Impress Your Date

You can still be yourself and impress your date by putting your best foot forward. There's no need to worry about looking too eager, nervous, or just plain awkward. All you have to do to impress your date is to look your best, be as charming as you can, and show your date how special he or she really is to you. The last part should come naturally.

Steps

  1. Remember who you are, and remember who you are trying to impress. Do not try to be someone else, because your fraudulence will shine through. Be the person who they first met.
  2. Hold his or her attention with funny anecdotes and stories, but no corny jokes. Corny jokes may lead to an awkward moment. Laughing often breaks the ice, and everyone loves someone with a sense of humor. Most people love funny stories, but nothing too dirty, especially on a first date.
  3. Dress and look sophisticated. Unless you are taking her to the beach, you probably should not be wearing flip-flops or shorts on a first date. No matter what you do for a living, let him or her know that you enjoy what you do and take pride in it. Don't be too boastful - people usually find that to be rude and offensive. Don't get dress up for basic events, like wearing a ball gown to a local movie theater, or a tuxedo on a picnic in the park. For the girls who are having a trip to the movies maybe a floral dress and a blazer would be nice. ]Be sure to accessorize for a small splash of personality, but don't overdo it! Follow the rule: before you walk out the door, take a look in the mirror and remove one item. Less is more.
  4. Do not complain about everything. Family, friends, work, boss, car, weather, taxes, and gasoline prices should stay out of the conversation. Instead, try to smile and let your date know that you are a fun person - not someone boring who he/she has to talk to.
  5. Buy her flowers. Girls love to receive them. If you want to get her something small instead, buy a candle or a picture frame (not with your picture in it). You want her to know that you were thinking about them while you were apart and that you remember what she likes. Just don't go overboard with the gift. Keep it simple and sweet.
  6. Be courteous. Hold the door and help her with her coat; pull out chairs, do not interrupt her, do not talk on the cellphone on a date, and do not look at other people in the room.
  7. Ask your date about themselves. Try not to be too nosy - don't ask any personal questions. Make your date feel good about his/her career, hobbies, interests, and opinions. Listen attentively as well. People generally hate it when they are asked the same question twice because it tells them that you were not listening the first time. Do not pry into personal matters, and do not tell about private matters in your life.
  8. Compliment her. Tell her she looks lovely, smells good, is intelligent, has a beautiful house - anything that will make her smile. It counts.
  9. Talk about your interests and be relatively open with them. Talk about her interests as well, and try to focus on mutual interests, since both of you will be able to contribute. Who knows? She may like the things you like and know a lot more about them than you thought she would. What about history, cars, music, movies? Your date may very well share some of your interests, and it could make for a great conversation and allow you both to find some common ground.
  10. The kiss. Some people will prefer not to kiss on the first date, unless they have kissed before. When kissing in a public area, you need to respect the other people around you - don't go overboard with the kiss! You might want to kiss at the end of the date to close it off. Bring a mint or breath spray, but do NOT bring gum. It's unattractive to chew in front of your date! Keep the kiss quick and sweet - don't French kiss unless if you have done it with your date before, and you are in a secluded area. Remember - your date may be just as nervous as you are about kissing!



Tips

  • Important - if you say you are going to call your date, call her. In addition, try not to be late on dates.
  • Do not speed when driving with your date. They will not be impressed. People are more comfortable when they are not expecting to fly through your windshield.
  • If your date has any pets, you don't have to pick them up or play with them right away, but don't reject the animal immediately. However, be honest with your date if you are allergic. Better safe than sorry.
  • For a first kiss, do not try to swallow their face. Leave a lasting positive impression by some eye contact and perhaps a little bit of tasteful and gentle touching.
  • Do not reach for very sexual parts of your date's body immediately. If you want to make some relatively early physical contact, reach for her hand, hair, perhaps the neck but within reason, or back.
  • Try to adjust the temperature in your car or house to accommodate your date. Do not suffer, but do not be inconsiderate either. It is best for your date to be comfortable when he or she is in your environment.
  • If you really want to impress your date, try not to take her to a bar on a first date. They might not feel 100% comfortable with it and may not hold alcohol very well. You may have the same problem. Try a coffee shop; it affords you both a chance to talk and to get to know each other a little better. Dinner could be nice but is probably better for a second or third date. Movies are nice too, but allow a little conversation time. Save the movie for a second or third date as well; that way, during the movie, you can let them lean against you, or move closer to you without feeling uncomfortable about it.
  • It is generally a good idea to get to know your date's parents a bit if possible and to try to make a decent impression.
  • If you have one of those silent moments, just drop in a quote from a famous person to make her laugh or ask her what she thinks about it. Memorize one or two key quotes.
  • Learn if she idolizes anyone, and see if you can't find a quirky, cute quote or saying for her to remember the date, at its best.

Warnings

  • A major cause for rejection is talking too much about past relationships.
  • Do not get drunk or lose control of yourself.
  • Try not to focus on her flaws. There is a reason you asked your date out in the first place. Focus on her good qualities.
  • Do not get into a heated discussion over religion, politics, or money. This is not the time for it. Surely, it is acceptable to let them know some of your beliefs and opinions at some point but not right away.
  • Lying about not being married is a sure way to be rejected.

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