Be a Love Goddess
Have you ever wanted to be considered a love goddess? A damsel in distress? A femme fatale? A vixen? A vamp? Or just a woman who simply always gets whoever she wants? Well, with a bit of beauty, lust, confidence, charm, magic and perhaps good luck, you can achieve all this.
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Steps
- Start with yourself. If you're not confident enough, look in the mirror and think of what would you like to change about your appearance in order to make yourself feel happier. Wash your hair and get the volume, put on some makeup and pick a nice perfume.
- If there's anything you love about yourself, such as pretty eyes, healthy, long hair, nice legs, curves or seductive full lips -- emphasize it! Play up your fabulous-ness!
- Shop for clothing, wear something flattering and subtly sexy!
- Pick a bar, take a look around and maybe you will find someone who suits your purpose.
- "Take charge" and be a little bit aggressive. Imagine going to McDonald's and ordering a cheeseburger. How big is the chance for you to get it? I'd say about 100% if they're accidentally not running out of inventory which is not really possible. It's exactly the same with them. Tell yourself it is most likely you will get them tonight.
- Remember it may be quite hard in the beginning but try to keep this attitude in your mind.
- Use body language to signal your attraction. Eye contact, a wink, a knowing smile. If they doesn't budge, walk over to them - keeping eye contact if possible. Just the walk over shows you're interested - you don't need to say a word. It's fun and in case they're not interested in you or has a girlfriend/boyfriend or whatever on earth, at least they will be pleased that someone flattered them.
- Develop some sort of special "charm" about you. For example:
- A femme fatale's (an alluring, mysterious, & sneakily bad female), charm is said to be her air of mystery and ability to allure partners to her.
- A damsel is distress is eager to please partners by acting submissive, lovely, sweetly shy, docile and somewhat doll-like. Damsels let them save them from harm - a villain, or even in modern day like needing assistance such as carrying a heavy box, being stuck somewhere, protection from an abusive boyfriend/girlfriend or even being yelled at.
- A vamp is often mistaken as a femme fatale. A vamp tends to be more exotic, like having very pale European skin yet very dark, long hair and smoky eyes that stand out piercingly. A vamp is more fierce, verbally, like being sarcastic and a bit cold-hearted. She tends to be mysterious but not so much in an intentional, alluring way like a femme fatale. The vamp approach is more held back, lurking in the shadows, like an attractive Goth/Emo with a side of Dominatrix-sexy style (i.e. handcuffing, whipping, spanking, & hissing out slave commands to the other partner(s) in Bed).
- A vixen is perhaps a coquettish, playfully sexy nymph-like girl, that enjoys attention from partners and relishes it. Her eyes tend to be sharp, sneaky and deceivingly innocent. A vixen should always have pretty eyes by bringing out your eye color in mascara, eye shadow, and whatever. Perhaps practicing a fiery, saucy or flirty "come-hither" glance in your eyes by being able to batt eyelashes, look up from under nice eyelids, or winking cutely or seductively will help you greatly.
- A love goddess is always sultry. Imagine Angelina Jolie, Halle Berry, Beyonce, Drew Barrymore, Cameron Diaz, Lucy Liu, Jennifer Lopez, Jessica Alba and Penelope Cruz ... all icons of sex and fantasy. That's just what a love goddess is. A male, and even female, fantasy. Always have glowing skin, moisturize it and get it slightly tanned if you aren't, just don't ever have it be sickly or dry. Grow out your hair long, wavy or straight, or cut it short well by making it angular and frame your face well.
- A love goddess always has a heavenly air about her - practice a walk that is fabulous, a model catwalk but never a diva stride because that can come off as attitudinal, overconfident, or just plain unapproachable to a partner's mind. Develop a special stare by straightening your back, rolling back your shoulders, and looking forward straight ahead, as if you have something far more interesting and better to look at that only beautiful people can see.
