Make a Guy Friend a Boyfriend

Sometimes great friends become great lovers. The thing is though, the other person has to feel the same way. You can't make that person want you in a more intimate way; there has to be a meeting of minds and desires. So, if you've had an epiphany and feel that your guy friend is suddenly the one for you in the love stakes, you'll need to tread with care.

Steps

Working through your own feelings

  1. Work through your feelings before doing anything else. It is important to know that your changed feelings towards your friend are for real and are not just some flight of fancy brought about by a soppy movie or seeing other friends together as couples. This must be a genuine hit-in-the-gut experience, when you surpass the standard friendship reality and envision the two of you together for years to come. Ask yourself:
    • Is this real? Or am I just wanting something that I know isn't going to work out?
    • Do I have the fortitude to cope with being rejected if I suggest a more intimate relationship and he rejects me? Do I think things can be patched up should this happen?
    • Has he shown me any signs of interest?
    • Is he currently in a relationship?

Checking out his current status

  1. Be certain that he's free from commitment. It's no good barging in on an existing relationship he has with someone else, proclaiming that he's making a mistake by not choosing you instead. Not only will this seem very out-of-the-blue to him but it's possible that your friendship won't recover if he sees this as an act to destabilize and existing relationship.
  2. If he is dating someone right now, back off. Nurture your friendship. If you still feel this way down the track and he breaks off with this person, you'll be there for him. If he doesn't break it off, then friendship it was meant to be. Hollywood movies aside, it is just not that helpful to go around busting up your friend's love life.
  3. If he had an ex recently, find out whether he is over the ex yet. If he still has a fire for his ex, you don't want him as a beau. So, how do you find out? Ask him! Do it casually, as part of your usual conversations. Get him to talk about his feelings for his ex, whether they're good or bad. Get him to reveal whether he's seen his ex lately, if they still keep in touch, and so forth. If he's not over his ex yet, back off. If he is, then consider him available (with caution, of course).
  4. If you've recently had an ex, reassure him that you're over this person. Let your guy friend know in no uncertain terms that you are 100 percent over that "person" who broke your heart. Still being hung up on an ex is a major deterrent for any person seeking a close relationship; nobody wants the drama and disappointment that comes with that. Hence, if you want this guy friend to know that you're available, make your relationship health status very clear.

Revealing your interest

  1. Hint to your guy friend that you're interested. Let your guy friend know how much you highly think of him and how much you think he would make a great boyfriend for someone one day. It is a subtle yet obvious enough clue to hear that you think he would actually make a fabulous boyfriend.
  2. Ask him out on a date. But don't call it a date. In its place, invite him out to the movies one night, as friends. If he asks you out the following weekend and you ask him about again, the next thing you know, you both will find yourself dating.
  3. Text and e-mail him. Send him comical text messages and e-mails. It's a fantastic way to build your friendship and future relationship. Guys want to feel that they can be themselves with you. By letting all hang out, you're letting him know that you're fun and cool at the same time.

Tips

  • Don't come onto him too suddenly. He will possibly freak out and just want to remain friends. Take it slow.
  • Just be honest and open. In relationships, always be honest and open. Tell him how you feel. That's it.
  • Still talk to him like you are his friend. After all, you are, it's just that you want to take it to another level now.

Warnings

  • If he seems uncomfortable, take a step back.
  • Don't move too fast.
  • Don't stalk him.
  • Don't take it too far (he may think you are disgusting)

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