Get Over a Cheating Boyfriend

It's hard enough getting over a breakup. But when you're getting over a guy who cheated, it's even tougher. Discovering that your boyfriend has cheated on you can be one of the worst emotional pains imaginable. Use this guide to help move on with your life.

Steps

  1. Arrange to meet with him face to face. Text messaging, by letter, email, or over the phone breakups never are clear. Be absolutely sure he is cheating on you. Tell him what you feel. Talk it out, no matter how long it takes. There is no other way you can develop a sense of closure.
  2. Look in the mirror.Tell yourself you are beautiful and smart, and that the cheater does not deserve you. They aren't worthy of your time, energy, or thoughts. They cheated because they weren't secure enough in themselves.
  3. Go out with your friends. Do something for the first time. Distract yourself from the pain. It will hurt for a while, but it does not need to consume you.
  4. Indulge yourself. Treat yourself to a spa or getaway, or pamper yourself at home. Eat some of your favorite chocolate. Get a manicure. Whatever makes you feel better.
  5. Promise yourself you'll learn from your mistakes. Look back on any warning signs or red flags that you ignored that would show he was cheating. Vow to not be fooled again and to look more carefully for a guy who cares enough to be faithful.
  6. Don't get jaded. Just because one boyfriend cheated on you doesn't mean they all will.
  7. Don't blame yourself, instead tell yourself that you are beautiful and he made the biggest mistake by losing you.
  8. Let him go, and accept the fact that he cheated, if you keep him it's possible he may go back cheating.
  9. Smile and live life to the fullest.
  10. Don't close your heart, just be careful around guys but give it a try one more time when you are sure that another guy is truly sincere.
  11. Make yourself feel hot--whatever that means for you. If he sees you, he will very much regret cheating on you and feel that he was a fool to do that



Tips

  • Indulge your self with things to occupy your mind and time, e.g., reading, shopping, swimming etc....
  • Take a vacation. Go hiking, once you get on top of a mountain, scream out loud that you will never go back to him.
  • Invite some friends to go to a movie.
  • Forgive him, but make it clear to him that the relationship is over if you are very sure you don't want to give him another chance
  • Write down how you feel about what he did to you, giving him clear instructions as to what you don't want to happen,e.g., have him contact you, etc, then at the end tell him his game with you is over, then when your ready post it to him.
  • Listen to some good breakup songs, you will get over it quicker!

Warnings

  • If he loves you he will break off any other relationships that will cause drama in your relationship. Anything negative that he allows, is just because he allows a third party in. At the end, it means he only loves himself.
  • Stick to your word, don't let him convince you that he will change, those are empty promises. People don't change, in essence you are who you are!
  • Sometimes, what you consider "cheating" is not what he thinks is cheating. You might think taking another woman out on a date is cheating, but it will not be cheating for him. Whatever this misunderstanding leads to, stick to your standards and what is comfortable for you. Otherwise, you'll be stuck with a lifetime of "cheating" which will feel very much like betrayal whatever you call it.
  • Don't drink or use any form of escapism. This will make things worse.
  • Be careful about accepting his apologies. If he really loved you, he wouldn't have cheated in the first place!
  • Be absolutely sure he is cheating or you will chase off the poor guy.

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