Be a Memorable First Date
Sometimes people think back to a date and think their date was really interesting or funny. Do you want that person to be you? Well, if you do, read the following steps.
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Steps
Being a Memorable First Date
- Think about what makes someone come home from a first date and tell their friends, "Wow, my date was awesome! I had such a great time getting to know this person and can’t wait to see them again." While it might have been the revealing clothes they wore or maybe even their perfume, it was most likely something more than that. Things that make a first date truly memorable are often found greater in the mental rather than the physical connections.
- Be a true optimist. Try to think positively when out on a first date. Ignore the fact that you prefer to date men that are {{safesubst:#invoke:convert|convert}} or taller when this guy is only {{safesubst:#invoke:convert|convert}}. A person’s height shouldn’t determine his level of intelligence or sense of humor. Try not to pay attention to the fact that they have brown hair when you really prefer blondes. They could turn out to be one of the nicest people you’ve met in a while.
- Be a good listener. On a date, a great listener knows how to keep the conversation moving with a healthy mix of give and take. The more you focus on asking the other person questions, the more you’ll learn about them. If you allow your date to really open up and tell you about who they are, it’s quite likely that you'll get the same treatment.
- Be flexible. When it comes to a first date, one of the most difficult parts can be simply agreeing on where to go and what to do. So you don’t really love Chinese food, and they've made a reservation at a Chinese restaurant? What can you do? It’s probably not appropriate to argue on a first date. Surely there must be something simple on the menu that you could be happy with! Try to appreciate the fact that the other person took the time to arrange everything and just go along with it, if you can.
- Be yourself. This one is perhaps the most important of all the points. If you’re not being yourself on a first date, you are truly doing a disservice to the other person. They agreed to go out with you because there was something about you that called for their attention. If you seemed so funny on the phone, but on the date you are all stiff and serious, that’s not a real reflection of you. If you think of yourself as a silly and humorous person, don’t hide that from your date. Be yourself and let your true energy shine through. If your date isn’t interested in that side of you, then you’ll know it’s time to move on.
Additional Ideas
Doc:First Date Ideas,Great Conversation Topics,Conversation Starters
Tips
- A formal dinner setting is probably not the best place to go on a first date. It might be best to keep things casual at the beginning of a relationship.
- Both people on a first date are apprehensive and somewhat nervous about how they are perceived. Keep the mood light and humorous, and things will go better. You are both in the "same boat".
Warnings
- Pay attention to your personal hygiene.
- Bring enough money, debit card, or credit card. If you plan on paying for things, you don't want to be caught short.
- Wear appropriate clothing for the occasion.
