Get Your Ex Back if She Left You for an Ex
If your girlfriend dumps you for her ex guy and you love her, this is the one for you. Follow these steps to get her back.
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Steps
- (Short Version): Your best bet is to move onto other girls. If after successfully gaming several other attractive girls you still would like to get back together, then you've already done one of the best things you can do. Ironically, by moving on to other girls and being very nonchalant about the idea of getting back with your ex, you show her that you are a confident, non-needy alpha male who is very capable of finding other women. Further more, you set yourself as the prize. If you've run into her and she's seen that you're not jumping at the gun to get back together and in fact you've been successful with other girls, then you've done everything you can and it's up to her to hint at getting back together. If the issue of the breakup was more along the lines of finances, or religious conflict, then consider whether it even makes sense to get back together.
- Prevention is better than cure: Try to understand why she left you in the first place and learn from it so if you do get her back she won't leave again. Common reasons: Too needy/clingy, you changed the way you acted towards her as you got to know her better, bad in bed, cheated on her, consistent poor communication, boring relationship, dead-end relationship, she's mentally unwell/confused (<--If it really is this you can do better, move on.) If worst comes to worst you feel better about a breakup if you're the one who breaks it off. If you do though, recognize this: crawling back to her in the following week or two is simply not an option. Live with your decision.
- Keep your contact with your ex friendly, casual, and lighthearted. If every time they see you or hear about you, all they see is the fun, happy person they first fell for, it's only a matter of time before your ex starts initiating more contact (especially if they know you're single). If it's meant to be, the relationship will fall back into place.
- Make sure you smell good and have good hygiene. Wear cologne and/or aftershave.
- Dress nice and act confident every day. Confidence shows her you are fine.
- Surround yourself with friends and be social so she sees that you are moving on. Plus, be hard to get a hold of.
- When you talk to her, be in a relaxed, strong, positive state of mind. If you are feeling vengeful or angry she will sense it and be put off. At the same time DO NOT SEEM LIKE YOU ARE BEGGING HER TO COME BACK. This is the ultimate turn off.
- Eye contact is key. Sometimes you don't have to say anything, they can see it in your eyes. The feelings felt through exchanges of eye contact access the emotions in a way that words can't for a women. If you love her show it in your eyes.
- Begin dating other girls ASAP. If you bounce back right away and are dating a lot of pretty girls and showing her you have options she will become jealous. Dating any girls at this point is better than none, but the more physically attractive she is the more intimidating to your ex and the more likely you are to forget about your ex. WARNING: If you sleep with another girl and your ex finds out, she'll be secretly impressed if the girl is hot, but one of two things will happen: She will rush to get back together with you, or she will just try to break contact with you completely and forget about you (make a judgment call on what your ex will do.) If you know she knows then get in contact right away and when it comes up let her know discretely that you haven't forgotten about her completely and you didn't sleep with the girl just to piss off. Now it's up to her. Then again, at this point you may not really care about your ex, in which case, problem solved.
- Try to run into her. Don't try too hard but if you see her around chat her up using advice from the above points. This may be hard to do depending on how interconnected your circle of friends is and how many things you do in common. You may have to outright contact her and let her know you want to get in touch if the odds of you seeing each other otherwise are low.
- Don't push things too fast. If she broke up with you she felt like she had a good reason and it will take her awhile to swallow her pride. (The amount of time depends on the girl.) Watch for her hints and act accordingly.
- THE KISS- when given the chance, make it long and sensual. Be in the moment and let her feel the passion you have for her. Look for the opportunities and create them subtly yourself. If you sense that she is reflecting your positive, sexual vibes make the move. A kiss has a lot of power to remind her of the emotions she had for you. If possible take things to the bedroom immediately after and rock her like a hurricane. Use the time during and after sex to tell that you care about her and to encourage her to express how she feels about you.
Tips
- If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.
- Express your anger and bitterness about the breakup to someone and get past them. Feel the emotions completely then let them go, recognizing that this is only part of your life.
- Coming out of a relationship is often a good time to examine your life and make positive changes. You can now spend more time improving yourself and pursuing hobbies, so what are you doing moping around?
- Trying getting back to the person you were before the breakup. In relationships we tend to change and become people who are not attractive to our partners.
- Don't completely change your personality/lifestyle to try to get her back. In fact, in your mind the lifestyle changes you make have to be because you wanted to do them for yourself because they make you feel good and you enjoy them, not just because you want her. If you're dating girls just to impress your ex your mindset is all wrong. You are dating other girls because you are a man and you enjoy being romantically connected with women.
- DON'T just kiss her out of the blue; she'll definitely pull away.
Warnings
- Do not under any circumstances beg. If she's going to walk away don't let her take your balls with her.
- Be un-threatened by her new partner. If you're complaining about him all the time and talking about him whenever you see her she's going to want to be with him more. If she brings him up, nonchalantly change the topic. Odds are she's making an attempt to make you jealous, so don't let it phase you. Ideally it doesn't phase you because you aren't threatened and you don't really care to talk about him so you just change the topic.
- Be aware that her current boyfriend may not take to kindly to you trying to pursue her again and you may end up getting in an altercation for doing so.
- Do not under any circumstances assault her/do anything illegal out of spite/anger. It will not make you feel better and will likely have very bad consequences in the future. If you want to feel better game other girls or see the Tips section.
