Avoid Being Bullied in Middle School

No one wants to be bullied. No one should be bullied. However, it happens every day in middle school. Bullies feel insecure about themselves. Follow this guide to improve your chances of avoiding bullies.

Steps

  1. Note that body language is extremely important. Do not look at your feet when you walk. Do not bite your nails (it is an animal instinct of nervousness). Do not walk with your hands in your pockets. Examine your current habits: do any of them make you seem smaller, weaker or less physically capable? If so, change them to something that will make you appear larger and more confident.
  2. Keep in mind that self esteem is even more important but harder to attain. You are a very important person. You matter! You matter to your parents, teachers and relatives. Self-confidence may be the only thing that separates you from the most popular kid in school.
  3. Do not attempt to throw comebacks unless you are incredibly adept. Bullies practice their comebacks on other kids all day everyday. You probably don't and you will merely say something that they will use against you.
  4. When ridiculed, say nothing, and stare them viciously in the eye like a hungry animal. This may be difficult at first but you won't be giving them the reaction they want. They want you to give in and try to fight them so they can beat you. If you don't fight, they can't win.
  5. Tell a friend or trusted adult. Never keep quiet about bullying.
  6. Keep an eye out in the halls. These are great bully hideouts because they can strike while you are in a group so they won't be seen. Move among the other kids with head held high, scanning for threats. It may sound a bit paranoid but it comes in very handy.
  7. Remember that you do not deserve to be bullied. Nothing you have done and nothing that you are caused you to be bullied. Bullies are people who have low self-esteem and a great need for power - a bad combination. Thousands of kids who are perfectly nice get bullied every single day. But you have to take action against it. Don't start a fight, but don't let the bullying continue.
  8. Wait until they have thrown the first punch or have hurt or have attempted to hurt you physically. You can then claim it was in self defense and that you just didn't want to get hurt anymore. Never assign blame; avoid language such as "he/she started it!"Use the words "self defense" or say "I feared for my safety".
  9. Do not do anything physical to the bully. You are the target. They are not the target, because you want to avoid them. Don't do anything to make them mad. If you get upset, and want to slap him/her in the face, walk away with your head held high.
  10. If they make fun of something you do or something you wear, do not change your habits. This will only show them they have power over you.
  11. The first time someone you don't know offends you, insults you or hits you, stop them before it gets bad. If you stand up for yourself straight away, it sends a message that they should leave you alone. If you let them get away with it by looking away or ignoring it, it may continue and others may join in. Look a bully straight in the eye. Give him a death stare. Bullies often back down with this. Watch your body language. Don't look at the floor. Don't slouch and wish you could disappear, even though you feel that way. Stand strong and tall and face your bully. Bullies usually pick victims who won't stand up to them.
  12. Tell your school counselor, parents, teacher, and continue to tell them if it does not stop. Schools are breaking the law if they allow bullying to continue within their walls. They must provide you with a safe education.

Tips

  • Don't let them ever bring you down, make it look like you don't care what they are saying because they just want to make themselves look better.
  • Have self confidence.
  • Look on the bright side: victims of bullying often become accomplished artists or writers, philosophers and hard workers when they grow up. Some of the world's most successful people were bullied.
  • If they keep on blocking you, just say something like, "Stop, okay? This is going to get you nowhere.
  • Never fear. Always complain to your class teacher or your parents if possible, before matters get worse.
  • If you see someone getting bullied don't be an idiot by joining in. Make them stop before something bad happens.

Warnings

  • Keep in Mind, Bullies will use you to be popular in school.
  • If a bully has a gang of his/her friends its best recommended you avoid the bully because doing this will give the bully more friends and those friends can end up bullying you.

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