Live Permanently in Love

Many people long for a life of lasting love but knowing how to follow this path is hard. The path of ever-lasting love is found through the connection of enlightenment with all-embracing love, when you are centered in yourself, feel inner happiness and lead an enlightened existence. When you're able to give out love to all, you'll create a field of love energy, which will be returned as love from all beings.

Steps

  1. Visualize a shower above you. Turn on the shower and imagine cleaning yourself with love (namely, the water). Think of the mantra "Love". As you express the mantra, massage yourself from your head to your toes. Rub away all tensions and stress from the body.
  2. Rub your feet on the earth. Draw a circle of love around you. Think "Love" several times as mantra.
  3. Move your feet. Visualize a friend and say a positive word. What is your positive word? Imagine that the word reaches your chosen person. Think your word several times as a mantra: "My word for... is... (I love you.)"
  4. Remember someone you consider to be an enemy or someone who behaves aggressively towards you. Who do you feel in this moment is an enemy? Who is your opponent? Give this person a positive word. What do you say to him or her? Forgive him or her and gain inner peace.
    • Move a hand and send this person wisdom and love. Think your word so long as a mantra, until you are at peace with your enemy.
  5. Investigate your own mind. Is there a thought that blocks your inner peace, your happiness and your love? Which positive word can overcome it? "My negative thought is... My positive thought is... (Forward on the way of all-embracing love.)".

Ways to Stay in Love

  1. Be a good team. A good relationship is based on teamwork, whether it's with your spouse, your little league coach or your work colleagues. A good team has a common goal. It knows its way to success is dependent on acknowledging the skills and abilities of each person, not insisting on things being done one way only.
  2. Anchor your relationship in a positive principle. Find a suitable name for your chosen higher principle. Call it love, truth, or spirituality. Connect with your higher principle regularly and in all beautiful or difficult situations. Live in the center of your relationship, guided by your higher principle.
  3. Avoid too much criticism. Constant criticism of another suggests superiority and disdain; this condescension destroys love. When there is a place for criticism, provide it factually, sensitively and at the right moment. The basic rule for each relationship is least two thirds praise and less than one third constructive critique.
    • Compliment each other. Men love admiration. Women love gestures of affection.
    • Look in the mirror. There are plenty of things that you know aren't promoting the best of yourself. Work on those aspects of yourself and learn from what others have to say too.
    • Avoid cutting off your partner too often from his or her wishes. Say "Yes" as often as is possible.
  4. Strive hard to maintain a good relationship. Every relationship requires effort. It isn't as simple as meeting someone, hitting off and hoping it'll stay strong. It requires a commitment from both parties to care, nurture and work through issues that assail the relationship from time to time.
    • Marriage is work. It is a false way of comprehending the purpose of marriage that you can completely let go of yourself at home. It takes some effort to make a relationship succeed, and you have to decide if you're willing to put in that work.
    • Spend regular time undertaking certain activities that make you and your partner happy. For example, sex, dining, travel, excursions and a common hobby.
  5. Be modest. Do not demand too much from a partner, life or even from yourself. Anyone who cannot limit his or her wishes risks being permanently unhappy. If you do not know the point of satisfaction, you will never be satisfied. Where is your end point?
  6. Solve conflicts constructively. Clarify the precise factual situation. Think about different solutions. Find the good common ground.
    • Put boundaries on the negative behaviors from partners and others in your life. Tantrums, violations of positive life principles, etc. are not acceptable ways to interact. Do not reward negative behavior––stay neutral or say a firm "No".
    • If you are an aggressive person, find a way to tone this down before interacting. Come to peace within yourself before communicating with others. Love grows on the basis of non-violence, wisdom and gentleness.
  7. Be honest with each other. Live in truth. Truth is the basis of every good relationship.
    • Take your partner as she or he is. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. No person is perfect. Love means to love the other person, along with his or her weaknesses. Accept the smallness in you, then you can take it in your fellow person.



Tips

  • Have patience. Love means to have patience.
  • Forgive one another your faults. Love means to be able to forgive. Love means to apologize.
  • Do daily spiritual exercises such as yoga, walking, reading, reflection (introspection), positive thinking (cognitive work) and meditation.
  • Be in a good relationship with yourself. Live life well and know your needs, so that you feel able to strive towards them and meet them with a sense of purpose. Do not work too much––enjoy life too.
  • Impart gladness to others regularly, by giving a little attention. For example, give flowers, small gifts and affection. Tell the person that you love him or her. Give hugs. Rejoice by offering positive sentences and gestures.
  • Never stop wishing all beings happiness. The person who wishes for the happiness of all beings is ever growing in his or her own happiness. This is the highest spiritual wisdom.

Warnings

  • On earth we live in the conflict of outer pleasure and inner happiness. Both paths are exactly opposite. The path of the outer pleasure leads to the growth of attachment to the world and reinforces inner tensions. The more we live in the outer pleasures, the more our attachment grows. The internal tensions become more and more and shrink the inner happiness. We are losing our inner peace, our strength and our inner harmony. On the way of inner happiness we solve systematically all inner tensions. We free us from all attachments to external things. Enlightenment is the ultimately freedom from the outer world. And thus we can keep our inner happiness in all outer circumstances. The less inner tensions we have, the greater is the inner happiness. Until we live permanently in the light, in the enlightenment and in the unity (God).
  • If we do not see the problem of attachment, we go into the big trap of life. We are strengthening our attachment and block our enlightenment. We come into the dynamics of self-indulgence. Our needs are constantly increasing, we see more and more the negative sites of our partner, and the satisfaction with our relationship is decreasing more and more. We want love from others and not to give love. We do not live primarily out of the spirituality. Then the development of attachment and negativity can not be controlled. A happy relationship arises when we live our relationship with wisdom and love. We should practise our relationship so that both partners grow in their inner happiness. We should put the happiness of all beings in the center of our lives. Then we will succeed in our relationships and our lives. Live positive relationships with your fellow man. Send a friend light. Send him a positive sentence. "I send light to (name). May all people be happy. May the world be happy."
  • We solve the conflict between the outer and the inner path by flowing with wisdom with the things of life. We live the outer pleasures so that they bring us forward into the light. We live them sensitively, in due measure and with the right mental attitude. We put the spiritual goal in the focus of our lives. We use the positive potential of the external pleasures, without getting lost in them. We solve all attachments again and again with our spiritual techniques (meditation and mind work) and always get back into the light (to inner harmony). We live primarily in rest, in our spiritual practice and in the all-embracing love.
  • There is a difference between ego-realization and self-realization. In the long-term, ego-realization basically leads to inner unhappiness, while self-realization leads to inner happiness. Ego-realization is easy at the beginning but abounds with suffering at the end. And while self-realization is difficult at the beginning, it becomes an incredible grace at the end. Ego-realization consists of good food, lots of sex, nice travel, extreme consumption, and constant cravings for external praise. It follows the sloth (tamas), or the exaggerated activity (rajas). On the other hand, self-realization consists of daily work on yourself and constant mental effort. We don't set the ego (our external desires), but the self (the freed psyche) in the center of our life.

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