Avoid a Girl With a Crush
Uh-oh! The girl with the crush on you seems to be appearing everywhere these days... You're well aware that she fancies you but you're less than keen on having her follow you around and you're most certainly not contemplating dating her. What now? Here are some ways to give the girl with a crush the slip.
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Steps
- Talk to her. Tell her that you're flattered that she seems to to like you but that you're not in a place to date anyone right now. Help her to understand that this means you're busy and emotionally unavailable. Some good excuses include:
- "I'm really focused in work/sport's try outs, etc., right now"
- "School comes first".
- Give her a few days to let this information sink in. Hopefully she'll leave you alone. If she does not, continue with the remaining steps.
- Avoid making eye contact. Whenever she tries to come near you, pretend like you cannot see here there and talk right through her to your buddies. This might break her heart, but that's what you want right?
- Nod whenever you pass casually in the hallway and don't smile, so that it's not a greeting, but an acknowledgment. A smile will always be interpreted as encouragement.
- Don't pick up that phone if she calls you! Never answer her messages, not even to say you're not interested; that's an acknowledgment of reading it and that gives her too big an angle.
- Resist having any conversations with her. This will increase her hope and it will be too easy to put a false slant on your enthusiasm.
- Find someone for her to hook up with. If she persists and seems nice enough, match her with someone else!
Tips
- If she definitely is in love with the idea of you, because you guys haven't even had a conversation yet! In that case, maybe you don't know her yet either. Try to talk to her. Maybe she's the girl of your dreams.
Warnings
- Be nice to her but not too nice so she couldn't tell everyone you're mean and it could get around to the girl you like.
