Become Best Friends with Your Crush

The best way to get a romantic relationship with your crush, is to become their friend first. It can be hard talking in front of the person you like, especially if you're shy or nervous, but luckily this little guide is here to help you. Or maybe you're reading this article because you've learned that you can't have your crush for whatever reason, and you're going to try to follow path B, that is, to try to become friends with him/her.

Steps

  1. Don't be shy! Just run up to him/her and say hi, then ask them if they want to sit with you at lunch, or something similar. Don't flirt with him/her, though. He/she may already be in a relationship; you never know. You're aiming to get to know them as a friend, not a girl/boy friend. If you can't come up with the courage to just walk up to him then pretend you are doing something for class and you need to talk to him/her about the homework or lesson. You could try telling them you have to complete a class survey, which can be a really good way to find some information about the person, though it can be kind of risky (if they find out there is really no assignment).
  2. Talk about a subject he/she likes, preferably not about school. While this may work in emergency situations (long awkward silences), it doesn't give the impression that you want to know him/her as a person. Ask questions! Get to know them! Find out if you really do like him/her after all, or if the crush is only skin-deep.
  3. Ask for help on your homework. If you don't get something, call him or text him and ask for help. This will show that you think they are intelligent. If you think you have lots of trust built up, ask them to come over to your house and explain something to you.
  4. Over time, gain his/her trust by trusting them in return. Tell him/her some of your secrets, invite him/her to places (as friends), and just do things you normally do with your friends.
  5. Be yourself. You don't need to fake anything! You're just trying to get him/her as a friend.
  6. Take an interest in his/her life. Buy him/her cute gifts, see his/her games (if he's/she's in sports), and just visit him/her occasionally.
  7. Don't talk about personal stuff, such as ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends. It might make him/her feel uncomfortable.
  8. Don't dive in too fast or your crush will know you like him/her. And don't gush about feelings or problems, they'll start to think you are over-excited.

Tips

  • Try to see if you are in classes or a project together and get to know a little bit about them.
  • Don't be too obvious. Don't be staring at him/her when he's or she's looking back, etc.
  • Get to know his/her friends too! A good connection between you and your crushes friend can ultimately bring all of you closer.

Warnings

  • When you and him/her are good friends, do not ask them out straight away. This will make them feel used and like you used friendship to get to them. Relax, give them a little time. Love is about patience and understanding.
  • This is a great technique to use, but don't try to be their absolute best friend. Most people don't enjoy dating one of their best friends, because they are too close, and asking is awkward. So just get close enough to being friends, but not being best friends. Dating could ruin the friendship entirely, or make it the best friendship you've ever had.
  • And as some people aren't allowed to get a boyfriend, just be his/her friend, and if they do like you back, either go out secretly, or tell him/her straightforward that you think it would be best to just stay friends for a while until you're confident enough.

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