Get Your Parents to Calm Down when You Get a Bad Grade
All students may get a bad grade once in a while, whether it is on a test, quiz, report card, end of year report or anything else. Parents naturally become upset because they want their child to succeed. It is up to you to turn things around and earn the good grades that your parents want to see, and that you want to see.
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Steps
- Show Your Parents You Appreciate Everything They've Done for You the bad grade. It is better that they find it out from you before they find it out from somebody else, or else they will think you've been hiding it from them. Just don't walk home all mopey, then shove it in their face, that will make them really angry.
- Give an honest reason for the bad grade before your parents jump to conclusions. For example, if the teacher gave an unfair test that half of the class failed, tell them that.
- Apologize for your bad grade and tell your parents that you will do better next time.
- Tell your parents how you will change your study technique(s). Ask for their opinions & suggestions, since parents always have helpful ideas/experiences.
- Cry, if that's how you feel. Don't fake it, as that won't help and some parents find it irritating.
- Find a friend who is more comfortable with the subject. Ask for help in the specific areas where you are facing difficulty.
- Organize your work. List down specifically how you plan to tackle the subject. Always keep a planner and write down your homework assignments and update it daily. You can also put a small white board in your locker and write your assignments there to remember what you will take home.
- Here is the most important step: Actually do better next time. It is up to you to study for the next test, go after-school for extra help, or put more effort into your schoolwork. Almost all teachers want all of their students to succeed and will gladly help you if you put in the effort and time.
- Remember, some parents will get very mad when you tell them this. If they do this, tell them you would like them to lower their voice and have an adult conversation, and tell them how this cannot happen if they are screaming.
- Ask your parents if they will be willing to look over your future homework assignments. Having them do that will show them that you really are doing your best to pull your grade up. It will also give them (and you) an opportunity to catch mistakes and make the assignment even better.
- Tell them you are very sorry for your mistakes and agree with them when they say all the things you have done wrong.
- Be really good and don't get into a fight! Fights never end well.
- Tell them again you are sorry.
- Cut the slack and take away your games and other electronics for a while or until your test is over. Everyone has something awesome to do but try not to play games or listen to music. Punish yourself and take your games and phone from yourself and try doing your assignments. Please be aware of this. And be sure that your parents know that you have tried your best
Tips
- Remember to show your parents the good grades you get. (Prove yourself)
- Work hard, but remember to have fun and relax once in a while.
- Remember, you can get good grades. Just keep believing and trying your best.
- It's hard to study while listening to music or watching TV, so make sure all of your regular distractions are not present.
- If you find that you don't have time to study or do homework, cut back on the video games, instant messaging, or whatever is taking up that precious time. You don't have to stop, just do it less.
- Don't cheat. You will discover (if you haven't already) that it hurts you more than it helps you.
- Be prepared to ask for help - from whatever source. Everyone has areas that they may struggle with and having someone support and help you will make it much easier that struggling on your own. If they are a classmate, there may be a subject you can help them with to return the favour.
- This is a trick that will help calm your parents down, but it involves time. First, when you get good grades, write it down on a piece of paper. Keep a list of all grades that would make your parents happy. When you get an outstanding grade, such as 100/100, write it down as well, don't tell your parents right away. Then, when you get a bad grade, tell them first about all of your good grades rather than about your bad grade. They should be less mad.
- Limit your times with friends unless they are trying to help you because if they aren't they are just becoming another distraction.
- Go to your teacher and ask if one day you can work with them on corrections or help with that subject.
- If you do not want your games taken away just try to change the topic, but just don't get nervous.
- Never lie to your parents.
- When you show your parents your test/quiz/exam paper, ask them to help you re-do it/do a correction so that next time you won't make the same mistake. You can also do this with a teacher if you like.
- If the teacher doesn't like you, there is probably a reason. Behave better in class and try not to be disruptive for starters.
- If your parents don't care and keep yelling just let them yell, take the punishment and tell them that you will try harder next time.
- If your friends wouldn't accept you if you earned good grades, they are not true friends. Find new ones.
- Don't get into a screaming match. Simply go to your room or a bathroom if your parent is out of control and wait for them to calm down.
- Don't lie about your grades, because if your parents find out you lied, they might get angry.
- If you have more than one test, your parents won't be as mad if you show them both at the same time.
- Look over your test and find out what you did wrong so you can fix it next time.
- Increase the time of your study and clarify your doubts. Keep asking your doubts to your parents so that they know that you're fully indulged in studies.
- Show your parents good grades as soon as you can afterwards.
Warnings
- If you get your phone or any other electronic device taken away, deal with the punishment. If you whine and complain about it, the punishment will be even longer!
- Do not come up with unreasonable excuses.
- Don't forget the grade; you will get in trouble and lose their trust.
- Never lose hope and remember "its never too late".
- Tell them that you will do better next time.
- It won't be easy to earn good grades, but you can do it.
- Many parents compare your grade to the grade of your peers. They're also interested in how you did as compared to others!
