Get a Guy to Stop Liking You After You Lead Him On
If you kiss a guy or give him signals that you like him and then decide that you don't like him follow these steps to get rid of him.
Steps
- Straight out tell him that you just don't like him anymore. Stop flirting with him. Be more distant. Don't make eye contact or smile. Turn your head and don't let him kiss you when he tries. This includes not standing next to him. As tempting as it is don't text him even when you're bored
- Avoid emailing, texting, or calling the guy.
- Do not answer his emails, text messages, as well as phone messages.
- Flirt with other guys in front of him. Be clear to the guy that you are not interested in him, you are interested in whomever you are flirting with. Do not do this if he's a friend. It will really hurt him. It's better, in that case, to tell him straight out.
- You could introduce someone new to him. This could be one of your other friends, or if you have a new boyfriend, you could get him to tell the guy that you don't like him anymore if you are comfortable with doing this.
- You could also just tell him straight up that you do not want to date him anymore and that you really do not feel the connection.
Tips
- Be upfront about your true feelings but don't be too harsh.
- If you at one point thought you liked then realized that you don't like him, try explaining your situation to him. Don't be aggressive when telling him this. Make sure you let him down gently.
- When telling the guy that you are simply not interested, try to let him down easy. Think of it as if you were in his shoes, and how you would like to be treated.
- If you consent to a date, do not stand him up, call him, let him know you can't go or don't want to go. Otherwise it will create all kinds of awkward situations if you see him again.
- Don't sugarcoat it. Make it simple and straightforward.
- Be nice, and try to stay friends after everything cools down.
Warnings
- Attempt to not lead people on. It's rude and will hurt others.
- Be careful not to be mean even if you are angry, or else he'll hate your guts
- You will be marked as a man-eater, regardless. If the guy starts spreading rumours about you, it's him trying to punish you. People take a hard hit to the ego and try hurting you as much as you have hurt them. it's best not to lead people on.
- Make sure you don't on some level fancy him, because it's horrible when you had a chance with someone and you pushed them away. If you're not sure spend some time with the person before you make up your mind.
- Just don't ignore him too much this will break him apart
When to Seek Help
Stay safe. You should never tolerate or permit any of the following behaviors:
- Unfamiliar locations: if he wants you to meet him somewhere you've never been before, asks you to ride in his car alone with him, or wants to meet where no one can see you, take extreme caution. Let someone else know where you are, bring someone along with you without his knowledge, change the location, or just simply refuse to meet with him alone.
- Threats of any kind: physical, verbal, sexual, intellectual (it does exist) or other intimidation, such as brandishing a possible weapon. This is known as Assault: it doesn't result in immediate violence or contact, but leads a reasonable person to believe violence or unwanted contact is imminent. Watch for signs of Assault, which are indicators that you should leave or seek immediate help. If it's Aggravated Assault (where the threats are of a particularly emotional or intimidating nature), get away fast, then seek help.
- Attempts to obstruct your ability to exit: Be very careful when you're alone, and always "seek an out", or know where and how to leave at all times. Any attempt of his to block your exit from an area, building or vehicle. This may be as subtle as standing in front of a door, or obstructing your attempts to leave the conversation by blocking you from the front, or as direct as restraining you physically by any means. DO NOT TELL HIM YOU WANT TO LEAVE if you sense this is happening, this will aggravate another, much stronger attempt to prevent your exit. Once you sense it's happening, make an effort to exit the place, no matter how subtle or patiently you have to carry it out. If you feel he's following or pursuing you after exit, call emergency services or seek help.
- Battery: legal definition -- Any willful and unlawful use of force (which includes non-violent force) or violence upon another person. This includes, but does not exclude:
- Unwanted touching (non-sexual). (Grabbing an arm, touching any place you don't want him to, etc.) If you tell him to stop and he refuses, he may have committed battery.
- Physical Violence. Hitting, kicking, or other physical abuse, even if not done to you.
- Other examples: throwing objects with intent to harm, medical battery such as forcing you to ingest or receive medication/drugs against your will (this can include forced injection, spiking your beverage with pills or powders, or forcing you to swallow or inhale a drug), or attempting to discharge/fire/throw any weapon at you, regardless of whether he hit you or not.
- Unwanted Sexual Advances: If you are not interested in a sexual relationship, tell him clearly "No", "Stop" or "Leave me alone." Don't keep saying it... if he persists, leave immediately. If he starts to pursue you, get away quickly and call for help.
