Turn On Your Boyfriend

Do you want to turn your boyfriend on? Lucky for you, there are lots of ways to do so. Read this wikiHow for lots of fun ideas!

10 Second Summary

1. Put on a little bit of perfume.
2. Use body language, or whisper something into his ear.
3. Show him that you're turned on.
4. Try touching his arm, giving him a massage, or dancing with him.
5. Mix things up. Give him a strip tease or try something new and kinky.

Steps

Mental Stimulation

  1. Wear perfume. This is a good basic way to turn a guy on. You can kind of tailor your scent choice to something you know he'd like but it's always better to err on the musky side, as this most closely resembles the scents associated with sex.
    • Avoid strong perfumes and perfumes with an "old lady" scent.
    • Make sure you apply the perfume correctly.
  2. Use body language. Use your body language to put ideas in his head. Sensually lick an ice cream while you're out on a date. Run your hand up and down the top of your thigh while you're sitting together on the couch. Lean in close to talk to him. Bend over dramatically to pick something up off the ground. There are lots of ways to make him start thinking sexual thoughts, so just take advantage of whatever situation you find yourself in.
  3. Whisper something in his ear. It should be a little flirty, a little dirty, and a whole lot of tempting. The husky voice and the closeness of your lips as you whisper something slowly, and sensually will have him begging to take you to bed.
    • "So now what do you want to do?", "You are such a tease.", "What do you want me to do to you?", etc. You get the gist.
  4. Let him see just a bit of your underwear. Step 1, wear brightly colored underwear that are not granny-panties; Step 2, have just a bit of it peek out over the top of your jeans when you bend over; Step 3, profit. Or he'll profit. It's mutual profit.
  5. Show him that you're turned on. If he knows you're turned on, that's going to turn him on more than anything else. If he touches you in just the right way or says something that drives you wild, tell him. You can also send him texts or let him know in other ways as well.
    • Try, "God, I want you right now." or "I cannot stop thinking about what I want you to do to me."
  6. Bite your lip while you're having a conversation. Congratulations: now he's thinking about your lips. It's as easy as that. Just a little bit of this paired with looking up at him through your lashes will tell him you're about ready to devour him, you're just to polite to say it.

Physical Temptation

  1. Touch him. Whether it's a light touch on the arm, or running your hand up and down his thigh while you're watching that movie on the couch, you're going to make him want you touching him all over his body before you know it. Just remember to use light touches and firm touches appropriately and try to stick to sensitive areas (back of the neck, jawline, arms, upper chest, lower back, etc).
  2. Give him a massage. Tell him to take off his shirt, oil him up, and start rubbing. Wear as little clothing yourself as you rub. A massage will get the blood flowing and between your hands being all over him and everything already being so...slippery....he's just not going to be able to help himself.
  3. Dance (this isn't as hard as it sounds). Guys get really turned on when girls are spontaneous, confident, and do things that are unexpected. You don't have to go out dancing, but put on some music and home, grab him and make him slow dance with you, and then just move your body in as basic a way as you can handle. Move in ways that feel natural and give you the opportunity to rub against him. Believe us, it'll be enough.
  4. Put his hands where you want them to go. Taking charge of the situation will really turn him on. Take his hands and place them on your bum as you give him an alluring look or whisper something in his ear. Putting his hands where you want them to go tells him that you're turned on and you want him: something he'll find very sexy.
  5. Take a little bite. A little nibble on the ear, a long lick down his neck: show him that you want to just eat him up. The sensations will turn him on and get him thinking about where else he'd like you to be licking and tasting.
  6. Try temperature changes. This can be a huge turn-on. Once you've got his shirt off and you're kissing his chest, for example, lick a long line with your tongue and then blow on it. The heat followed by the cold will give his body a lot of sensation to focus on and will really rev up his engines.
    • Don't forget the oldie but goldie ice cube!

Mixing it Up

  1. Strip. You don't need to have skills that rival the girls in that club downtown. Just a little sexy music (try CéU's "Cangote") and some body movement as you slowly remove your clothing will drive him up the wall.
  2. Try a little role play. This can be fun for everyone and will help you let loose and both get a little more out of your physical relationship. Give him the chance to choose a fantasy to play out or surprise him with a fully prepared scenario, costumes and all.
    • Try to choose something that appeals to him. Comic books, movies, school-related fantasies, video games: you know your man best.
  3. Consider some kink. A little kink never hurt anyone: as long as they remember their safe words! All joking aside, a little kink can really spice up a relationship and it doesn't have to get too weird. Only do things you're comfortable with and make sure that everyone is on the same page. Handcuffs, anyone?
    • Letting him choose a kink he wants to explore can be a huge turn-on for him. Don't be judgmental and be open to what he wants to try; this will show him that he doesn't have to be ashamed or uncomfortable around you, which will really turn him on.
  4. Try new positions. If all you're doing is missionary, he might end up getting a little bored. You might too for that matter! Turn each other on and add new life into your relationship by trying some new positions in bed. While there are obvious downsides to the 69, the 77 is nice and accessible and guys love it when a girl gets on top.
  5. Take a shower together. There's warm water and soap and everything is so slick and slippery...it's a great way to turn him on and try something new. Wash him, let him wash you, and see where things go from there.
  6. Introduce toys. Vibrators are not just the realm of lonely women and happy lesbians: sex toys are great for partners to use together. If you're new to using toys, get just a small, cordless vibrator (a really basic one, usually about the size of an egg). Run it around his testicles during intercourse and he'll just about explode.

Tips

  • If he's dating you, he's probably usually turned on by default. This article is mostly for turning it up to 11.
  • Hint the smallest things about sexual contact and be really playful about it. Try to be mysterious.

Warnings

  • Don't rush it; take the proper amount of time. The longer the time, the more tension will be built up in him. He will be like putty in your hands.
  • Turning him on doesn't necessarily have to lead to intercourse. Know the alternatives and plan on arriving at a happy ending that suits you both.
  • Be careful of what you do with specific types of guys, as different boys may react in various ways to being turned on.
  • Don't be clingy. Give your boyfriend some space, so when you do touch him, he will really feel it.
  • Don't be too pushy or forceful at all. Know the signs that your boyfriend wants to go be turned on, by his level of cooperation. Recognize the half-hearted "stop" he utters with a smile on his face versus the annoyed "stop" he mutters with a frown.

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