Be Admired

Gaining admiration requires honesty, hard work, and perseverance. Whether you're a parent, an employee, or a public figure, earning admiration requires many of the same skills. Acting honestly, working hard, and lending those in need a helping hand are the crucial basic abilities for someone who wants to be admired.

Steps

Acquiring Admirable Qualities

1. Lead, don’t follow. People who are admired are unafraid to do something new or different. Being a leader doesn’t necessarily mean you outrank anyone else. You can be a leader even among those who have greater official authority than you by convincing others to follow a certain course or act in a certain way.
   • Leadership requires more than speaking and acting in an inspirational and influential way. You must also be willing to take responsibility when something needs doing. For instance, if you’re the director of a play and the actors are not excited to rehearse, it is your job to inspire them to give their all so the play is a success.
   • Leaders should inspire, not intimidate. Don’t lead through fear.
   • Leaders must both admit when they were wrong and take credit for victories.
2. Demonstrate personal integrity. Integrity means being honest when representing yourself to others and to yourself. It means that you don’t compromise on your core values and you stand by the things you believe. Admirable individuals strive to maintain their personal integrity by staying true to who they are even when it is unpopular or controversial.
   • Don’t be stubborn. Standing by your principles and acting with integrity doesn’t mean that you are unwilling to accept or consider alternative ideas.
3. Adopt a positive attitude. A positive attitude doesn’t mean pretending that everything is great all the time. That is unrealistic. Instead, recognize when things are bad but look for the good in every situation. For example, if you and your classmates present a draft of your project to your teacher and she reviews it poorly, remind your classmates that many aspects of the presentation were still reviewed favorably. Think of the review as an opportunity to revise the project until it is sure to earn an “A.”
   • A positive attitude gives you confidence, hope, and the belief that tomorrow will be better.
4. Focus on the people that matter. Admirable individuals tend to be empathetic and sensitive to the needs and wants of others. For instance, you might admire a boss who always remembers your birthday or notices when you are sad. Fostering positive communication with others and treating others with respect are the hallmarks of an individual who keeps the people they care about in mind.
   • Be inclusive of all people willing to contribute to a project or team. Don’t play favorites or try to divide people. Just because someone has a different background or level of experience doesn’t meant they are not valuable
   • Always try to see the best in people.
   • Don’t give too much attention to naysayers and people who only want to drag you down.
5. Achieve a work-life balance. We admire people who are well-rounded and can successfully manage both a happy personal life and build flourishing career. Develop interests outside of work. Whether it’s reading, art, music, or bodybuilding, go after it. Don’t get trapped in the daily grind.
   • If you enjoy music, form a band.
   • If you enjoy art, visit museums with friends and set aside time each day to work on your art.
   • Live your life with passion. Give your best to friends, coworkers, and family each day.

