Get a Boy to Date You when He's Already Dating

Many girls have wondered how to make the boy they like go out with them instead of his girlfriend. This article will teach you how to get a boy to date you when he is already dating.

Steps

  1. Find a male who is in a relationship, to whom you are genuinely attracted to. It is possible to steal a boyfriend you are not attracted to, but if the boyfriend stealing is being performed as revenge on a girl you dislike, be warned, it will backfire!
  2. Establish some sort of contact with the boy, if at all possible. It can be for anything, homework/work help, chatting on the phone, advice on something, etc. Make it something where he will be helping you but won't have to go out of his way to do so. If it's a major inconvenience, he may say no.
  3. Whenever talking to him, keep the conversation light, and let him do almost all the talking. Show him how much you enjoy listening.
  4. Thank him for whatever he has done for you, even if it is of no real help. Compliment him on how well it was done. Tell him that if he ever needs anything at all, you are there for him.
  5. Continue conversing with him. Be ready to listen to him moan about all his problems, especially relationship problems.
  6. When he talks about his girlfriend, remain positive about her. In general, however, take note of anything he mentions about her that he dislikes and try not to be like her. Sympathize with him when he is upset and remind him you will always be there when he needs you.
  7. Whatever quality he mentions he dislikes in her, become the opposite. If he thinks she shops too much, tell him you hate shopping. If he's upset that she doesn't like watching football, ask him to come to a match with you. If he thinks she's too uptight, engage in childlike pranks with him. But don't change yourself too much because he should always like you for who you are and who you're not. If he is going to leave his girlfriend for you then he should be leaving her for a good reason rather than for a false personality. Just engage yourself in his hobbies.
  8. Bring out your sexiest outfits. He will be beginning to see you in a different light. Yet, do not engage in serious flirting with him at this point. Try to leave him some clues but don't be obvious with him, it could harm your chances of him leaving her, as he will no longer see you as a challenge. Don't wear anything too short, be classy, and don't show too much skin.
  9. Find another guy. Anyone. Your crush is beginning to see you in a new way, and this will make him jealous. Continue to tell him how happy you are. Now, when he moans about his relationship woes, reassure him there is better out there, and that perhaps she is overly high-maintenance. He should be at the tipping point of his relationship.
  10. Go to the hair-salon, and ask for a natural-looking blowout. Your hair will be shiny, but don't have it look too done. Have your makeup done professionally, get your nails done, and whatever you need to do to look natural. Find the most flattering casual outfit you can. Have all your waxing done, and try using Nivea to remove any dry skin. Make your skin look as soft and delicious as possible.
  11. Dump the man you are dating. If you don't, you could be caught out, as you are lying. Tell him, and the boyfriend you are stealing, that your man wasn't who you thought. Stick to that story and refuse to elaborate. Whatever you do, try not to change your story.
  12. Phone the boyfriend you are stealing. Tell him everything is messed up with your man, and that you could really use him just now. Ask him to come over. You have your hot but natural look.
  13. When he comes over, stick to your story and tell the him that you would rather just forget about the other guy and move on with your life. Ask him for a hug. Watch DVDs you know he likes. Pretend to enjoy them.
  14. Do not sleep with him. By all means kiss him, but sleeping with him would be counterproductive at this point.
  15. Arrange an outing. Do not stick with the natural look. Show a "little" cleavage. At this point, his relationship with his girlfriend should be damaged beyond repair. Be honest about your feelings, if he does not share his at this point share them, then walk away. He may even follow if he doesn't don't get all upset and angry with the guy.
  16. If he does share them, let him set the pace with breaking it off with her, but be aware he may be playing you to see how you will react. Use caution.
  17. Once he has ended his relationship with her, you can really move on together, but remember if he left her, he could leave you. Try not to be anything like his ex, and whatever you do, don't point out the wrongs in his ex.
  18. When things start going better, go even farther with the relationship and see where you end up.

Tips

  • Make sure you are not friends with his girlfriend or you will feel guilty about going out with him!
  • He might be hot, but he could also be heartless. Be careful.
  • Tell him you have to go so it doesn't look like you are desperate.
  • In moments of high drama - and there will be many - realize he may back down and return to the status quo. Let it go. You are one step closer. Reassure him with hints or overt signs that he can trust your feelings. Don't lose sight of who you are or he will lose sight of why he is more attracted to you.
  • Never forget this doesn't ride on your emotional ups and downs, it rides on his. Know what they are. If you think he is playing you he probably is. If you trust him, wait it out. If he wants to be with you, eventually he will be.
  • If his girlfriend attends another school than both you and your crush, then you'll have a better opportunity. While all is fair in love and war, make sure you are doing this because you like the boy and not just to get back at his girlfriend.
  • If he is clearly interested in you but can't break the connection to his girlfriend, then you have to let him set the pace. Let him play it until you can't take it anymore or until he definitely shows he wants you. Then let on without ultimatum or emotion. You may have to resign yourself he loves her. If you are right that you are not stalking him and he is attracted, he will make the first move.
  • Be hard to get. Guys love a challenge, so do not completely give yourself to him.
  • If anything, don't let his girlfriend get to you. If he sees you two arguing, he will know you are just trying to break them up. Ignore his girlfriend. If she says anything to you, pretend you don't even care and walk away.

Warnings

  • Don't try too hard for him to notice you. Again he would only think you're desperate and want him to leave his girlfriend for you.
  • Most importantly, don't flirt with him in front of his girlfriend, especially if she is your friend! There is nothing worse you can possibly do to someone and there is almost no way to fix it, so be smart!
  • Guard your heart carefully and listen to it, but don't forget about your head! And most importantly, if this guy is not happy in his relationship, don't let him use you to feel better until his relationship turns around!
  • Remember that if a guy is willing to dump his girl to be with you, he's very capable of dumping or cheating on you with the next interested chick who comes along. Guys whose heads can be easily turned are not worth the effort.
  • If the guy you want is dating your best friend, don't even think about it. No guy is worth losing your best friend.
  • There is a fine line between helping a guy who likes you as much as you like him out of a pre-existing relationship, and acting like a complete clinger. Think a little and have some class!
  • If you try to get his attention, but he just doesn't seem interested, it's very possible that he might really like the girl that he's with. Give up and move on don't get all upset and angry at the guy.
  • Don't sound or look desperate when talking to him or when being around him.
  • If you do get him away from his girlfriend, he may still have feelings for the other girl. Remember, the relationship you have with him may not last long because you will just be a rebound.
  • Don't be the bad guy. Try to not talk badly about his girlfriend. Just be the opposite of her. Your crush will like the "vacation" away from her, unless he really likes her. In that case, just walk away.
  • If he loves his girlfriend, these tips will not work. There needs to be an attraction between you for a successful catch.
  • Don't just wear skimpy clothes and flirt to try to get him to think you're hot, because this is the base for a bad relationship; if you do, he'll just think you're desperate!

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