Accept that Your Crush Doesn't Like You

At least once in your lives, you will find someone you have strong feelings for, and sadly, they won't always feel the same. Find out how to accept this and move on with your life.

Steps

  1. Write down all the things that you dislike about him/her. Admiring and longing for them won't help you feel better, it will make you feel even more desperate to be liked by them, and this could lead to infatuation and depression, if it hasn't already. Listing all the bad points will bring a downfall on the admiration you feel for them.
  2. List your hobbies, friends, family, where you hope to be in the future. In the end, all you have is yourself. You can't go your whole life wishing you had someone else, and depending on them with all your might. Think about future careers, and remember: you don't need that one person for you to be successful, there will be others.
  3. Don't contact this person. The contact will make you want to be drawn even closer, and if you're not liked by this person, you're going to get even more heartbroken. Accept that this person doesn't return the feelings for you, for whatever reason. But there will be someone who does. However, if this person is your friend, you can still contact them, but if you see them, always try to look at them as if you are related in some way which will probably bring you to not be as attracted to him or her as you were before.
  4. If you have a social network, don't look at their profile. Looking at their profile may bring back memories that you shared with them before and make you even more heartbroken.
  5. List all the things you like about yourself. And don't write nothing! Ask friends and family how they would describe you, and build from that. There is only one of you in the whole world and anyone would be blind not to realize.
  6. Show yourself how much better you are without them. If they don't like you as much as you like them, it's their loss. You should be the more superior person because you are YOU. Show him/her what they're missing out on. And 99.9% of the time, they will be back.
  7. Keep yourself occupied. Moping around in your dark room in bed won't solve anything. Go out and get some fresh air, read a good book, spend time with friends. It's your own life and you deserve a chance to live it. Don't let one petty person get you down. The more active you stay, the more you will come to realise that there is a whole world out there with 7 billion people, and that is not dominated by that one individual.
  8. Delete their number. Erase their email. Push them out of your lives completely. It's harsh, but it is the only way to get over them. The pain hurts more without them at first, but imagine the pain it would be if you were to stay in your isolated state. Send a silent goodbye and move on with your growing life. However if this person is a close friend, try not to contact them as much, and slowly you will realize that if you hang out with other people, you will eventually forget how much you like this person and move on.
  9. Remember that there are more people in the world. Even though that one person doesn't reciprocate your feelings, doesn't mean other people won't. Don't rush love over this one person. You might find someone that's better.

Tips

  • Do not be rude to this person. Be normal and pleasant, act as if you're not bothered, they're just another person like everyone else.
  • if this person goes to your school, it's okay to talk just don't get attached to them and feel awkward. Act casually, as if nothing ever happened and you've moved on.
  • If you ever feel an urge to get near to this person, make sure you stop yourself. If you want to talk to someone, talk to friends.
  • it's not like this is true love, remember that you'll find someone else.
  • Don't hurt yourself over this person there will be others!
  • Actually talk to friends and family about your crush. Keeping the problem bottled up inside you could make it worse. A problem shared is a problem halved.
  • If the person prefers to be friends, try to be understanding. If you are not interested in being friends, then politely say no, however if you wish to remain friends then keep that relationship strong.
  • If your crush doesn’t like you, learn to accept it. This is the best thing you can do to make yourself happy. There are many people out there. You just need to find the right one. And always remember, you should love yourself before anyone else.
  • You have to accept it. If you feel that he does not like you, It's for a reason. Ask him what's going on and If he tells you what's going on, you should improve yourself there.

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