- Also if you're a student try to be one of those popular girls that seems nice and is admired by everyone but acts as if they don't care because they wish they could meet someone who was sweet, handsome, and brave like in her dreams and none of the popular people proposing & hitting on her can offer that.
- Pretend you are still searching for the right person and that just might be the new, mysterious student who none of the normal or popular kids can figure out but still is respected, brave against bullies and throws back sarcastic, clever comebacks at bullies, annoying girls/boys that try to flirt with them, and ridiculous teachers. He is the person you might be searching for. Be lovely, doll-like, and sweetly innocent & shy when you meet them.
- Don't expect a sexual encounter to turn into anything else. Sex early in a relationship usually makes it awkward if the person hasn't had a few dates to get to know you and decide whether they want to commit to you or not. When they have sex before they know, they'll usually just run away soon after the sex.
Tips
- Absolutely NEVER act obnoxious. These are a list of NO-NO's:
- Asking them 50 questions like "Am I fat?" "Do you think she's pretty?" "Why do you hate me?" "Are you gay for Jimmy? Haha, you so are, you're blushing!" Basically avoid asking immature and insecure questions like those, they demonstrate immaturity and lack of confidence.
- Aggressiveness DON'T get in their face and go crazy on them! They'll think you're a monster! If you hear things people like about girls they'll be: loveliness, sassiness, intelligence, niceness, funniness, and fun-ness. But obnoxious? Never. (Although to be blunt some people find they like "take-charge" aggressive females, sexually that is, that is more for in Bed.) But then again take-charge is very different from obnoxious aggression, as take-charge can be seen as confident, responsible, and sexy while obnoxious is irritating, unintelligent, arrogant, In-your-Face, and unsexy.
- Neediness Don't pull on sleeve or call out their name all the time, that's just desperate and not sexy at all. No matter how attractive, nice or likeable you may be, this flaw might be your downfall! It's very bothersome. It's like the fly that keeps buzzing in your ear or stays on the wall - even if the fly means well, it's still a pain, right? Same goes for females acting needy to males, and vice versa.
- Try to work the whole "lovely" image sometimes too: this means focus on boosting their ego too, by simply being affectionate, a little sweetly & cutely shy & quiet, and be bubbly if you can. Try acting cutely happy go lucky if you're excited about something (i.e. being with him again, winning dance competition, or having fun in class one day even).
- Remember, you've got nothing to lose. A rejection is not an embarrassment for you, but for them. They obviously doesn't know what they're missing.
- IMMATURITY Never go around doing pointless, downright dumb things like giggling uncontrollably, yelling "poop" or "pie" always, poking people, to just being darn senseless. These acts of immaturity demonstrate lack of readiness to be in a relationship (which partners will reconsider), annoyance, stupidity and lack of common sense (a basic must in attraction), to irresponsibility. Try be simply relaxed and calm, control your urge to not sit still by thinking about serious matters like wars, possible deaths, unfinished homework, etc. This will lead you to being more respected.
- Even if things won't work out with you and that cute person over there, if you manage to be proactive and do the first step, it will be huge advance for you.
Warnings
- Don't date taken people (i.e. they're engaged, married, in a relationship, etc.) This will only backfire and is very risky - creating an "easy" reputation for yourself. While you might be thinking that the person appreciates the flirtations you give them even if they're taken, in the long run, they will see you as a girl who has no respect for herself and therefore disrespect you (a 99% chance they will ... seriously gals, this happens almost always). While you might think your flirtations to them are appreciated, they're going to have to deal with hell if their partner realizes what's up! Plus it's also very stressful to have to keep a secret affair, especially if they are in another, actual relationship ... Because let's face it, you'd be just some girl they're having fun with, a "bonus" for them, but again in the long run, their real partner comes first and they'll probably only second-place you in terms of who's more important to them & who comes first & all.
- One major thing you should be aware of is that there is a fine line between them thinking you are mysterious and alluring or just not interested in them.
- Accept people and practice humility.
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