Becoming Admired at Work

1. Work hard. Whether you’re working for minimum wage or managing a large firm, you should always take pride in your work. Doing so will demonstrate that you are competent and capable of doing your part. Go above and beyond in your workplace by giving your all on the job. If you make pizzas, make the best pizza you can, every time. If you mop the floors, scrub them to a high polish.
   • Take pride in your work and doing it will be a pleasure, not a chore.
   • Keep your office or workspace clean and well-organized
2. Help your coworkers. By helping your coworkers, it demonstrates that you think of others. This quality is universally admired. The help you give your coworker depends on the type of work they’re doing. You could choose to do their work for them if they are too busy, or you might choose to collaborate with them on something or provide feedback.
   • For instance, if you work at a restaurant and your coworker needs to mop the floor, wash the dishes, and refill the soda fountain, offer to complete one of his tasks when you are not too busy.
   • Do not help your coworkers at your own expense. Take care of your own duties before taking on those of others.
   • Do not let your coworkers walk all over you. If they are not struggling with their work, they should be left to do it themselves.
3. Speak your mind. Do not suck up to your superiors. Stand up to your boss when he or she is wrong. For instance, if your boss criticizes a coworker’s logo design during a meeting, explain that you like it because it demonstrates many features which customers would find attractive.
   • Make suggestions about how things could be improved if you see problems in a project or in the work-flow. For instance, if your department and another both need to use the same computer during your design phases, suggest that the company invest in a second computer so both departments can get their work done simultaneously.
   • People who suck up to their bosses are generally considered untrustworthy and do not receive workplace admiration.
4. Trust your employees. When you hire someone, hire the best person you can for the job. People who are insecure hire people who are good, but not great, because they fear being usurped by their subordinate. This characteristic is not worthy of admiration.
   • Demonstrate that you trust and rely on your staff by delegating various responsibilities to them. Do not delegate important tasks to individuals who cannot accomplish them.
   • Use your knowledge of each person on your staff to identify how much and what kind of work they can handle. It is important to push people in the workplace to make them feel they are being challenged and engaged, but be careful not to overwhelm them.
5. Show your employees you respect them. When your staff does a great job, let them know. You can let them know in verbal and material ways. For instance, after meeting your quarterly earnings, send an email round the office explaining that you’ve done so and inform your staff, “I am extremely proud of all the hard work you’ve been doing. It has paid off handsomely.” Invite them to drinks after work, or organize a workplace pizza party. Give your staff a bonus for meeting the sales quota.
   • People who treat others kindly and recognize their successes -- as well as their failures and flaws -- are worthy of admiration.
   • Do not publicly berate or embarrass your staff. Always speak to them with respect in a calm, even tone. If you have a problem or issue with one of your employees, ask them to your office or another private space where you can address any problems or concerns you might have with them.
   • Do not play favorites among your staff. If you pit them against one another in divisive ways, you will not inspire honest and virtuous behavior, and your workers will not be driven to work as productively as they could.

Becoming an Admired Parent

1. Practice what you preach. In other words, do the things you want your children to do. If you direct your children to be on time for appointments or be at home at a certain time, you should also arrive when you say you are going to. If you don’t want your child to use foul language, don’t curse. If you want your children to tell the truth, don’t lie to them or others. Even if you advise your children to do the right thing, they will not admire you if you are hypocritical.
2. Be inclusive when making family decisions.. Children will not admire an inflexible tyrant. Including your child in discussions which affect them will gain their admiration and help them develop a sense of personal autonomy and agency. You can include your child in both small and large decisions. For instance, a few nights a week you could ask your child what he or she wants for dinner. (Naturally, if they answer something unacceptable like ice cream, you should tell them that is not an option.)
   • Including your child in family decisions doesn’t mean relinquishing all responsibility for those decisions. You’re still the parent and ultimately, authority still rests with you.
3. Be a friend to your child. Go for walks, go to the movies, and go to get ice cream together. Enjoy the time you spend with them. Tell your child regularly that you love them. When they come home after school, ask “How was your day?” Ask about their dreams, ideas, and feelings.
   • For instance, your child says, “I want to be a dancer when I grow up,” you could ask, “Why do you want to be a dancer?” Listen to their answers and don’t belittle what they have to say. If you need more information, ask follow-up questions.
   • Take time to seriously answer any questions your child asks.
   • Show your child know that you will always be there for them. If they need help with homework or if they are sick, take time out of your schedule to care for them.
4. Be forgiving and ask for forgiveness. Recognize that nobody is perfect. If you make a mistake, you should acknowledge that you did so and apologize for hurting anyone’s feelings. Find ways to amend the situation and think about what you can do next time to prevent a similar situation from occurring. Use these situations to illustrate to your child how to admit when you’re wrong and ask for forgiveness.
   • For instance, if you mistook your child’s drawing a of a bird for a butterfly, your child might feel distraught. Admit that you made a mistake by identifying it wrongly and reassure them that it is a great drawing. Say, “I’m sorry, can you forgive me?”
   • When your children make mistakes, you should always expect them to acknowledge the mistake. Your child should apologize and correct the situation as needed. For instance, if they spilled milk on the floor while you were out of the room, ensure that they admit to doing so and then help you clean it up (assuming they are of an appropriate age to do so).
   • Tell your child you love them even when they make mistakes.
5. Develop an interest in education and learning. If you always have something interesting to teach or explain to your child, they will be much impressed and admire you for your depth of knowledge. Having a well-rounded education will not only equip you for a richer life, but it will also demonstrate to your child that education should be an important part of their life, as well.
   • If you did not graduate high school, consider getting your GED.
   • If you did graduate high school, consider going to college. You could get a two-year associate’s degree or a four-year bachelor’s degree.
   • You don’t need a college education to be well-educated or interested in learning, though it does help. Keep up with current events by reading the newspaper regularly. Visit your local library to check out some books. Read a mix of both fiction and nonfiction. Watch documentaries as well as feature films.
   • Expand your mind by diving deeper into topics you know little about. By challenging yourself, you will be able to think about things in a different way.
   • By taking your child to local art museums, you can learn together.
6. Persevere in the face of adversity. If you lose your job, fall ill, or suffer another misfortune, do not mope about it. Instead, take proactive action to correct the situation. For instance, if you lose your job, seek new work in the classifieds of your local paper or online. Use labor networking sites like LinkedIn and Monster.com to make your resume available for potential employers and browse available jobs.
   • Develop patience and control your anger when you feel it rising within you.
   • Do not take your frustration about a difficult situation out on your child or anyone else. Find positive ways to deal with your frustration through deep breathing, yoga, mediation, or engaging yourself with a fun hobby.
   • While it is natural to feel depressed when confronted with loss of a family member or other hardship, stay strong and positive for your child. Talk to a trained therapist if your feelings persist.

