Be the Perfect Middle School Girl
Middle school can be a tough time for girls and the pressure to be perfect can be overwhelming because of the influence girls get from the media and their friends. Since, of course, perfection is impossible, this article will just help make you the best you can be and get you as close as you can to perfection.
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Steps
- Do not be one of those girls who ditch their friends and try to hang out with all of the "popular" girls because you want to fit in. That will just lead to your old friends hating you. Keep the friends you have now, but go out of your way to talk to everyone, including the popular kids. The real definition of popular is knowing a lot of people. Make friends in all kinds of social groups.
- Hang out with friends outside of school. Do social things like go to parties, sleepovers, and sporting games for your middle school. It's easy to hang out with one or two people all the time and cling to one best friend, but try to spend time with different people too. Hanging out outside of school might be awkward at first but you'll be surprised at how good of friends you can become with them over time!
- Don't be one of those girls who packs make up on. People would much rather prefer to see someone with a little acne than someone with foundation caked all over their face. If you're still in middle school, the only make up you should really wear is a bit of cover up if you have a blemish, some mascara, a tiny bit of eye liner on your upper lash line, and maybe a light pink blush. Play around with it an find different ways that you like to wear it.
- A big myth is that you have to be rich to wear cute clothes. There are so many places where you can get clothes for less like Ross, TJ Maxx, Forever 21, and Plato's Closet. If you have a little bit of time on your hands and have a lot of patience, you can even try Goodwill or other thrift stores. It might sound scary at first because you picture old ladies digging through old piles of clothes, but it's really not! Sure you have to dig through a lot of clothes from the 80's and 90's, but there are times when you can find something really cute for only a few dollars!
- Having a new phone or iPod will help you fit in a little bit. Again, if you don't have a lot of money, you can find ones on Craigslist if your parents will drive with you to go get it. Sometimes people switch carriers a month or so after buying a phone and will sell theirs for cheaper than what they bought it for!
- Of course in middle school you don't need to be in a serious relationship, but if you know a boy who you think is cute, try to get to know him better! You never know what could happen!
- Wear different clothes. You don't have to wear what everyone else is wearing or follow every trend. Mix and match your old clothes with newer ones for your own spin on things.
- Make a Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram account so you can chat with your friends. Most girls in Middle School have an Instagram, Tumblr, Snapchat, Oovoo or various other social networks.. See what's trending! What is the app that everyone uses?
- Be a nice person to everyone. It does not matter how nerdy the person is. The more people you have that consider you a friend, the better.
- Make sure you wash your face in the morning and at night. This will keep your face looking fresh and pimple free. If that isn't enough, you can find spot treatments and other things at a drugstore to help with acne.
- Try to mix up your hair styles. Curly, in a ponytail, straight, pinned up, wavy, etc. Make sure you don't put heat on your hair everyday and that you have a good heat protectant. Look up no-heat routines on YouTube!
- Make sure you keep up on your grades! Everybody looks up to smart people, and they'll pay off later! If you need help in class, it's okay to ask your teacher for help after class. Also, be good in class! Nobody likes the loud, interruptive person the teacher always has to yell at.
- Find a true friend. When people think of popularity and friendship, they tend to think that you need a friend who has pretty hair, is rich, and is perfect. Remember no one is perfect, every person has flaws. If you spend your time with someone like this, you will end up feeling jealous and will spend your time trying to impress them, which won't be fun for you. Find someone who likes the same things as you, that you can hang out at home with and just watch movies in your pajamas!
- Ignore rude jealous people. If there's a person in your class who is being mean to you, ignore them and tell an adult. Don't take it personally when they say it. If somebody calls you stupid, ignore them call a teacher or parent. Don't give them the time of day!
- Join an after school program. You could be a cheerleader, artist, dancer, whatever your school has to offer. You can meet new friends in clubs and sports!
- Try running for student council president. You could be the ultimate perfect Middle School girl! You can increase your chances by attending Student Council.
