he can.
    • If not, hold off on saying hello for a while; he might just be used to having you initiate the conversation. Don’t turn this into a habit, though — playing games can get ugly quickly.
    • Even something small like volunteering information about his day can be promising; this is a way of including you in his experiences.
  2. See if he asks you any deeper or more personal questions. This will show whether or not he wants to get to know you better. The more he responds to your answers, the more engaged he is in the conversation.
    • If he asks you lots of questions but doesn’t really respond to your answers, he might be trying to show you that he’s interested even despite being busy with something else. If he makes a habit of it, though, it could be a polite way of keeping you occupied while he talks to other people.
    • If he asks you really personal but irrelevant questions, like what your address is or whether or not you’re home alone, get out of there. Like, now!
  3. Look for signs of flirting. Does he compliment you? Does he send you nudges or emotions? Does he use a lot of exclamation points to show his enthusiasm?
  4. See if he asks for advice or moral support. Coming to you for help with his problems is an excellent sign that he not only trusts you, but also respects your opinion.
  5. Watch how he behaves when the conversation ends. Is his sendoff more of an “Aww...OK” or a “K bye”? If he isn’t a little sad to see you go, you probably shouldn’t be either.

On Facebook

  1. Notice whether or not he initiates chats. See section above for details.
  2. Note how often he likes or comments on your photos. The fact that he wants to see you and what you’re up to when you’re not around is a great sign.
    • Be sure to compare this with how often he interacts with his other friends. He may just be a habitual Facebook user who looks through photos to pass the time. On the other hand, if he rarely uses Facebook, his two comments on your latest album might say a lot.
  3. See if he keeps comment conversations going. Doing this -- especially in real time -- shows that he wants to interact with you more.
  4. Notice if he responds to your status updates. These describe what you’re feeling and doing in the moment, so if he seems interested in them, it probably means he’s curious about what you’re up to.
  5. Look for signs of flirting. Pokes, likes, gifts, and compliments might be his way of letting you know he’s interested.
  6. See what happens when you don’t log on for a few days. If he keeps trying to interact or asks where you went, it probably means he misses you.
    • Again, beware of playing games, which can poison a relationship.

Tips

  • Some boys will act completely different online. This doesn't necessarily mean that they’re not who you think they are; it may just be that he feels more confident and talkative online.
  • Some people don’t like to share on the internet because they think it’s risky, embarrassing, or impersonal. Be sure to respect these differences.
  • Never pin all your hopes or fears on just one or two IM conversations, though; lots of people run their instant messengers in the background whether they have the time to chat or not.
  • If he doesn't say anything except for "Hello" and "What's up," keep in mind that he may just be shy.
  • Remember that your online interactions are no substitute for a real-life relationship.
  • If you are a minor, have parent or guardian supervising.
  • Bear in mind some guys have a natural flirty persona.

Warnings

  • Some guys are really friendly and give off perpetually flirtatious vibes. Even if a guy does everything mentioned in this article, you can’t be 100% sure that he likes you unless he tells you so. (And even then, it can be hard to be sure!)
  • If he asks you something that you feel uncomfortable about, just tell him, "I don't want to talk about that," or "Can we talk about something else?" If the boy really likes you, he will respect your decision to not share personal information.
  • Never trust someone you haven’t actually met. Some people create online personals specifically to take advantage of other people’s trust. Be especially careful not to reveal your full name or location.
  • Avoid getting too personal. Don't ask him things that would make him uncomfortable or cause him to think differently about you.

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