Show Your Boyfriend That You Love Him and Only Him

So, you’ve gotten past that awkward moment of professing those three little words to each other. Now, you’re wondering how to show your guy once and for all that you love only him. You can show your loyalty through everyday contact with him—both through verbal communication and through your actions. You could also prove how you feel through the way you interact with your wider social circle.

Steps

Communicating Verbally

  1. Have deep conversations with him. Mentally engaging conversations with lots of open-ended questions show you care. Speak off the cuff and from the heart. This will show him you trust him and that he can trust you.[1]
  2. Don’t keep secrets from him. If you’re hiding something, he might eventually find out and lose trust in you. Even if he doesn’t find out, your guilty conscience could eat away at you and make you feel miserable. Always be open and honest with him.[2]
  3. Don’t pick fights with him. Arguments are part of a healthy relationship, but if you start picking fights with him for no apparent reason, he might think something’s fishy. As far as he knows, a fight could give you an excuse to leave him and meet someone else. Unfaithful partners also pick fights as a result of guilt. If you love only him, don't give him a reason to think otherwise.[3]
    • Learn the rules of “fair fighting.” Speak calmly without raising your voice too much. Make sure you attack issues and not him. Give him a chance to speak and listen to what he has to say. For example, if he's done something that hurts your feelings, explain why his action was wrong without calling him names.[4]
  4. Admit when you’re wrong. This is a strong sign of honesty and loyalty. Everyone slips up, and you’re no exception. If you know you've hurt him, admit it and apologize. Afterward, don’t dwell on it or constantly revisit the subject with him. However, you should make an effort to learn from your mistake.[5]
  5. Use “honest” words. Speak in the first-person (I, me) to show that you're honest with your feelings and thoughts. When you use “I” words, you show that you're not ashamed to associate yourself with the topic. Keeping the focus on yourself also shows him that you're not trying to blame him for anything.[6]

Showing Your Loyalty without Words

  1. Stick to your normal level of affection. Don’t stop hugging or kissing him before you go home after a date. Continue to cuddle on the couch as you watch TV. Of course, it's perfectly normal for things to cool down after you've been together for a few years. However, if you suddenly stop being affectionate, he might think you're losing interest in him.[7]
  2. Don’t overdo it. Definitely be affectionate and buy him cute things on special occasions. However, you should avoid acting extremely lovey-dovey or buying him things for no reason. Showing him that he's the only one doesn't mean smothering him.[8]
  3. Show your confidence. If your guy is like most modern guys, he appreciates a smart and confident partner. When you let your confidence shine, you remind him of why he fell in love with you in the first place. You also show that you have the self-esteem that many unfaithful partners lack.[3]
    • Express your confidence by speaking up for yourself (calmly) when he’s hurt you. Being a doormat is not part of true love and loyalty.[1]
  4. Keep your promises. Unforeseen circumstances are one thing. If you had to break tonight's date because you developed a migraine after lunch, that’s understandable. On the other hand, if you repeatedly break dates because “something came up,” you'll only show him that he can't count on you.[9]
  5. Trust him. It’s okay to feel a tinge of jealousy if he looks at a potential rival. However, if he’s not flirting with others, ignoring you, or receiving suspicious texts, you shouldn’t have anything to worry about. Cheaters often accuse their partners of being unfaithful when they have no evidence. Don’t give him a reason to think you might be messing around.[10]
  6. Don’t make him feel like you’d rather be with someone else. Never forget his importance in your life. Let him know you’re happy with him. Avoid talking too much about cute celebrities or your ex. Even if he knows you’ll never meet or run into them again, talking too much about potential rivals could make him feel neglected.[11]
  7. Show him you’re thinking of him. Send him an occasional text or email professing your love. Leave sweet love notes for him from time to time. This will reassure him that you’re thinking of him and no one else while you’re apart.[12]

Socializing with Others

  1. Don’t cheat. This should go without saying. If you truly love your guy and only him, you won’t go behind his back with someone else. Remain faithful to show him he’s the only one in your heart.
  2. Don’t neglect him for social media. It’s okay to spend an hour or so tweeting about the issues of the day, but there’s also a time to call it quits. If you spend time on social media while he's right there with you, you'll make him feel unloved. Rather than checking your phone throughout your date, focus on him. Social media will still be there tomorrow.[13]
  3. Don’t flirt with his friends. This will hurt their friendship and put you under suspicion. It’s okay to offer a friendly hug after you’ve gotten to know them, but softly grazing their arms or standing too close are red flags for flirting. Behavior like this will make your guy think twice about your loyalty.[14]

Warnings

  • Don't quit your job or stop seeing your friends to please him. If he demands that you get rid of your support system, he could be abusive.

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Sources and Citations

  1. ↑ 1.0 1.1 http://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-tell-if-someone-is-cheating-2015-6/#tch-for-sudden-changes-in-behavior-6
  2. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/terry-gaspard-msw-licsw/how-keeping-secrets-can-trust_b_5656669.html
  3. ↑ 3.0 3.1 http://www.today.com/health/32-emotional-signs-he-s-cheating-t102346
  4. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/10-rules-for-friendly-fighting-for-couples/?all=1
  5. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/02/17/more-compassionate-partner_n_4784797.html
  6. ↑ http://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-tell-if-someone-is-cheating-2015-6/#sten-carefully-to-the-words-they-use-3
  7. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/corri-d-fetman/telltale-signs-of-cheater_b_4676472.html
  8. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/corri-d-fetman/telltale-signs-of-cheater_b_4676472.html
  9. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/corri-d-fetman/telltale-signs-of-cheater_b_4676472.html
  10. ↑ http://www.today.com/health/32-emotional-signs-he-s-cheating-t102346/
  11. ↑ http://verilymag.com/2015/12/showing-gratitude-thank-you-men-make-him-feel-appreciated
  12. ↑ http://slism.com/girlstalk/8-ways-to-tell-your-boyfriend-how-much-you-love-him-and-mean-it.html
  13. ↑ http://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-tell-if-someone-is-cheating-2015-6/#y-attention-to-social-media-use-5
  14. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/therese-borchard/when-does-flirting-become-cheating_b_924804.html
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