Make Friends in a Certain Group

If you want to make some new friends in a group, read on!

Steps

  1. Start with the outside. How do they dress? Are they high maintenance and stylish or grungy and low maintenance? Casual? Looking like you belong in the group helps attract them to you.
  2. Move onto the inside. What kind of personalities do they have and what kinds are they missing? If they are high-class, then you need to be high-class as well. Or maybe you will bring in the laid back style to them and fill up that space. What are their interests? Chances are, same sex slumber parties and wild high school parties do not mix. The same applies with Angel vs Devil.
  3. Understand that age is a factor in this too. If you are 15 and dying to hang with those who are 20, you have much to learn. You should be very mature for your age if you want to hang around people who are older than you.
  4. Go up to these people, in a way that makes it look like you are not trying to get them. Example: If they like rock music, show off your guitar skills. If they are obsessed with anime, draw anime. But, do not show off. Be subtle. If you see someone doing something by themselves (such as drawing, playing an instrument, reading) that you are interested in, go up to them and say "Hey, you're pretty good at guitar, what kind of music do you like?", or " Wow, that's amazing, how do you do that? That looks extremely hard to draw." or "I always wanted to read that book, is it any good?" Try something to make conversation when the topic is right in front of you.
  5. Try to sit near where the kids you want to hang out with sit in school. This proximity will give you the ability to rub elbows with them. If they like you, you could be invited along. When you are talking to them, present a variety of topics. Ask them questions, but don't question them to death. Talk about what's going on around you and them. Show them you're interested.
  6. Never be afraid to talk about yourself and add in some funny stories here and there. Try to advertise yourself, again in a subtle way.
  7. Become friends and do fun things, but don't make huge plans where you have to make a lot of phone calls for times and places, etc. Just start with small things. People don't like to be overwhelmed.
  8. Make sure you don't follow them around everywhere. They might not want you to be there. If they ask you to hang out with them, that is telling you they like you and they want you to be with them.
  9. Remember when inviting them to your house, have fun things to do. If they like video games, make sure you have games. If they like movies, have movies. If they like music, have music. But never set anything up when they come over. Just do things as they come.

Tips

  • Don't talk like you are their parents: "You shouldn't be doing this and that!" Do not nag.
  • Don't go up to someone if you don't know what to say.
  • Start a conversation with them by complimenting them on their hair, shoes, keychain, etc.
  • Do something they do, or similar to what they do and be very good at it. If you're not good, chances are they won't be attracted to it.
  • Just be yourself.
  • Don't tell people your life story. It will turn them off.
  • Compliment them, but not every day on everything. It will creep them out after a while. And outside features aren't the only things to compliment, compliment their skills as well.
  • Be natural. You may not see it, but most people can see right through a fake. If their interests don't come naturally to you, then it's likely you won't fit in.
  • Laugh at their jokes, but do not laugh too much, they might think you are a fake or weird if you do. Make sure to keep a balance.

Warnings

  • Not all groups like to have their styles and personalities copied, some like originality and independence.
  • Not every group is going to accept you. If you put ALL your time and energy to be with that group, you are wasting your efforts and you might as well find a group that is more in your league.
  • Remember to be yourself, not a clone. Try to dress like them, talk like them, shave like them, have your hair like them, think like them, act like them. But remember to be yourself, for Pete's sake!
  • Remember to never, under any circumstances, remove your trousers during the initial contact stages. Public indecency wins no friends, not even those predisposed to such acts because they will grow suspicious of your seemingly drawing public attention to their previously private and sensual acts.

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