Talk to Your Crush Easily Without Hesitation

Talking to a crush is incredibly nerve wracking—the possibility of being rejected is extremely real and frightening. Instead of allowing this fear to consume you, set aside your insecurities and doubts. Take a risk and muster up the self-confidence to engage your crush in conversation.

Steps

Talking to Your Crush in Person

1. Start with a simple greeting. When you see your crush, extend a friendly greeting. Smile and make eye contact with your crush. Once you’ve locked eyes, exchange “Hellos” with your crush.
   • Don’t try to force the conversation. If your crush says “hello” and keeps walking, don’t chase after them. Your crush may not be interested in talking to you or they may be heading somewhere in a hurry.
2. Ask your crush an open ended question. After saying “Hello,” strike up a conversation by asking your crush a question. You may choose to pose a generic stock question, ask them a school related question, or tailor the question to your crush’s interests and activities.
   • Stock questions include: “How are you doing?” “What are you doing over break?” “Were you at the game last night?” “Do you work at _____?”
   • School related questions include: “Did we have homework in English class?” “Do you want to study for the test together?” “What did you think about the quiz?” “Do you need help with the Math homework?”
   • Personalized questions include: “How did you play in the game last night?” “Have you ever seen (insert band’s name) perform live?” ” “What are you doing this weekend?” “Are you going to the party?” “How was your vacation?”
3. Listen to their response. After asking the question, remain focused on your crush. Actively listen to their reply so that you can extend the conversation with another question or personal story. As you listen, make a concentrated effort to appear genuinely interested in what your crush has to say—when you remain engaged in a conversation, people are more willing to keep talking.
   • Set aside all potential distractions, like your phone and computer.
   • Make mental notes of potential follow-up questions or relevant personal stories to share.
4. Share a relevant anecdote or ask a follow-up question. After your crush has responded to your initial question, both you and your crush have the ability to carry on the conversation. If your crush asks you a question, take a moment to reply to their question and then pose another question of your own. If your crush does not ask you a question, you have three options: ask a follow-up question, share a relevant personal story, or end the conversation.
   • Continue asking each other questions, telling jokes, and exchanging stories until one or both of you decide to end the conversation.
5. Present the best version of yourself. During a conversation, the information you share about yourself is just as revealing as the questions you ask others. When talking about yourself, keep the conversation positive—negativity and bragging are unflattering qualities. You should also strive to keep the conversation balanced—give your crush a chance to talk.
   • Don't spend the entire conversation boasting about your latest accomplishments and avoid exclusively discussing your laundry list of failures. Instead, discuss your passions, your interests, and your dreams for the future. Your crush will come to see how awesome you are!
   • Asking thoughtful questions demonstrates that you are caring, considerate, and genuinely interested in your crush.
6. Communicate to your crush with body language. Body language is an extremely effective and powerful form of communication. You can use these non-verbal gestures to express your feelings and flirt with your crush.
   • Maintain eye contact with your crush. Your eyes can convey a variety of feelings, from love and lust to interest and attraction.
   • Mirror their body language and facial reactions.
   • Nod occasionally to let your crush know you are listening.
   • Initiate appropriate contact by touching your crush on the arm or shoulder occasionally.
   • Remain aware of your gestures and facial expressions. If your facial expression and gestures don't match the sentiment of your words, you run the risk of sending mixed messages to your crush.

