Ask Someone out Without Getting Nervous
Everyone gets nervous, whether it be staying home by yourself or running in gym class. But in the case of asking someone out, you can get extremely skittish and end up embarrassing yourself . Here are some ways to keep your cool while asking someone out.
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Steps
Before you do it:
- Think of ways to relax all that tension. Meditating, singing, and reading are some good ways to ease some stress for the upcoming event.
- Try to practice what you are going to say to him/her. This may help calm you down.
- Don't think too much about asking him/her out. It just freaks you out more.
- Staying calm while asking.
- As you're pulling him/her aside for the question, take a few deep breaths and think only positively.
- Don't fear rejection. This adds onto pressure, and you just might back down.
- If you feel nervous, lean against something. Not only will you not fall, but you'll look a little more casual.
- Breathe normally. Otherwise it will also make your speech irregular and awkward. And remember, asking someone out is like meeting a wild animal. If you act nervous they can sense it. It's a definite turn off.
- If you feel your hands get sweaty, put them behind your back.
After the big moment:
- Contain yourself. It's 100 percent normal to feel excited, a common mistake some make is to scream and run around. You will look like an idiot.
- Take some more deep breaths.
Tips
- Be confident. If you're not; fake it. People respect a person who has confidence.
- To feel less nervous, have a good friend close by: just not close enough to hear everything you two are saying.
- If the person says "No" or otherwise shows or tells you that they're not interested...don't worry, it's NOT the end of the world! You can still be friends with them, and if your friendship grows closer you may be able to ask them out again, with better results. Remember there are millions of potential people that will go out with you, so don't let the fear of rejection stop you from doing anything.
- Make sure you've gotten to know the person a little before you ask. Pulling aside your secret-as in no one but YOU knows-crush will not only be awkward for you, but them too. This will also reduce nerves because you have at least talked with them before.
- Bring some music to listen to beforehand, Judas Priest works very well, and Rob Halford (the singer)'s solo albums can work even better (especially the song One Will).
Warnings
- After she/he answered don't say Yes/No!. Just keep cool and walk away (don't run).
- Absolutely do not ask someone out with their friends around. If things go bad, there goes your reputation. Or, they might try to look cool and blow you off.
- Be serious. Don't be all like "hey, lets go out," and playfully hit them. They'll think that's creepy, or, they may think you're just joking around.
