Understand How a Guy Thinks

Guys are just as complex to understand as women. Their thought processes and attention to detail are significantly different than women. If you really want to garner respect, you have to put the time in to learn how guys think. Just because it isn't the same as how you think doesn't mean they don't think at all. All guys think differently,however they also share similarities. Read on to understand how a guy thinks.

Steps

  1. Find a guy whom you're interested in, and would like to understand. This can be your boyfriend, a crush, even your husband or simply a good friend.
  2. Talk to him in various situations. Guys can (and often will) think and act differently depending on who they're talking to. If you see him with a bunch of guys talking about hot girls, sex, and performing seemingly stupid actions, then don't assume this is how he naturally thinks. Watch him when he's with a bunch of girls. If you see him being polite, complimentary, and inoffensive, he may just be trying to impress them. While this is most likely how he behaves, he may just be inflating things a little bit to show off.. Talk to him in mixed company, or even on the phone and he'll probably act more like his true self. Also, become good enough friends with him and talk to him in private, and he'll more than likely reveal his true self.
  3. See how he responds to different conversation topics. If all you see him as is some rowdy boy, then bring up a topic about social issues or something serious. You may find he's deeper than you gave him credit for. If all you see him as is some nerdy egghead, bring up music or popular culture, you may find that he's interested in more than just science and math.
  4. Don't pester or consistently nag him. If a guy keeps repeating something you asked him not to do, he most likely sees you as a nagging person even though he pretends to be listening. If you want to know if he is listening just ask him what he thinks of what you just said. This is also a great way to make him participate in the conversation.
  5. Take the initiative! if you think he doesn't like you, and want to see if he really likes you as a friend, don't be afraid to start the conversation. Most guys would actually prefer to participate in a conversation than to initiate it themselves. Being straightforward and confident works wonders!
  6. Share some of your own thoughts with him. This will most likely end up with him unknowingly yet subtly telling you what opinions he has about different things and how he thinks about them. You may also find that you two share a lot more in common than meets the eye!
  7. Don't be clingy. A good chat a day works well. Long conversations should only be made with the guys that you know very well or who are close to you. Guys don't and won't really ask for space, but they definitely want it. Constantly asking about what he thinks or how he feels about stuff is only going to make him lash out eventually, at which point you will most likely form the wrong opinion about him.

Tips

  • Don't play games or hope that he will get the subtle and vague hints that you drop. It's best to say what you mean straight on. Most guys will appreciate this, instead of having to figure out what exactly it is that you mean.
  • Talk about what he likes to do, rather than what he does.
  • If he's more sensitive than most other guys, do not criticize him about it. Qualities such as sensitivity are often uncommon in guys, and is definitely a positive quality!
  • Again, do not be clingy. Space out your conversations.

Warnings

  • Don't assume that a guy is always out to get into your pants immediately. There are plenty of guys out there with the self-control and attitude that does not scream desperation
  • Also be aware that there's also always the guy who think far too much about things. All they want is to be careful, and to not mess things up.
  • Don't talk as you would to your female friends. This may just confuse him.
  • More often than not, a guy will end up saying something unintelligent. Don't judge the guy over this or decide that this is how he always thinks. If he apologizes sincerely then forgive him and let it go.
  • Do not assume that he's stupid just because he isn't as good at something as you expected him to be. Guys will consider this offensive.
  • Most guys are good guys at heart so make sure you get to know his positives as well as his negatives.

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