Be a Casanova
There is a fine line between being a player and being a Casanova. Giacomo Casanova was a historical figure of the XVIII century, upon whose fame, fortune and misfortunes that the term came to be known as that of a great lover, which indeed he was. But being a Casanova -being like "The Casanova"- is much more than getting women to bed. It's about developing a charm and charisma which will get you, like him, anywhere you may please.
It is of course no easy feat, but it will change your life forever, for the better or for the worse, if you have the courage.
Contents
Steps
- Read "Histoire de ma vie" Casanova's autobiography. He wrote the book for one reason alone: I am writing my life to laugh at myself, and I'm succeeding. His book Is over 4,000 pages of outrageously fun stories about a single man's adventures conquering the world through his charm.
- Listen. Actually listening to somebody is the single most important rule you'll ever learn about people -especially women. Listen to what they have to say. All people have dreams, fears, hopes and thoughts. Listening to them will be the greatest gift you can give to anybody, great or small, wise or ignorant, and if you can do that for them, they'll love you in return.
- Have fun. The only reason to lead a life of adventure is to enjoy it. Power, money, pleasure and excitement will come all in due time but they will be just spices on the main dish. Even the charm and charisma which you'll learn are mere accessories to the ultimate goal of enjoying your freedom to do what you love. Don't be too serious about life. This will project you as more cool and confident person, which are qualities of a Casanova.
- Love, laugh and live as hard as you can.
- Don't be afraid of swimming against the tide, but do not hate the people who frown upon your actions.
- Gamble when you can't afford to lose. This may seem like terrible advice, but you'll never be as creative, as fast and as brave than when losing is not an option.
- Seek that which you can't have. Always have the die hard attitude to achieve goals in life which you have desired to have in life and develop abilities to achieve them.
- When you lose it all you'll learn that you didn't need it in the first place.
- Don't be afraid. Nothing worth remembering has ever came from being afraid. If you get fired from your job, well, you probably didn't like it anyway. If your girl leaves you, there still plenty of fish in the sea. If you get shot in the leg, well, you had it coming anyway.
- Feel it rather than think about it. A thousand women may fall in love with your dreams, none will love you for your reason.
- Don't listen to people. Most of them have a way of telling you that the life of a Casanova is full of sin, moral perversion and deviousness. For the most part this is true. But the world needs dreamers too. They may never understand you, but they won't have as much fun either. Trust yourself. Trusting your heart will take you to places that nothing else can. You will make mistakes, of course, but it is not about being right or wrong, it's about living.
- Try everything. At least once, mostly twice. This means forgetting prejudice, shutting your mouth and actually doing things. If you've always talked about buying a van and driving cross the continent there's no reason to keep putting it off, vans are cheap, food is everywhere; go for it!
- Get principles to start with. "Being a nice person" and "being honest" doesn't quite cut it. Your principles should stand for something beyond that, something in the line of "Freedom, Beauty, Truth & Love" will do.
- Stand by your principles. Being a free man doesn't mean you can do anything you want, regard your own principles higher than the actual law, let them be your guide.
- Stay thirsty. No matter what you achieve, how great your life seems to be, or how tired you become, there's always a new adventure waiting around the corner for the man who is ready to undertake it.
Tips
- Dance, for the fun of it.
- Learn from the masters. They know their trade, players, politicians, salesmen, they all build castles in the sky. There's a lot to learn from them.
- Remember even the greats started at the bottom, the important thing is to keep moving.
- 'Be a little bit better everyday. Whether it's your smell, your looks, your moves, or your confidence, I leave it to up you.
- Smile. Laugh. Be grateful for this opportunity, raise your glass to your fellow brothers and have a beautiful life.
- Learn to talk, about abstract intangible things, dreams and hopes rather than facts and things, There are a gazillion articles about it out there.
- Look good. Loving everyone means respecting everyone, yourself too, and that includes your body. Exercise, dress as nice as you can, indulge in shallow little things like haircuts and shoes. It will boost your confidence. But remember that it 's still an accessory.
- Stop reading and start putting into practice what you are. Unless you are out there in the field you won't know how is it like being the Casanova.
- Stop over analyzing things, just go with the flow. Some people get too caught up in their thought process when any girl rejects them, instead move on and find a new one.
- Experience in the best teacher. Learn from your mistake and move on.
- Develop good communication skills. Most of the Casanovas are very good communicators; they know how to strike with the ladies with their words.
- Have positive thoughts in the mind most of the times; we know it's tough to keep positive thoughts in our minds all time specially when things get tough, but practice makes a man perfect.
- Repetition is the mother of skills; keep trying. It's a numbers game guys: the more you try, the more better you get at seducing the ladies, but guys, please don't come as desperate or needy.
Warnings
- Becoming a Casanova can bring life changing consequences.
- Not everyone is cut for this life, so make sure it's what you really want and that you're not just momentarily bored.
- You will be rejected by many ladies,specially those looking for a husband material, so don't take rejection personally and move on.
- Forget about stability and security. This is no life to have a nice corner office and three children.
