Reconcile a Friendship
Feeling guilty about a fight with a friend? Want to make up? Read on and follow these steps to get your friendship back to normal in any and all circumstances.
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Steps
- Think about the problem. Example: Did you insult your friend? Did she/he insult you? Do you feel that your friend doesn't like you anymore, or are you just tired of each other? To solve the problem, you must first assess the situation.
- Be brave and make the first move.Think of ways to present your thoughts to your friend. Obviously, landing up at her/his house at 2 a.m isn't the right choice, why not give your friend a call, or send a letter, or an email. With all this cool technology these days, there are at least a million options you could choose from.
- Make sure to be the more mature person. Apologize for any mistake. Present your views in a diplomatic manner, and even if she/he does not do so, you should refrain from screaming, swearing or others of the like. That is definitely not going to help!
- After you have given your friend your view of the problem, ask her/him what she/he thinks. It's important for you to know what you have done wrong so you can correct your mistakes and lead a happy relationship!
- After the problem has been solved, give your friend some time to think over. Don't immediately go back to your usual self. Take some time to mend your ways, they will do the same, and then you can resume your friendship!
Tips
- After the problem has been solved, give your friend some time away from you, because if she/he really is a friend, they will miss you and will immediately come back!
- Don't manipulate and wait for them to come to you. It takes two to cause a problem, so you're just as responsible as they are. Be humble and apologize. Once you've reconciled with God and apologized to them, the ball is in their court, and even if they don't reconcile, you have a clear conscience.
- If nothing works, just leave the friend alone for a while and see if she/he comes back. If they don't, well, they may feel very hurt, and it is time for you to correct your manners and start a new friendship.
- It is best to seek resolution through email if you aren't very good at talking it out.
Warnings
- Never physically abuse a person. Not only is this physically dangerous, as they will be injured, but also mentally, as they will never ever be able to forgive you or see you as a friend again.
- Never swear, scream, shout or yell at your friend, this will stay in their mind forever, and they will think twice about being friends with you again.
