Know What Mature Boys Look for in Girls
Many girls or young women would rather spend time with someone older or more mature, given that the guys in their own age group don't always appeal to them.
These tips aren't just to help you find and keep an older guy's affections, though; they're designed to make you more mature in the process.
Steps
- There are so many girls who are basically throwing themselves away at guys by acting promiscuously in their manner of dress, their style of speech, not to mention socially and sexually compromising themselves in order to get a boyfriend. Respect yourself and you will still stand out — but in a much more flattering way.
- Mature guys like mature girls, but not if it's fake. If you try to act really wise by talking about serious subjects, a guy will notice if you actually don't know anything about it, and you'll look fake and wanna-be. However, really knowing something by reading the paper or watching the news can help your mature and intelligent image. Boys are more about the looks, older guys also appreciate a little wisdom!
- Be polite and courteous. Greet people you know when you see them, including adults and authority figures (parents, teachers, etc.). You'd be surprised about how good you will feel afterwards.
- Smile. People love to see smiling faces. The sense of happiness is key.
- Be confident and self-assured. Focus on the good things in your life. Strive to make each day positive.
- Visualize success in everything you do, but be prepared to deal with failure just as easily. This adaptability will be seen as a positive asset.
- Stay on top of your work, and keep your mind active. Do not act dumb, no matter how cute and attractive you think it is. No matter what or whom you are attracted to, don't hide your intellect for a certain guy's attentions.
- Love your friends and family and treat them with respect. This should go without saying for a positive image, but still... Just do it.
- Be yourself. Guys like creativity and honesty. That is all shown when you're being yourself.
- Stay clean. Smoking, drinking, drug use, stealing, profanity - those are all turnoffs. Drinking a lot even when at the appropriate age limit still can show insecurity and immaturity.
- Use your time wisely. Be able to manage your time for yourself, but allow for some flexibility to spend time with others.
- Be tactful. Stay true to your opinions and values, but also be respectful of the opinions of others. (If a guy doesn't respect a woman who is not a pushover, then he isn't very nice now, is he? At the same time, if a guy wants to do nice things for you, don't automatically assume that letting him help you will automatically undermine your independence.)
- Learn how to read a situation. Just because a guy is making a sexual move on you, doesn't mean he thinks you're easy or immediately wants sex with you. Most often when a guy starts making more serious moves, he is just trying to figure out how far you'll let him go. With respectable guys, all you have to say is no, and they are more than happy to abide by that. But they don't know how far they can go — or how far you want them to go — so they test to see. A guy can be more contented with a girl who knows her boundaries than with a girl who just isn't sure or needs more time to think about the situation. Just tell him that whatever he's going for will come with time, and he should respect that. (If not, forget him and move on. There are other guys out there who will respect that.)
- Don't constantly complain that you think you're too clumsy, or your hair is too frizzy, or your nose is too big. A little self-deprecating honesty is refreshing, but if you think those things are wrong with you and your body, he'll eventually start to agree. Be honest, but don't put yourself down in doing so.
- Guys like "shiny" things, and that doesn't necessarily mean they like the girls wearing micro-miniskirts and 5-inch stiletto heels. It means that they want to be around someone who has a "glow" or unique charm about her.
