Show Someone That They Are Loved
Never take for granted that love is understood. Show and tell the people you care about exactly how you feel.
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Steps
- Do something nice for the one you love to show how much you appreciate him or her.
- Learn about the things your loved one likes. If you can't stand any of their interests, try do something neutral together.
- When your partner is telling you about his/her day, give him or her support if it's needed.
- Be the first to apologize when you have a fight.
- Avoid "always" and "never" comments, especially when used in critical comments. If you feel upset, try to calm down and consider what is the most difficult for you. When you bring these things to the attention of your partner, do it with an honest spirit of love.
- In an argument use 'I' messages, "I felt really hurt when you said..."
- Never go against the one you love, right or wrong. Always let others know there is strength in not only numbers, but in love, too. Allow yourself an opinion but don't start war over it.
Tips
- Don't bring their family into an argument; it's not their fault who their family is.
- Do not smother him/her. If you do, there is the possibility that he/she will move away from you to give themselves some space, which is normal. If you rush in to fill the gap he/she will continue to create this space. Relax and make sure that the relationship is 100% mutual and you will both be closer.
- Don't bring up old arguments, they already happened and if they are dug up it will only create a greater rift between you
- Showing love takes commitment on your part. Doing little things can mean so much to that special person in your life. Don't take them for granted.
- Be yourself! Don't try to be someone else, this could put them off you!
- Try to put off a discussion until a cooler time instead of jumping in when the adrenaline is pumping and you're feeling the most hurt, or threatened, or accused.
- Write poetry, make cookies, or buy roses for them.
- Be compassionate by showing empathy and listening about their feelings.
Warnings
- Give others the benefit of the doubt, unless you have not only suspicions, but proof of what you are saying. When you blame someone for something they didn't do, they just might go out and do it.
- Trust is a major issue in any relationship. Don't jump to conclusions and then confront him or her with your suspicions. Talk things out, calmly. Keep your composure.
- However, also be aware that most people benefit from a variety of different relationships; especially with long-time friends and close family members. Your desire should be for the welfare and happiness of your partner, as well as the long-term and rewarding relationship between you, not for the complete domination of every aspect of their lives.
- Allow your relationship to develop on its own. The best relationships don't happen as a "cookie cutter" copy of someone else. All living things change. All people change. Work towards growing with your partner, not at keeping them from growing.
- If you see your man or woman wanting to be more with his/her friends than you, do things for him or her that make him or her want to spend every moment with you only. Keep the love alive and interesting.
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