- Smile naturally. Smile as you can and remember to do it genuinely. When posing for pictures, think of something funny to give you a natural smile and help you smile with your eyes. Do not pout or make duck lips.
- Do not swear. Cussing might make others think that you're an unintelligent, immature person and would most likely ignore you. If if slips out, that can count as an "oops!" moment, but don't make it a habit.
- Have a good sense of humor. Don't be too sarcastic when you joke around, as some people may find this offensive. If someone jokes about that you don't take yourself too seriously and people will admire that
- Try to make eye contact when talking and remember to smile at everyone.
- Have a cute room. It's so easy for girls to just throw things on their floor and have a messy room but having friends over, especially new ones, feels so much better when you have a clean room. If your room has been the same for a long time, switch things out. If you can, paint your walls a light shade of your favorite color that you know you won't get tired of in a long time. Get new bedding or some throw pillows. Donate old stuffed animals or childish decorations. Hang pictures of you and your friends up on the walls. Display your favorite things that you know will make you happy. Change the layout of your room. Don't forget to express your personality throughout your room.
- Have cute school supplies. This can make learning a lot more fun. I know that taking notes is so much better when it's with a cute pen and notebook.
- Take a lot of pictures. No, not duck face pictures of you in your room. Not pictures in the reflection of you and your friends in a bathroom mirror. Actual pictures. Have your mom take one of you and your friends during a sleepover, on the first day of school, on your birthday. When you are older it will be so nice to have actual pictures to look back on. No one wants to have to show their kids pictures of them and friends posing in a mirror.
- Have good hygiene. Shower daily, use a moisturizer, deodorant, a little bit of perfume, brush and floss your teeth well. Nothing turns people off to someone more than a bad odor
- Have gum with you. It's nice to have to offer to friends or even someone who sits next to you that you don't know.
- Keep your nails looking nice. This can be one of the first things people notice about you. You don't have to get manicures or have them painted all of the time, but keep them clean, shaped, and over all nice looking. If you want to use bright nail polish, painting your toes with it can be a better idea than painting your finger nails lime green. Stick to shades like red, pink, nude, champagne.
- If something is happening that you are stressed out about think, "Will this matter in one year?" If not, remind yourself it's not the end of your world.
- Remember you will never be perfect. You will make mistakes and you will learn from them, but hopefully this article will make your life easier.
- Be yourself! Yes, it may sound cheesy but it's true! Nobody likes someone who isn't true to themselves. Everyone is already taken, there is only one you. You wouldn't want 4 of you, do you?!
Tips
- Don't try to be fake. Don't hang out with people that aren't your real friends.
- Get good grades. That is what will really matter 5 years from now.
- Be confident
- Be helpful without an attitude.
- Don't be mean, to anyone.
- Be approachable.
- Don't get obsessed with trying to fit in.
- Stay updated with current affairs.
- Be a bargain hunter, you can get a lot more for your money.
- Never ever give in to peer pressure. If your pressures you into doing something bad that you really don't wanna do walk away and tell a teacher immediately.
- Smell good. Nothing is more inviting than a sweet aroma. Never pour on too much perfume. That is overbearing and gives headaches. An easy way to apply the correct amount of perfume with a spritz-bottle is to spray just in front and above you, wait three seconds, then walk through the mist. It will scent your clothes, hair and skin with the fragrance without becoming too overpowering.
- Watch some TV shows that other people at school like, but only if you like them too.
- Don't ever overdo on make up. A simple look natural is always best when meeting new people.
- Trust your instincts, if something seem to be wrong, tell a teacher quickly. Don't be shy.
- Be yourself! Acting like someone else makes you look like a fake.
- Try to get good grades because once it's time to get into college they can see everything.
- Never be in company of show off girls or that who don't respect you and teachers.
Warnings
- Don't ditch your real friends.
- You have to respect other people. If you stay updated on the school gossip, you can't humiliate people or spill people's secrets. Remember, they're THEIR secrets!
- Don't get obsessed.
- Remember many people in middle school are bullies don't let them hurt you
- Remember nobody is perfect.
