Get a Boy to Kiss You when You're Not Dating Him

Many girls dream to have their first kiss with that special guy. They have the right guy in their mind but they just don't know how to get him to kiss them. Sometimes at night, they dream of having that first kiss in the most romantic place they could ever think of with their crush. Just read these steps and later, you might get your first kiss soon. Additionally, this may be a way of getting your first boyfriend. Who knows, he may be your future husband!

Steps

  1. Make sure he is single. If he is dating another girl and she finds out you kissed him, that could get dramatic.
  2. See if he's the right boy. Sometimes girls have trouble figuring out if they really do have a crush on "him". This is the time you have to do some investigating. Make a "check list" of 12 things you want most out of your typical dream guy. Sneak around and see what he does, but don't stalk him. He has to have the exact or related things to your quality on that list. He must get a result of 6/12 or above, otherwise he's not really for you. But, if he turns out to be your typical guy, talk to him once in a while to feel comfortable around him for later. Make sure he is into you even if you have to play hard to get.
  3. Give him hints to show you're interested in him. Simple things like smiling at him are not so hard. If you're constantly doing that already, then you can go ahead and skip this step. Don't overdo it though. Technically, the trick here is to not flirt with him (yet). Give him hints for about a week or two and see what happens. Don't overdo this step.
  4. Look for signs that tell he is interested as well. By now, he should start to show some signs he has some interest towards you as well. Don't assume this is going to happen right away, it may take some time for him to express it. If nothing happens at all, repeat step 3 until he does. Signs he might show are:
    • constant staring
    • touching you on the arm or shoulder (doesn't necessarily include tapping)
    • smiling, etc.
  5. Become friends. Now that he's showing signs, you should become friends (unless your crush is already your friend, you can skip this step and move on). This should happen before he asks you out because, it might be so sudden, you might say "no" and he'll feel kind of upset and leave you alone for some time. So, to become friends with him, do the same as you did when you became friends with a guy you don't have a crush on. If your crush is showing signs, the best way to be friends with him is to start by sitting next to him at lunch and start a conversation and find things in common(ex: you're both sports fanatics). Hang out with him for about 2 weeks and eventually you're friends. What might happen is that he might lose interest in you. So to boost his interest up, it's time for you to move on to step 6.
  6. Flirt. It's like giving him hints, but a tad bit more advanced; your hand on his hand, your head on his shoulder (if he doesn't mind), still smiling constantly and turning away when he notices, kinda teasing him from time to time, hug him when he meets up with you to talk, giggling or making short laughs any time he tries to make you laugh. Do this for 10-13 days or until he starts to do the same back at you.
    • Don't overdo it - keep it light. Flirting with him too much could make him uncomfortable.
  7. Ask him to "hang out". Mostly at this point, girls may get a little jumpy. Keep cool though. Don't make it seem like you're planning something. To make your "move", tell your crush to meet you somewhere you know personally that not a lot of people go (but not somewhere dangerous, like an alley). If you want to do this after school, you could invite him over to your house to do homework together, but you can also choose a place like the park or the beach; maybe even in the back of the school or in the school courtyard.
    • Meet him at a time when there aren't many people around, like 5 or 6 o'clock. This way there's not too many people around to see you and him, but make sure the place isn't completely empty, because you don't want to make him feel suspicious about what's going on.
  8. Show more interest and intimacy. When you meet him at the location, greet him by giving him a quick hug. Tell him to sit somewhere (grass, bench, etc.). After a short period of time being quiet, start a small conversation about something that happened a few days ago. If he gets more interested in the story, he might say something to make you smile at the end. Otherwise he'll probably start talking about whatever he likes to talk about. If you didn't like the story too much or it didn't catch your interest, tell another story and if he ends it with a really nice line, say something that might make him look at you and smile. If it does work, look at him and smile back. Try locking the gaze into a stare. Hold it long it enough to make him fade out his smile. Fade out your smile too to make it seem you lost control of yourself. Now he is under your spell. Move over a {{safesubst:#invoke:convert|convert}} closer to him. If he moves forward too it means he's interested in what's happening. If he scoots backward and looks to his side, he's signaling that he's unsure on what's happening or he's shy. If he looks away or says something, it means he's not ready for what's about to happen.
  9. Kiss. Now that you've locked in the gaze, it's time. If his hand is within reach, put your hand on top gently. He might take your fingers and wrap them under his hand. Lean in a little; if he leans in too, he signals he's definitely ready. Get closer, inches from each other's face. If he sits still, he's unsure if he's ready. If he's not really sure, let him know it's okay by putting your cheek against his then lightly plant a kiss on his cheek. If he lightens up, plant a kiss on his lips. If he responds to it by shivering a little or making any small movements, move in a little more and gently tug on his arm to signal him to get closer. Win his attention again by staring into his eyes. If it works, make the big move. Tilt your head 9 degrees in which ever way you are leaning into him. Sometimes boys don't respond to the first lip-to-lip. Try it again and again until he responds. When he does, start the kiss soft and passionate. Tip: think about happy things. This will make things more intense.
    • Bring your arms up slowly and wrap them around his neck gently. He might respond to that by putting his hands on your waist. Eventually, he doesn't have to respond. If you both are still kissing, then he's still into you and the moment.
    • If he backs away from you when you lean in, that's a no. Respect that; don't kiss him when he's not comfortable.

