Become a Ladies' Man

Most men want to be a ladies' man. When you are a ladies' man you get more attention, dates, and intimacy than the average guy. Most guys aren’t at this point, but with a few pointers you could be the center of women’s attention. Be someone who owns the situation, makes women laugh, and has confidence, and you’ll be on your way to success with women.

Steps

Making Her Smile and Laugh

  1. Make her laugh. Research shows a humorous man is a desired man. It’s theorized a sense of humor is an evolutionary sign of attractiveness because being humorous requires intelligence. Some tests have shown making a woman laugh improves your odds by nearly three to one.[1] If you make a lady laugh, you’re golden.
    • Try listening to some comedians, taking their material, and fitting it to your personal situation.[2]
  2. Be self-deprecating. Making her laugh is a great way to win her over, but making her laugh at your expense shows great confidence. It might be best to let her get to know you before trying this type of humor. Once she knows you are confident, she will certainly know you are joking when you use self-deprecating jokes. The trick to being self-deprecating is to make her laugh without believing how you just put yourself down. You don’t mean it, and she doesn’t believe it.[3]
    • "I have the body of a football player — fantasy football."
    • "I walk two miles a day. One to the donut shop, and one home."
  3. Compliment women regularly. Guys who have compliments readily available are ready for any situation. Finding the right time to unleash the perfect compliment can flip a switch in another’s mind from disinterested to piqued. Avoid cheesy pickup lines and go for something unique and specific to her that will attract her attention. Keep trying and you’ll eventually find the right type of compliment that wins women over.[3]
    • Use an uncommon word. Instead of beautiful, use “stunning.”
    • "The confidence you exude is really sexy."
    • "You really know a lot about this subject. You must be very intelligent."
  4. Improve your charm. Being charming is not that difficult. In fact, some argue the average man can be a ladies' man and just as charming as any other. Truly being charming is about paying attention to a woman, and turning her on based upon that shared connection.
    • Being able to intelligently converse with a woman is a huge turn on. Learn her keys, what she likes to hear, and time your replies to let her know you're really inside her head.
    • Be genuinely interested in her. Ask her about her likes, dislikes, family, travel plans, dreams, etc.
    • Show your vulnerabilities. Many women are self-conscious, and it's comforting to see a man that has own flaws.[4]

Displaying Confident Body Language

  1. Smile often. Confident people smile a lot. It shows charisma.[3] Smiling more often will make you more attractive to women, and it has added health, stress, and psychological benefits. Some studies even suggest it can change your mood and make you happier.[5]
  2. Show presence. When you are around others you need presence. You need to grab attention. One way to do this is take up a larger or higher space. Being larger and higher instinctively conveys strength. Additionally, it has an impact on boosting testosterone levels.[6] Try a few of the following techniques to convey the image that will draw the right attention:
    • Practice good posture. Aside from positive health benefits, looking taller and more confident shows a degree of control.[7]
    • Stand with your arms a little wider than normal, or with your hands on your hips.[8]
    • Keep your arms and legs uncrossed. Crossing your arms and legs gives off a timid vibe. Uncross, remain relatively still, and try not to revert back into bad habits of looking defensive.[7]
  3. Make a grand entrance. You want to be noticed. Being the center of attention, even if for a brief moment, is key to gaining the eyes of the women in the room. Take your time upon entering by pausing at the entrance where everyone can see you.[9]
    • Arrive on time. Being fashionably late is not really preferred. You don’t want to appear to be someone who is disorganized and not in control.
    • Make the entrance fit the situation. There is a fine line between getting everyone’s attention and being narcissistic.
    • Look like wherever you are is the place you’re most happy. If people believe you’re excited about the situation, your positive vibe will rub off.[10]
  4. Do not fidget. Moving around a lot gives off an uncertain or nervous appearance. It also distracts from your overall effort of being suave and attention-getting. Instead, the attention will be on the fidgety movement. Find your crutch and try to stop doing it.[5]
    • Avoid biting your nails.
    • Don’t pop your knuckles.
    • Try not to tap toes or wiggle feet.
  5. Dress to impress. Some research has shown that simply dressing up leads to an increase in perceived attractiveness. Choose clothing that accentuates your features and lines, something that makes you look more muscular. Try a few of the following tips to step your clothing game up:
    • Utilize fewer upper layers if you have a muscular build, and multiple layers if you're on the slender side.
    • Take good care of your shoes, and match them to your choice of attire.
    • Add in nice accessories, like a watch, pocket square, or tie clip to draw extra attention.[11]

