Get Over Heartbreak

Heartbreak hurts, and there's no denying it. Everyone will find a different way to get over it, but we all find being dumped or losing a loved one very hard. Easier for some people, but harder for others.

Steps

  1. Don't be embarrassed to cry. You've been hurt - expect the tears to keep coming. There are few people who can get over heartbreak without shedding tears, so let them flow. If you bottle up your feelings, you'll only end up making yourself feel worse later and moving on will be even harder. Let everything loose and don't hold anything back.
  2. Find something to help take your mind off your heartbreak for a while, the feeling will pass with time. Activities you enjoy will help you relax.
  3. Talk to your friends and family. That's what they're there for! A good friend you trust will be a good person to talk to. A parent or sibling may also be a good choice.
  4. Focus on moving on. Focus for a while on your career and family. If you help someone else out, you'll feel good, and have a chance to take your mind off the pain. Good times are a great way to help you get over heartbreak. Keep on going with your day and focus on your work.
  5. Keep it in perspective! Think about the positive things in your life, and what you have left. Think about what you can do with your future, and don't let your loss destroy the rest of your life too. Letting the feeling overcome you will lead you down a road that isn't too pleasant.
  6. Rebuild your life. Get engrossed in new things, and try not to look back on the past. The more you move forward, the less it will hurt. Keep yourself occupied, so you don't have time to be upset. Keep moving forward.
  7. Talk to a professional. You may need to see a psychologist or other such professional person if your grief is really destroying your life. A professional will care and will know how to help you. They can almost certainly offer further and better advice.
  8. Accept it. You might never quite be happy about the event that caused your heartbreak, and you might always shed a tear thinking about it, but eventually you will find that you can live without it getting in the way. Just remember that every relationship is a learning experience, and every learning experience will positively effect your future. Time heals all wounds, especially in the case of heartbreak.

Tips

  • If your heartbreak is because of breaking up, don't start looking again for romance straight away. You need time to heal emotionally, and you will only be left feeling even worse if you end up rejected again.
  • If you find getting to sleep difficult, try listening to some music, or a radio play while you rest. Turn the volume down a little, but make sure you listen to the music or the story, and not to yourself.
  • Find ways to keep yourself occupied. Get a new hobby or activity to keep your mind from dwelling on your loss.
  • It cannot be stressed enough that sharing the burden makes getting over heartbreak a lot easier. A friend or relative can really be what you need to cheer up.
  • If you're mourning, you're not going to be the only one feeling the pain. Talk with other mourners, and you can help each other out. The burden is a lot easier when you share it.
  • Try writing it down in a diary. Sometimes writing down what happened can help to put things into perspective.
  • Plan an activity with a friend or just plan a hang out to talk to him or her about it.
  • If you've been dumped, it's not the end of the world. Remind yourself that no relationship is entirely perfect. It can be hard to remember that when you're in the middle of heartbreak.
  • Make sure you make time for YOU , go and get a manicure , a pedicure , a massage, your hair done , this is the time to pamper yourself.
  • Don't let yesterday's failures ruin the beauty of today and tomorrow, just let go and know someone you deserve is waiting for you.
  • Write a letter to the person telling them how you feel you don't have to show the person but it's a good idea to one write how you really feel without people knowing your business and two if you happen to see the person you won't blow up in their face or attack them.

Warnings

  • Don't be driven into drinking, or taking illegal substances by your heartbreak. That way, you'll just end up destroying your own life because of one tragedy, and that's a waste.
  • Don't let your heartbreak stop you from listening to advice. Although you may not believe it now, your friends and family probably have a better view on the matter than you do, because heartbreak makes things look a whole lot worse.
  • Don't let heartbreak drive you into doing anything dangerous. Life will go on, and if you are contemplating ending your troubles, it's time to urgently talk to a professional.
  • You're not to blame! It's very easy to get the idea in your head that either you're entirely to blame or that you had no part in it. Don't kill yourself with guilt and don't entirely detach yourself from the situation. It's unlikely that anyone is really a monster.
  • Don't push yourself onto people, as they may be forced to listen to you and they may feel that they can't really help.

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