Become a Social Butterfly
Are you a compulsively quiet person and have your mind set on the idea that you will never be as social as some of the people you encounter in your everyday walk of life? Do you have a generally introverted (to yourself in all that you do) kind of personality? Is there someone you wish to try to talk to whom you like or just want to make friends with but just can't find the courage or conversation starter to get things going with others? The following how-to containing steps, tips, and warnings will help you to get answers to your questions from other people and vise versa.
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Steps
- First of all, learn to get LOUD, but not to the extremes where you are being obnoxious. Speak clearly, and separate your sentences so that you can get a breath in and make yourself understood.
- Use the following conversation starter or something similar:
- "My name is such 'n such." If you do not know the other person's name and they don't tell you immediately after this statement, it is appropriate to say "What's yours?" Note that though this particular statement is a useful conversation starter, I hope your parents didn't name you Such 'n such. I just had to throw that one in considering I have an extroverted (out there, social) personality and compulsively say everything that comes to my mind the second that it comes to my mind.
- That's another thing. Let it out the second it enters the realms of your mind. Don't hold back the brutally honest thoughts, but be considerate of others in every way.
- Gossip, I must admit, is somewhat pleasurable to one if he/she is the one doing the gossiping. On the other hand, he/she should think about a situation where he/she as an individual might be gossiped about and act in ways in the future that reflects said realization
- Read up on current events. Watch the news, read web blogs about subjects you are interested in. Making notes about what you have learnt each day will help you remember them in social situations.
Tips
- Regarding the previous tip: should a "friend" accept you only for your looks, then they were not a friend of yours to begin with, so don't socialize with those people.
- Being easy on the eyes always helps people to warm up to you.
- Be yourself. Don't change your ways of communication or the amount that you do communicate with others unless you believe that it will help you in the long run.
Warnings
- Make the change gradually. People could possibly jump to conclusions if you approach this change at a rapid pace.
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