Talking to Your Crush Via Text and Social Media Platforms

1. Text your crush. If you are extremely shy, you may feel more comfortable texting your crush instead of talking to them in person. While this form of communication is easier and less intimate, it is accompanied by its own set of rules and social nuisances.
   • Exchange numbers with your crush or get their number from a mutual acquaintance.
   • Text your crush the same day or night you receive their number.
   • Don’t text your crush at odd hours, like early in the morning or late at night.
   • Instead of texting just “Hi,” begin the conversation by asking your crush a question, telling them it was nice to see them, or asking them to make plans.
   • Don’t stress about your crush’s response time.
   • If your crush doesn't respond after the first or second text, do not try again. Your crush's phone number is privileged information. Don't abuse the privilege.
   • Use traditional grammar and spelling in your text messages.
2. Flirt with your crush on Instagram. It is possible to flirt with your crush on every social media platform, even Instagram. This form of flirting is extremely low stress and requires next to no traditional forms communication. Every few days, double click on one of their pictures to “like” the image. After a few weeks, your crush will notice that you're consistently likely their images and hopefully take the hint.
   • Don’t like every post.
   • If you are feeling bold, comment on their picture.
3. Flirt with your crush on Twitter. While you can use Twitter to post witty zingers and insightful comments about current events, you can also use this social media platform to flirt with your crush.There are several ways to catch your crush’s attention on Twitter:
   • Retweet their latest Tweet. Your crush will be flattered that you liked their clever comment or at very least be reminded that you exist.
   • Follow them on Twitter. Everyone gets a small twinge of excitement when a new person follows them on Twitter—your crush won’t be any different.
   • Direct message your crush. You can use Twitter’s Direct Message feature to talk to and flirt with your crush one-on-one.
   • Instead of retweeting and replying to every one of you crush's Tweets, be selective. Choose one or two Tweets to respond to or retweet each week.

Developing Your Self-Confidence

1. Learn to love yourself. The key to flirting and conversing with your crush is confidence. Your crush can’t see how incredible you are unless you truly believe that you are awesome. You don’t need to strive to be perfect, the most beautiful, the coolest, the smartest, or the funniest person in room—just be the best version of yourself.
   • Instead of criticizing your appearance, identify your best attributes. Write them down and repeat these positive qualities to yourself whenever you feel insecure. When you look in the mirror, you will start to notice your favorite features instead of focusing on your least favorite features.
   • Make a second list of your best characteristics. Are you a great friend, a hard worker, an awesome teacher, or a talented musician? Do you show compassion and kindness to everyone, are you willing to give others second chances, or do you have the ability to make unbiased decisions? Your best characteristics are some of your most attractive qualities.
2. Start accepting compliments. It is difficult to accept compliments when you lack confidence. You may struggle to accept that someone thinks you’re attractive or talented. Instead of thanking them, you might say, “I’m really not ____” or “Thanks, but I’m not that_____.” Give your self-confidence a boost by accepting these positive comments.
   • When you start receiving compliments from others, you will start believing that their comments are true.
   • Instead of saying “Thanks, but ____,” simply say “Thanks” and smile. As you grow more comfortable and confident, you can expand your reply.
3. Develop a list of conversation starters. It is way easier to make the excuse, “I have nothing to say,” than it is to actually talk to a crush. This excuse, however, is not valid. You don’t need to have an arsenal full of bizarre facts, funny anecdotes, insightful comments, and probing questions to talk to someone. Instead, you just need to be genuinely interested in what your crush has to say and have a few stock questions in your quiver to jumpstart the conversation. These questions may include:
   • ”What have you been up to?”
   • ”Have you seen the latest episode of _____?”
   • ”What did you think of the test?”
   • ”Do you know when the English assignment is due?”
   • ”Are you going to the game tomorrow?”
4. Don’t wait for your crush to make the first move. Our fear of rejection is often crippling and debilitating. This fear often prevents us from taking risks, like talking to our crush. Instead of allowing the fear of the unknown to control your love life, step out of your comfort zone and talk to your crush.
   • Don’t assume that if your crush really wanted to talk to you, they would start a conversation with you. Your crush may be feeling as insecure, shy, and unsure as you.
   • Instead of waiting for your crush to make the first move, take charge and talk to your crush with confidence.
   • If it turns out that your crush isn’t interested in you, at least you’ll never spend time wondering about what could have been.
5. Stay calm, cool, and collected throughout the conversation. When you talk to your crush, you want to present the best version of yourself. Speak with confidence, keep your emotions in check, and act appropriately.
   • Avoid gossiping about others
   • Try to control your nervous ticks, like biting your nails or twirling your hair
   • Don’t act pushy—if your crush isn’t interested in you, move on
   • Avoid making offensive comments
   • Do not tell lies about yourself

Tips

1. • Ask your friends or your crush's friends if he or she is single. You can also check your crush's social media sites or ask your crush.

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