Showing Affection

  1. Give kind gestures at unexpected times. Randomly displaying affection is a surprising way to show her you care. Whether it’s a flirtatious pinch, a kiss, a shoulder rub, or a late night phone call, she’ll appreciate that you’re always thinking about her.[12]
    • Make it a point to pull out her chair somewhere unexpected and goofy, like a fast food restaurant.
    • Ask her if she needs help with anything heavy, or any other way to show your strength.
    • Buy her a small chocolate or treat when she’s having a bad day.
    • A card with words of encouragement would be a perfect “thinking of you”-move on a day she has a big test.
  2. Be a flirt. Be a sexual person and flirt whenever you can.[13] To flirt appropriately you’ll need to be witty. Women enjoy a clever back-and-forth. Flirting is partially teasing and partially showing you’re attracted. Try a few approaches similar to the ones below:
    • Make it clear that you’re being purposefully goofy, "If you had to choose between me and Brad Pitt, how quickly would you choose me?"
    • Touch-a-Girl. A gentle squeeze of the arm, a swipe of the hair, do something subtle and surprising.
  3. Hug and Have-a-First-Kiss at appropriate times. If hugging makes you feel uncomfortable, try a side hug. If you feel more brazen, try a firm hug with a squeeze, or maybe a peck on the cheek. Watch for signals, like winking, biting of the lip, or if she stares at your lips. Pull her in close and slowly kiss her, but be sure you’ve got fresh breath and aren’t too aggressive.[14]
    • Make eye contact as you’re going in for the kiss.
    • Don’t make it too long. Make it long enough to be memorable, but not exceedingly long.
    • Make sure you only kiss her. Don’t use it as an opportunity to touch or grab unnecessarily.

Making the Ladies Chase You

  1. Be a genuinely nice guy. People are attracted to someone who can make them feel great. It’s scientifically measurable based on the release of dopamine. If you’re able to be the guy who makes others feel appreciated, you’ll draw plenty of attention. Being a guy who is fun to hang around, who makes people feel good about themselves, someone who is everyone’s favorite, is how you single yourself out.[15]
    • At bars, tip well and get to know the servers and bartenders.
    • Learn personal details about doormen and take an active interest in their lives.
    • Adjust your response to the other person’s moods. If they’re happy, yuck it up. If they’re down, genuinely show interest in their pain.
  2. Connect on multiple levels. Show the ladies that you care about them without noting their appearance. It’s not just about being physical. Compliment something other than her looks. You also need to appeal to her emotional and spiritual sides. Get in her head with a multi-faceted approach:[8]
    • "Your kindness is something that really draws attention."
    • "I can’t believe how great a photographer you are!"
    • "When I’m around you it makes me want to strive for greatness."[16]
  3. Take it slow. Don't come on too strong right away. Studies show that if you have the interest of another person, being a little aloof may not make them like you necessarily, but it does make them more likely to pursue you. If she perceives you as a challenge of sorts, she’ll likely want to win you over. Someone who hinges on her every wish is not a challenge.[17]
    • Take your time in conversation with her. Don’t feel like you need to jump at every text message.
    • Be slow to show emotion and think about how you really feel.[18]
    • Do for her as much as you want, but be sure not to be the guy who jumps at her wishes.
    • In order for this to work, you also have to show a certain amount of interest. Women want to gain your favor, not grow frustrated.[19]
  4. Listen to her patiently. Being a good listener is a sure-fire way to attract women.[13] Face her and be attentive. Try to listen to what she’s saying without judging and while trying to empathize.[20]
    • Cease all other activities. Put up your phone and really pay attention.
    • Do not interrupt. Listen until the entire message is delivered.
    • Rephrase what she just said to show you heard her.[21] Ask follow up questions.
    • If you’re teaching her something, try to stay patient.

