Make a Guy Stop Bothering You
A guy or man is bothering you when going out. You can't seem to shake him. What do you do? Blow him off!
Steps
Direct Method
- Tell him quickly, and tell him the truth. It doesn't have to be a long conversation. Say something like "Look, I'm really flattered that you like me, and I feel uncomfortable saying this, but the feeling isn't mutual."
- Give him some time to have his feelings about it, but don't get into talking about "Why" you're not interested. Anything you say can lead to hurt feelings, and isn't likely to go over well.
- Exit stage left. Don't overstay. As soon as he's had time to express his sadness or anger, simply say that it's time for you to go, and wish him the best.
- Make it a clean break. It's really important not to lead him on and say things that might lead him to think that there's a chance some day.
- Always speak well of him to others. Gossiping, or bad mouthing another person never leads to anything positive. Do not pretend you want to 'be friends'. It's very painful for him if he does not have a lot of self esteem. He'd probably continue hoping you'd turn around.
Indirect Method
- Alternatively, be indirect. This method works if you don't want to hurt his feelings and you don't know how to explain it to him. However, it's slower and might be less effective.
- Talk loudly about things you know he doesn't like around him. For example, if he hates MTV, make sure he hears you talking about how awesome it is. If he likes My Chemical Romance, make sure he hears you talking about how much they suck and how you love Ashlee Simpson. Eventually, he'll realize you have nothing in common.
- Rave about how much you love someone else in front of him. Not to him. It might be a little harsh, but it's nicely saying that you're interested in someone else. He might give up.
- Begin slowly avoid the places you know he hangs out. If he hangs around the local coffee shop on weekends, go somewhere else then. However, for example, if you regularly hang out there on weekends too, don't stop going there instantly. Just make a few excuses for why you can't go there that weekend and only go there once in a while. When you're gone, he might notice someone else.
- Make sure you're not doing anything at all to flirt when he talks to you. Continue to talk to him, if you already do. Just make sure you're not sending any flirting vibes. Try not to look him directly in the eye, don't touch his knee or anything when he makes a joke, and don't giggle at everything he says. If you talk to him exactly the same way you do your little brother, he might give up.
- If all else fails, give it up and use the direct method. It's not worth it continuing to be subtle if he just doesn't get it.
Tips
- Be direct when he approaches you. Try something like, "I'm sorry but I'm really not interested." This is a no-fail method, and it clearly gets your message across.
- You can always take the low road and do something disgusting: Like coughing with your mouth open or clean your teeth (or ears) in public. At the supermarket or drugstore, you might lose him if you make a beeline for the feminine hygiene aisle and grab a box of super-plus tampons. Or just pretend like you have a weird tick with your neck or shoulder or something. Just don't laugh when you do it; you must make him think that you are a weirdo. (But don't do it when there are other people around you want to impress! Just turn him off and he won't even want to stalk you later.
Warnings
- Looking him straight in the eye could even be construed as "you really want him".
- He may think you're just playing hard to get, and get more intense.
- If he becomes violent make sure you know your self defense or have someone else protecting you. Don't use weapons; you could end up injuring yourself.
- Don't talk about other guys or even go out with another guy. It also becomes worse.
- Do not tell your friend that you still like him or they might tell him and get you in a tussle.