Tips

  • Keep your breath fresh. No guy wants to kiss a girl who seemed to have just eaten raw onion. Sneak some mints into your mouth, or chew mint chewing gum, and brush your teeth every day.
  • Don't change who you are just to impress him.
  • Make sure he is ready before you go in for the kiss. Don't just smash your face against his when you first meet up!
  • Remember to tilt your head. This will keep you from crashing noses together.
  • Try to meet up at a place that is a little significant or has a memory between the two of you. It'll make your kiss that much more memorable.
  • Make sure he's the best guy for you.
  • Don't dress in something you're not comfortable wearing just to impress "him"
  • Never rush things. A guy will appreciate things more if you take it nice and slow.
  • Don't kiss in a public place (store) or in front people you know; especially friends. This will be too embarrassing.
  • There are other ways to show that you are still passionate for him during the kiss. You could wrap your arms around his neck. You can also: Put both your hands on his chest, put one hand on his shoulder, put your hands on his waist, try different moves to make your kiss more interesting, put your hands on his cheeks,rustle around his hair, etc.
  • Don't seem desperate. That will make him think something is wrong. Just be patient.
  • Practice on kissing first before you decide you think the time is right. If you don't know how to kiss, how are you supposed to get him to kiss you passionately?
  • When french kissing him, don't thrust your tongue all over your guy's mouth. It'll feel like a fish out of water in his mouth. Don't make your tongue so floppy at the same time because it'll make it feel like he has a blob in his mouth. To make just right, "train" your tongue to french kiss by standing in front of the mirror and wriggle your tongue around until you feel comfortable with the way your moving it. If it feels right, you're probably doing it right.
  • Close your eyes when kissing, but if you don't want to, you don't have to.
  • If you think he is ready but it gets a bit awkward, just lean back, take a deep breath, and make eye contact. If he feels uncomfortable, smile, and try again.
  • Show how you feel about him. Take him somewhere that is shady, and grassy. Make sure that there are no public around.
  • Wear lip balm/chap-stick; not lip gloss. Not many guys want to have sticky cherry flavored lip gloss all over their lips.
  • Dress and act in your comfort zone.
  • You might want to have a plan in case he rejects the kiss so it's not as awkward.
  • Make sure he likes you and he's going for the same thing.
  • Always make signs to let him get a hint on what you're about to do; if you rush it, he will feel pretty awkward afterwards and may not want to do it again.
  • Don't do it too passionately, as it's just the first kiss!

Warnings

  • Don't rush the kiss. If you do, He may reject you completely and might feel awkward.
  • Don't try necking unless you know he likes it. Some guys aren't comfortable with it.
  • Don't let him think this is moving to something dealing with sex. Let him know that you just want to keep it at that and he should understand.
  • Don't overdo anything.
  • If you feel his hands moving past your waist and you're not ready for that step, tell him to stop. If he continues, stop kissing and tell him you have to go.

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