Deal With a Girl That Doesn't Love You

You have loved that girl for ages, and you couldn't take it anymore. You told her you loved her, but you don't think she loves you, or she's just rejected you outright. It's time to move on.

Steps

  1. Establish where she stands. Before you take any other steps, you really need to know if this is the right thing to do. It will be incredibly hard to make an emotional U-turn and you may find once you've given up your love, it won't come back.
  2. Deal with the Rejection. There are other wikiHow articles to help you handle rejection. Try 'How to Get Over Rejection', or 'How to Deal with Heartbreak'. The immediate shock of rejection is the first hurdle.
  3. Try to move on. It's probably best at this stage just to move on, and get her out of your thoughts. If you have any mementos, put them away or get your parents to throw them out for you.
  4. Talk to Someone. You need to get this off your chest, so it's probably a good idea to select a good friend or trustworthy family member to just talk about it with. Talking about this will make the getting on with life a great deal easier.
  5. Build a new life. It's time to draw a line under this chapter of your life. Tell yourself you've finished with that. She won't love you, and maybe there's someone who will. All this means is that you have to wait a bit longer.
  6. Join a new activity. It may sound absurd, but joining a new activity leaves you less free time to think about it. You might also find new friends who will take up more of your attention, which will speed up and ease the forgetting process.
  7. Give it some time. Don't go looking for love again straight away. You're still young. Focus on building up your friendships and social life. If love comes knocking at the door in the meantime, it'll be a bonus, but not the object of your search.

Tips

  • Talk to your trusted friends, but not just anybody. If you go telling everyone everything about your love life, you will only end up being ridiculed. Some things are best kept out of public circulation. Gossips are cruel.
  • Remember that one rejection doesn't mean you'll never get married or have a long-term partner. Don't give up hope.
  • If she isn't already, make her your friend, this might alleviate some of the embarrassment.
  • Remember that youth relationships are often flimsy, and because young people are going through a lot of changes, you would probably have ended up breaking up anyway.
  • Try to get over the embarrassment. If you just go up to the girl after a while and laugh it off, it'll be a lot easier to handle. With luck, she'll help you off the hook.

Warnings

  • Don't go looking for love straight after rejection. You'll only end up rejected again because you don't know the new person well enough. If you're not careful, you could end up being seen as desperate. The last thing you need is to become a magnet for bullies.
  • Don't let one rejection ruin you. If you get bitter or become self-loathing, you will only put other people off you.
  • Don't hold a grudge against the girl! If you do that, you will only make things worse, and you could end up losing other friends.

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