Survive a Break Up (Girls)

Whether or not it's your first partner, this article will help you how to survive a break up with grace and dignity. Everybody breaks up sometime. Now is the time to find ways on how to heal and get over it. Most people just need to know how to deal with it in a way that doesn't make you look like you are stupid. Here are some following steps you can take for getting over that certain person and leaving with your head held high.

Steps

  1. Do not cry in front of them - you don’t want to look like a basket case and make them think that they're making the right decision. Hug them goodbye, wish them luck with life, and leave with pride. If you have good self esteem, you know that it is their loss.
  2. Get in the car and let out a good scream when you’re at least two blocks away from their house. Blast angry, loud music, and let it out.
  3. Drive to your best friend’s house for a shoulder to cry on. They will be able to make you laugh and say all the right things to make you feel better, such as: You’re too sweet, pretty, nice, popular, and smart for your ex-partner.[1]
  4. Cry. Have a long, good cry.[2]
  5. Box up all the things that they gave you, or that remind you of them. Put them in a box for a time when you’re less emotional and want to look back at them. Do not act hastily and throw out or burn things, you may want them in the future.[3]
  6. Print out all emails they sent you; gather up all letters they wrote you. Then, delete the emails and give the paper copies to a friend to keep in a safe place. This will prevent you from going back and obsessing over the emails, but they will still be there if you want them in the future.
  7. Cut off all contact with them for at least a month; this will help the healing process because you won’t be talking to them all the time.[4]
  8. Always look good if you see them regularly at work or school. Don’t look like you’re trying, but always look good so that they regret their decision.
  9. Make them work for your attention when they do come back around. Even though you may still like them, make them think that they have to win you back, and that you have other prospects out there waiting for you.[5]
  10. Make sure you're strict about you staying if you let them back in. Make them think you chose to be back with them rather than other people that asked you out.



Tips

  • Try talking to people who you can trust. Don't hide in the closet and wait for everything to be over!
  • Relax. If they truly are the love of your life, things will work out for the best in the end.
  • Stay busy. If you’re constantly doing something, you will have less time to think about them. This will also make you look more appealing to them because you’re busy.
  • Surround yourself with things that you love - that don't have to do with them! Friends, movies and ice cream do help!
  • Don't always be smiling. Constantly smiling to falsify your happiness can be creepy, and it won't fool anyone.
  • Don't beg them to come back because that can make you look very desperate.
  • Try listening to some good music and avoid listening to sad songs; they will make you cry and miss them.
  • Do not call them! Never, under any circumstances. This will make you look desperate to have them back. You do not want this!
  • You can often stay friends with your ex even though it might seem hard, so don't stress about never seeing them again.

Warnings

  • You will find someone soon! Time heals all wounds. Time is the only way to actually get over someone.
  • Nobody said love was easy, and nobody said love would be this hard, but try to stay strong!
  • Caution, guys can break your heart!
  • This plan is not foolproof; you may still be broken-hearted.
  • Whatever you do, don't take revenge. They might think you're immature and will never speak to you again. And you don't want that now, do you?
  • You can still be friends with them!

Things You'll Need

  • Music (listening to your favorite band/artist always helps. No love songs!)
  • Tissues
  • Blanket
  • Favorite movie

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References

  1. ↑ https://www.mcgill.ca/counselling/files/counselling/surviving_a_break-up_-_20_strategies_0.pdf
  2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201103/10-tips-survive-break
  3. ↑ https://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/relationships/g4684/what-not-to-do-after-a-breakup/?slide=16
  4. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201103/10-tips-survive-break
  5. ↑ https://www.mcgill.ca/counselling/files/counselling/surviving_a_break-up_-_20_strategies_0.pdf
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