Ask a Best Friend if They Like You
You like your best friend, but how do you know if your friend likes you back? If all goes well and the feeling is reciprocated, then you will end up feeling great. On the other hand, if your friend rejects your proposal, then awkwardness and other negative consequences may ensue. Be confident in your decision, but be sure to recognize the possible repercussions of your question.
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Steps
- Consider what makes your friend attractive. The decision to ask your friend if he or she likes you could harm your friendship. Make sure that you are making the right choice before you ask the question.
- Try to get information from mutual friends on his or her romantic interests. Some of your friends may already know if your best friend has feelings for you or not. Getting this information ahead of time could make you feel more confident about asking, or dissuade you from harming the friendship.
- Practice what you are going to say to your friend. It's okay to ask your friend in a casual manner, but have an idea of what you are going to say before you ask.
- Be prepared for an unfavorable response. As confident as you are, there is still a chance he or she will turn you down. Try to recognize that as a possibility and you will feel better if you are rejected.
- Schedule alone time with your friend. It's more sincere to perform this feat in person, rather than over the telephone or online. Likewise, if you ask the question when mutual friends are around, you may feel intimidated or awkward, since you are planning on asking something very intimate.
- Recognize his or her body language. If he or she seems comfortable physically and emotionally around you, your chance of success may be better. If he or she seems distant, however, you may want to reconsider asking the question.
- Ask. When the moment feels right, ask the question. Be confident and honest about your feelings.
- Respect his or her decision. If your friend responds positively to your question, then congratulations. If your friend responds negatively, however, then let him or her know that you respect his or her decision.
Tips
- No matter what happens, do your best to remain calm.
- Keep things short. Don't expect an answer straight away. Your friend may be surprised and need some time to think.
- Always ask at a good time.
- Do not try to gauge your friend's feelings by making jokes about dating each other. This will make a joke out of the idea of dating, which is unwanted.
- When trying to determine how interested your friend is, try being a little more flirtatious to see how he or she responds.
- Make sure you don't talk too much because it might make the conversation uncomfortable for him/her.
- Try to look for the signs and hints that he or she might like you before you make a move to become more than friends.
- If you really like the person, Try to get closer to them before you attempt this.
- If you can, ask their siblings or really close friends if that person has feelings for you.
Warnings
- In case of rejection, do not think poorly of yourself. Rejection does not determine the worth of you as a person.
- Rejection may occur. If that is the case, do your best to respect the other person's decision and move on.
- Try to avoid asking your best friend if he or she likes you if that person already has a significant other.
- Try to not be with him/her all the time as you could be seen as overly attached.
- Think about the pros and cons before you do this. Ask yourself whether it is worth you ruining your relationship.
