Write a Secret Admirer Letter to Your Crush
There are many ways to connect with the girl you like. Truth be told, girls of any type like to feel pretty or loved once in a while, whether they admit it or not. Boost her confidence with these tips and tricks of the trade.
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Steps
- Start off by writing a simple note. But, you must be careful not to seem like a stalker. Today, that is a huge turn-off for any girl. Don't make it feel "mysterious" or "freaky" like you're watching her. Try simply and subtly explaining your feelings, and make an attempt of writing your name.For example, write something like this:Hi, (name here). You are one of the prettiest girls in school. Remember that and don't believe anyone who says you're not.Sincerely, (write name in pen and scribble out, or maybe erase if in pencil, to let her know you are genuine and thought about telling her your feelings and you're not just a stalker)This is a great way to let a girl feel great. With this one little sign that some person is out there and is willing to love her and thinks she's pretty will leave her smiling for days.
- Find out where her locker is and slip it in there, or be creative and slip in one of her books. Just be careful not to put it in a really weird place that will make her feel uncomfortable. Alternatively, you can get your friend to give it to that person.
- Leave subtle hints that it's you, don't leave her hanging. Write "see you in chemistry" or "see you on the bus" to leave her guessing.
- Try leaving the notes in places that you are in. Like in a class you both share, especially if she's next to you. If she is thrilled to get a secret admirer letter and happy someone feels this way, she will tell you everything, which is a good sign. If she acts annoyed, you probably have gone too far and should stop. Don't stop immediately, or she will get tipped off.
- Try to see her reaction. If she's happy, trust me, this is a good sign. Whether she likes you or not, she will appreciate the special little steps you took in order to make her happy and feel loved. If she looks annoyed, it's a good idea to stop gradually. Try apologizing in one of your last notes and watch her reaction while she reads it. If she likes the extra attention, she will try very hard to find out who you are, but if she looks relieved, you have gone too far in her mind and you should forget about the notes. If she tells her friends right away, she is happy and wants to find out more.
- If you see she is trying really hard to find out her secret admirer, leave her a note saying "meet me here(then time and place)"Don't come out and say your name. Be careful not to give it away. If she doesn't feel the same way she will try to ignore you or tease you and make fun. If she does, she will first try to see if you are serious. One of a girl's biggest fears when she gets a note is if the "secret admirer" really likes her or not, or if he's just trying to get her hopes up just to watch her fall.
Tips
- If she's into you, she will try to get more information out of you, like asking your opinions, or asking you who you think it is. Don't give a straight "yes" or "no" answer to one of her suggestions. Then she will know it is you. Instead, say yeah, or nah jokingly. If she hopes it is you, she won't ask if it is you, she will ask if you know anything, give her subtle hints you do know a little something. Take an interest to her thoughts or opinions, like who she hopes it is. If she's looking at you like she wants more, just look back at her, subtly hinting you know who it is, without giving it away. Make sure you don't say anyone else, this will blow your chances for good. Also, be resolute to the fact you will not tell her who it is. This will leave her guessing, and if she likes you, she will be left hoping that it is in fact you.
- Try to leave notes in a public place so you can watch her reactions(explained above), and it won't feel weird that you are there. For example, secretly slip it in her locker and when she opens her locker to see the note, open yours or talk to friends in the same hallway. Don't look directly at her, or she will get tipped off.
- It helps if you are friends with her. If she's excited, freaked or grossed out, she will tell you her feelings about the note, and you should be able to get hints on whether to continue or stop.
- Do not say mean or offensive things.
- Just say things from the heart, but don't go crazy with the words. You don't want to sound creepy!
- You might want to write the first letter of your name instead of rubbing or crossing out your full name, or else it might be too obvious.
- Act normal like if you never did it at all so she won't find out .
Warnings
- Don't sound like a stalker.
- Don't stand her up.
- Don't say "yes" or "no" if she asks your opinion on suggested guys.
- If she asks you, don't deny it. If you really like her you should never be ashamed. Whether you're her secret admirer or not, always stand up for who you like and don't deny. Your heart trumps anything else in the end. Remember that before it's too late.
- If it turns out she doesn't like you, its okay. Stay calm and still let her know you're here if she needs a friend. If you still like her, talk to her and compliment what she is wearing. If you talk to her more, she will become more attracted. If she turns on you and starts teasing you, she was not a good catch in the first place.
