Initiate Physical Contact with a Girl
There are many guys who are "afraid" of girls. They get nervous around them and are afraid to touch them. When their hands brushed accidentally, it made them nervous like hell. A little skin contact is normal in Friendship. Here are some steps that can help or train that kind of people to overcome their fear in order to have a better relationship and avoid awkward moments.
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Steps
- If you're walking with her, gently touch her back, as if you are playing "train" in kindergarten.
- Use things around you to give reason for contact. For example, touch her shoulder and say "Look at that! I can't believe it!" or grab her hand and say "Wait! Over here!"
- Joke, and then a compliment. For example, brush her hair, say "Your hair used to be a total mess, seems like it is much better now", and smile a little. Make it sincere, say something that is only true. But no cheesy things, that works only if she liked you already.
- Lightly place your hand on her knee when standing up, and give an excuse for leaving.
- If she moves close to you, don't move away. That tells her that it's okay to be in your personal space. Try putting your arm around her shoulders. If she snuggles closer or doesn't pull back, you know you've gotten past the stage where physical contact is awkward. You may also want to (very lightly) "bump" into her. This is especially effective if you're sitting beside her or walking beside her.
- Lightly tickle her ONLY if she is ticklish and doesn't mind being tickled. Tickling sends the same signals as pain, so be sure she's the kind of girl that doesn't mind. .
- Take her pencil (or object she won't mind too much that you took) and tease her a bit. Be sure to give it back so your plan doesn't backfire! You don't want a slap as physical contact!
Tips
- If you act casually, the girl will also think that it's casual.
- Be brave about it.
- Smile.
Warnings
- Never try the yawn-and-stretch trick! Most girls think it's lame.
- If she tells you to back off, she isn't interested in you.
- Some girls don't like touching, so don't touch them if they don't!