Becoming an Admired Public Figure

1. Serve others as a religious figure. Many of the most respected people go into public service as leaders within a religious order. For instance, the Dalai Lama is widely praised for standing for world peace, and Pope Francis is popular for fighting for the poor. You don’t have to attain that level of stature to have the same effect. Become a religious leader in your community and fight for those in need of material as well as spiritual assistance.
   • Rabbis, pastors, imams, and priests can all gain admiration when they speak and act in concert with the teachings of their holy books.
   • If your advice is sought by politicians or other public figures, always use your platform to encourage positive change.
   • Join a monastery or nunnery. Monks and nuns live in a community with others who practice their faith in order to better understand their holy books and teachings. Becoming a monk or nun is a good path toward a future as a religious leader.
2. Invent something useful. If the religious life isn't for you, there are other ways to gain admiration. Inventions which create a better world earn their inventors great admiration and respect. For instance, Bill Gates and Steve Jobs are widely admired for the contributions they made to the development of home computers, which has led to a more connected, informed world. Think about how you can turn your own creative or scientific ability to practical use.
   • Look at problems in your community and think of ways to solve them with science and technology.
   • If you’re not skilled in those fields, propose an idea to someone who can engineer a solution.
3. Engage in the political process. If you are neither religious nor technologically inclined, you could engage in politics as a politician or as an activist. If you want to become an activist, choose an issue or topic which you feel strongly about and locate a local nonprofit which engages in work related to the topic. For instance, if you feel strongly about poverty and food security, you could donate your time at a local food bank or soup kitchen.
   • If you want to be a respected politician, it helps to have a law degree. You could also have a political science degree, though any degree helps. It is unlikely you will be able to get elected as a politician unless you have a college education of some kind.
   • Run for local office as a mayor, state representative, or city council member. As you gain more experience, consider running for senator or representative at the national level.
   • To be a respected politician, be honest and do not engage in corruption or selfish behavior. Lead with vision and respect the will of those who elected you. Work tirelessly for the good of your community, state, or nation. Fight for justice, truth, and a better world.

Tips

• Don’t forget your old buddies when you become widely admired.

Sources and Citations

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