Get Over the Guy That Has a Girlfriend

Let's face it. It's not a great idea to pine over a guy who has a girlfriend. It causes unnecessary stress, unrealistic goals, and the odds of you getting what you want are slim at best. Even if the guy does ditch his girlfriend for you, how can you be so sure that he won't do the same for another girl when the time comes?

Steps

Understanding The Situation

  1. Accept the reality of it. He has a girlfriend and it is not you. It happens. This is not going to change until further notice. This is difficult to accept sometimes, but you won't be able to get over him until you do.
  2. Analyze why you're attracted to him. It could be that you're not even attracted to him and there are other reasons why you're pursuing him. Perhaps you don't like his girlfriend and are trying to hurt her. Something else in your life may be causing his attraction as well.
  3. Talk to people who know him. This includes friends of his and ex-girlfriends, if possible. In learning about his personality or certain character flaws he has, you may find yourself becoming not attracted to him.
    • Be aware that the reverse issue could happen and you may become more smitten with him the more that you learn. If this happens, realize that there plenty of other guys out there for you.

Taking Your Mind Off It

  1. Take up a new hobby. Don't spend all day obsessing. Figure out ways to fill up the time and it will become easier to move past this. Join a sports team, an arts class or volunteer within your community. Meeting new people and being exposed to new activities is a great way to take your mind off something that you'll realize is not very important in the long run. The goal is to get him out of your head!
  2. Go out for the day. Plan a trip to the park or beach, or indulge in a day of retail therapy.
  3. Go dancing. A great way to get over a guy is to dress up in some of your most stylish clothes and go dancing. Clubs are a great place to possibly meet other guys. Even if you don't meet any, the music and physical activity from dancing will put you in a better mood. Dance until you feel better.

Moving Forward

  1. Avoid him at all costs. In the early stages, don't put yourself in a situation where you have to be around him. If you share a class or work together, make an effort to limit your time around him to as little as possible.This helps you to move forward with your life.
  2. Meet other guys. The best way to get over a guy is to see who else is out there! Flirt with other boys. If you become attracted to someone else, you'll quickly forget about this other person.
  3. Try to think of things about him that actually bother you. Does he chew with his mouth open? Does he smoke? Does he not like your favorite band? Seeing the flaws in him will help you get over him.

Tips

  • If you do try to break them up, most likely the guy will hate you for doing it, giving you no chance at all! Don't waste your time.
  • If the guy is your friend's boyfriend, stop right there! You have to realize that you will hurt her if anything happens between the two of you. Is the friendship worth sacrificing?
  • Be thankful for what you have. Not having a boyfriend is nothing worth complaining about.
  • Just remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea.
  • Never spread rumors about the couple or either one of them individually! It only makes both of them mad and gives you a horrible reputation with all of their friends.
  • Think of your perfect guy (green eyes, taller, more built, smarter, etc.) and compare him to the guy you're trying to get over. Make out every possible difference and ask yourself, "Are you willing to settle for this guy when you can be looking for someone who is closer to your ideal guy?"
  • Just remember that it isn't the end of the world because he has a girlfriend try to not get too caught up in these things because at the end of the day, you know that you respect yourself and you don't want to put yourself through those kind of things.
  • Sometimes the person you really want in your life, is the person you're best without.
  • You should be happy for them. Accept and move on. There will be someone else.
  • Sometimes it might just be for the best to tell them, then maybe once you let it all out, you can get over them.

Warnings

  • Don't let his flirting back convince you that he has feelings for you. He obviously likes his girlfriend more. Sometimes guys are flirtatious by nature and they may not even realize they are flirting.
  • Never go anywhere with him alone. There's a good chance you'll do something that is going to hurt you later and make you think he does like you!
  • Never ever make advances towards him. Even if it turns out that he could like you too, this is disrespectful to him and yourself.

Things You'll Need

  • A day of retail therapy.
  • One good friend who you trust who you can share your concerns with -- preferably not the friend whose boyfriend you are trying to get over.

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