Handling Setbacks

  1. Overcome your fears. Bold people capable of tackling any challenge are sexy to women. A guy who can’t do anything and shrinks at the first sense of difficulty is not a man women desire. If meeting women has always been intimidating, overcome your fears and you’ll be a lot closer to being a ladies' man.
    • Work on improving your self-confidence in this way by owning the fear and resulting failure. Do not blame others for your lack of action.[13]
    • Imagine yourself meeting women, and when you’d normally fold, picture it going perfectly. They laugh at all your jokes, and provocatively reply to all your advances.
    • Concentrate on proper breathing. Take deep breaths. Breathe out a little longer than you breathe in, and you’re prone to calm down.[22]
  2. Embrace rejection as a learning opportunity. All ladies' men have been turned down multiple times. Get stronger with each step backwards. [13] Reevaluate your approach, your moves, your words. Instead of focusing on the failure itself, focus on what you can change for a better result the next time.[23]
    • Convince yourself the rejection is really what is best for your future. There are other people out there and you will meet someone who is better suited to you.
    • Acknowledge rejection as something you’ve defeated before. This is just the same hurdle.
    • Imagine how you could have been good for them. The ways you would have made them happy, laugh, and love you. They made a huge mistake missing out on you.[24]
  3. Change up your routine. When you find something that doesn’t work, like a specific outfit, a location, or maybe even the type of woman, try something new. Break out of your routine. What’s more, get pumped up about the change. Motivate and convince yourself the new avenues you’re going to take are going to be successful.[25]
    • Steer clear of women who look like your ex. This is not about proving something to yourself.
    • Go outside your comfort zone. You will meet a brand new set of women in places you’ve never been.



Tips

  • Treat ladies of all ages well, (open doors, walk them to nearby destinations) as well as a few men.

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References and Citations

  1. ↑ http://theweek.com/articles/446522/science-sexy-6-things-that-make-irresistible
  2. ↑ http://www.mensxp.com/dating/dating-tips/2698-7-personality-traits-to-magically-transform-yourself-into-a-ladies-man-.html
  3. ↑ 3.0 3.1 3.2 http://www.askmen.com/grooming/inspiration/7_charm-lessons-from-legendary-ladies-men.html
  4. ↑ http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/secrets-seduction-women-swoon-article-1.1263356
  5. ↑ 5.0 5.1 http://liveboldandbloom.com/10/self-confidence/body-language-tips
  6. ↑ http://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/power-posing-fake-it-until-you-make-it
  7. ↑ 7.0 7.1 http://liveboldandbloom.com/10/self-confidence/body-language-tips
  8. ↑ 8.0 8.1 http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/06/23/hugh-hefners-7-step-guide-to-being-a-ladies-man/
  9. ↑ http://etiquette-ny.com/how-to-make-polite-conversation-at-social-functions-the-art-of-initiating-entering-and-gracefully-exiting-conversations/
  10. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201403/eight-ways-make-grand-entrance
  11. ↑ http://www.realmenrealstyle.com/clothing-maximize-attractiveness/
  12. ↑ http://magazine.foxnews.com/love/5-things-women-want-most-man
  13. ↑ 13.0 13.1 13.2 13.3 http://www.nicknotas.com/blog/20-qualities-of-men-who-are-great-with-women/
  14. ↑ http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating_top_ten/75_dating_list.html
  15. ↑ http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2013/03/leveling-up-most-attractive-man/
  16. ↑ http://anastasiaamour.com/2015/04/22/20-compliments-that-have-nothing-to-do-with-appearance/
  17. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201403/when-should-you-play-hard-get
  18. ↑ http://www.idiva.com/photogallery-relationships/10-winning-steps-to-play-hard-to-get/20386
  19. ↑ http://get-a-wingman.com/how-to-play-hard-to-get-with-a-girl/
  20. ↑ http://www.forbes.com/sites/womensmedia/2012/11/09/10-steps-to-effective-listening/#7cc385eb26fb
  21. ↑ http://www.chabad.org/blogs/blog_cdo/aid/1113950/jewish/How-to-Actively-Listen-to-Your-Spouse.htm
  22. ↑ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcome-fear-and-anxiety/
  23. ↑ http://tinybuddha.com/blog/overcome-pain-rejection/
  24. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/dealing-with-rejection_b_3705663.html
  25. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/alex-furmansky/top-5-ways-to-get-back-in_b_3901033.html
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